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RE: Is it possible for two subs to have a relationship? - 11/1/2008 5:36:29 PM

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Sub/sub couples can work but it isn't easy. I met a woman who inexplicably was attacted to me, though I made it clear I was a slave, and she identified as a slave as well. When we first met in person after talking on-line, she wanted to serve me, and I wanted to serve her. She would not accept my submission and service, and I felt uneasy accepting her submission. It was awkward and really didn't work for either of us.

I suppose the best thing would have been for both of us to serve a Dom, a Domme, or, better yet, a Dom/Domme couple. It never worked for us, and it can be difficult to handle watching your lover being screwed by a Dom, but if it could work out, that might be fun and the best outcome.

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RE: Is it possible for two subs to have a relationship? - 11/3/2008 5:53:32 AM

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Just found this thread a little late but id like to speak of my relationship which is exactly the same situation as the originalposter i hope i dont come across as hijacking the thread as i am not but im just tryig to show the similarities to your situation.

I have always been sub my whole life but when i first met with my partner i was entertaining to the idea to switch with her - originally being with her me being dominant to her was natural so we went with it.

However as time went on my submissive desires(extremely strong in me) grew - and grew-
a side note i am also comfortabe with being poly. she is totally mono
i am comforttable with being bi she is homophobically straight

we started off fine but because my sub desires have grown i have wanted to play as a sub o occasions too- unfortunately she simply wasnt into it and hasnt got domme tendencies- though she has tried several times i am very strong willed yet crave someone getting inside my head which she cant really do-

we are both very similar in our submisssive desires - almost identical in fact but unfortunately we both want the same thing-

its really hard because we both need someone to domme us but due to her mono ways having another come in is out of the question as well as another domme playing with me though she says i can i know she is gutted if i do.

I think that it can work but oth sides have to be able to wan to please the other partner and do the top thing or at least look to the ourside of the relationship to gett heir needsmet as if they dont get met you will in time suffer

I feel for you because i know exactly what you are going through at the moment

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RE: Is it possible for two subs to have a relationship? - 11/3/2008 5:09:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

I'm not sure I'm understanding the last part of your post. It seems you have been in one role for too long and want to take on the other role? Are you talking about in the D/s part or topping/bottoming part?

to be honest, i don't know. i'm still trying to figure out who i am and what i want. i'm finding that i do love being mistress. i love the look in his eyes and the complete adoration. i'm also finding a sadistic side coming out at times. maybe i can be his mistress. but a huge part of me wants to be dominated. i want to submit. i want a strong dominant to control me completely. perhaps i'm so fixated on it because i don't get it often or to the degree i really need.

p.s. this thread really does belong in the switch forum. my mistake.

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RE: Is it possible for two subs to have a relationship? - 11/3/2008 5:21:16 PM

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Have you thought about finding a dom or domme for you BOTH to serve? It would have to be someone who is sensitive to your relationship with each other and is prepared to let that flourish.

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is it that easy to simply say goodbye if you're in love?

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RE: Is it possible for two subs to have a relationship? - 11/3/2008 9:42:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: AStudyInScarlet
is it that easy to simply say goodbye if you're in love?

My reply: I don't think so. I can't imagine so. Surely isn't for me. (And, now I have the old Dokken song,"It's Not Love" going through my head just for the insanity factor)

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RE: Is it possible for two subs to have a relationship? - 11/4/2008 4:05:43 AM

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both parties have tobe open to this happening though

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RE: Is it possible for two subs to have a relationship? - 11/4/2008 11:27:00 PM

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personally, i say you take a good hard look at the relationship
if it is love, real love, then what you need to do is find a better outlet for your submission than forcing someone to take the role. try looking into a professional dom, someone who will let you simultaniously live out your fantasies without imposing on your relationship.

two subs can be together, and can love, but subs need someone to dom them, you either need to work together to find a way to satisfy that need either with eachother or with help.

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