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RE: THE SUB DUMPED THE DOM TODAY ;-( - 10/22/2008 4:09:09 PM   
philosophy


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ORIGINAL: cbpzep6

I guess ill stay Vanilla for a long time it was sure easier I tell ya


...couple more posts and your vanilla days will be over

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RE: THE SUB DUMPED THE DOM TODAY ;-( - 10/22/2008 4:11:19 PM   
girlivy


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ORIGINAL: cbpzep6

I guess ill stay Vanilla for a long time it was sure easier I tell ya

I am sorry to hear of your hurt, and have much empathy.
As long as staying vanilla works for you, then have at it.  Eaiser sometimes does not constitute better for oneself.  Why not use this time to look inward, and redirect your energy to yourself?   Is this your first Dom/sub dynamic?  You stated that you are "still learning the ropes". Have you taken the time in defining the ropes that suit YOU best?  What was your motivation in choosing this Dom, and what would you do differently next time?  Does the pope really poop in the woods? J/K on that last question, give yourself time to heal, I know it's not easy.
*hugs*
Many blessings to you for strength
Cheers!

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RE: THE SUB DUMPED THE DOM TODAY ;-( - 10/22/2008 4:50:31 PM   
tweedydaddy


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Status: offline 		Well done You! Too many wannbe Doms in this world!

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RE: THE SUB DUMPED THE DOM TODAY ;-( - 10/22/2008 5:08:01 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: kittinSol

quote:

ORIGINAL: cbpzep6
I dumped my dom today he was full of shit and not the good kind .


I just KNOW I'll regret asking this... but what kind of shit is the good kind ?



(I was juuuuuust about to.....)

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RE: THE SUB DUMPED THE DOM TODAY ;-( - 10/22/2008 5:11:42 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Ease up.  It was only a couple of weeks ago that you were posting that you couldn't find anyone.  The pool of homosexual/bi Dom men is not large, so it will take a while to meet your match.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: THE SUB DUMPED THE DOM TODAY ;-( - 10/22/2008 6:49:09 PM   
cbpzep6


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titleAndStar(673,0,0,false,"","")
you must have me confused with another sub sorry

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RE: THE SUB DUMPED THE DOM TODAY ;-( - 10/22/2008 7:09:28 PM   
Owner59


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Status: offline 		Men!

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RE: THE SUB DUMPED THE DOM TODAY ;-( - 10/23/2008 7:07:28 AM   
chamberqueen


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From: Kalamazoo, MI
Status: offline 		cb, good for you for getting out when you knew it was time.  That can be a difficult move and too many subs keep making excuses for bad behavior on the part of the Dom.

Yes, it takes time to find the right one and then more time to build up trust.  No one should expect immediate trust with the first email or chat. 

Just remember, the things of most value take work - they are rarely handed to you on  a silver platter.  Keep your eyes wide open and never lose hope.  The right one is out there.  You just need to do some sifting to find the gold.


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RE: THE SUB DUMPED THE DOM TODAY ;-( - 10/23/2008 7:20:03 AM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: cbpzep6

DarkSteven

titleAndStar(673,0,0,false,"","")
you must have me confused with another sub sorry


Oops.  I apologize then.


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"You women....

The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: THE SUB DUMPED THE DOM TODAY ;-( - 10/23/2008 8:05:42 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		cb and bear quit it. Cannot either of you see the forest because of the trees.  cb meet bear. bear meet cb.  What would you people do without me.

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RE: THE SUB DUMPED THE DOM TODAY ;-( - 10/23/2008 8:20:34 AM   
UncleNasty


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Status: offline 		After my divorce (not really a divorce as we weren't married, but were together 9 years, owned property in common, etc.) initially I took the view that my next would be my last one - the illusive lifetime partner, or descriptions of such similar effect. After some months with that perspective I came to realize it was not the best. It put a lot of pressure on myself, and the potential, from the get go. Now really, who gets it all right the first time? It simply wasn't realistic.

I've taken a different view. I consider my relationships now to be "practice." The pressure to get everything perfect, or for them to do same, is gone. Mistakes are allowed, as are new ideas, approaches and dynamics. It all becomes more flexible, and that creates more opportunities to find solutions. Where there are solutions there are no problems.

Uncle Nasty



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RE: THE SUB DUMPED THE DOM TODAY ;-( - 10/23/2008 8:55:42 AM   
cjan


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Status: offline 		I like the sound of that. It would make a good nick for someone. SubDumpedDom. It sounds good on a Chinese menu too


< Message edited by cjan -- 10/23/2008 8:56:30 AM >

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RE: THE SUB DUMPED THE DOM TODAY ;-( - 10/23/2008 8:59:22 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		As strange as it sounds, I prefer to hear something like this than the rants and raves of how someone is staying with their Master even though they are grossly mistreated because they are a slave.
It happens, not every reationship works out, and sometimes dominants thing that the D they give themselves is actually a blank check to be an asshole. Kudos to you for recognizing a dead end and moving on.
Will you jump back in right away, no. Course not, most people dont. However, you will eventually get reinvolved with the confidence that you can walk away if you see the situation spiraling and knowing that even as a sub you still deserve to be happy in the relationship. Think of it as a lesson learned, and not one ot be repeated.

Good luck
DV

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RE: THE SUB DUMPED THE DOM TODAY ;-( - 10/23/2008 9:01:59 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		To the OP:
It is sad when relationships end, even if it is for the best... hang in there and keep trusting your heart.

And by the way, we tend to say Domme if we are talking about a woman dominant.  Dom is for the Manly dominants. 

I believe we have a semantics problem. 

Here to save the grammar day!
sunshine, grammar goddess.

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