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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 5:20:14 AM   
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i prefer to have stimulating conversations about anything and everything sans the mentioning of sex ... call it boring but people who solely discuss sex are the ones i find boring. plus discussing about cum and penis in public is not ladylike - that's how i was raised.

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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 5:20:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: steelman1

Hi everyone, this question is mainly directed to the ladies, but men feel free to jump in if you got a good point.

I was surfing this site and thought to myself, WOW THERE ARE A LOT OF HORNY KINKY WOMEN OUT THERE! In society, most women seem to be discusted with the mention of cum, or pernis, or cunciligus. So my question is, do women on this site pretend to be discusted in public about sex, when they really want. And second, how can you find out a woman is kinky in public. Lastly, who are more perverted men or women behind closed doors. My bet is women are more perverted.




Those concepts have never disgusted me....

If a stranger approached me about those concepts I would be disgusted alright, with the person who did that.

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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 7:43:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: steelman1

Hi everyone, this question is mainly directed to the ladies, but men feel free to jump in if you got a good point.

I was surfing this site and thought to myself, WOW THERE ARE A LOT OF HORNY KINKY WOMEN OUT THERE! In society, most women seem to be discusted with the mention of cum, or pernis, or cunciligus. So my question is, do women on this site pretend to be discusted in public about sex, when they really want. And second, how can you find out a woman is kinky in public. Lastly, who are more perverted men or women behind closed doors. My bet is women are more perverted.




Those concepts have never disgusted me....

If a stranger approached me about those concepts I would be disgusted alright, with the person who did that.
Yep, the conversation in a lot of cases would go like....Hello? 911? I have some freak in my face talking about his penis, cum, and cunnilingus.....


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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 7:52:58 AM   
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Perverted?  Well, let's just say that this little mouse is as pure as the driven ~~on~~ snow.

My wife likes to say that she's "pure as the driven slush" :)

@OP: Has it occurred to you that in our culture, men are awarded for being sexual and women are castigated? Looking at how we still treat sexuality between the two genders, it's no surprise to me that men talk about it more openly than women.

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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 8:01:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		Might I suggest hanging out with a different sort of woman? I mean, in my travels through the BDSM community, I've met plenty of women who were quite capable in the everyday business world, yet were still "broadcasting it" where their sexual interests lay. True, not everyone can spend as much of their RL in wild latex fashions as, say, Midori, but I think we all pretty much "test the bars of our cages" on a regular basis. The result being that we all live as "out" as we can comfortably be.


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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 8:13:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am extremely perverted in public and in private... the only difference is which perversions show.

In public, I have no issue showing my fanciful hair colors that change with my mood or the seasons, and not a care in the world about displaying my ink and steel. I wear outre clothing without a thought except for whether I find the look attractive on me. I am in an affectionate same-gender intimate relationship that I have no problem having people see me in. I am 'out' to just about the entire world, including parents, co-workers, etc., and make no apologies for it.

In private, I'm prone to prefer minimalist dress, especially in the luxury of the semi-tropical climate where I live. I will pull out things that I wouldn't carry around every day -- my crop, small floggers, etc., -- on occasion, but even then, it's more for specific purpose than 'just because'.

In either public or private I am -very- private about my sexuality. I am a sexual ascetic, and most people don't understand that, so I don't talk about it. Most people assume that I am sexual with my Darling, especially as we've been together for 10 years, but I'm not -- I just don't discuss it, so people assume. People -also- assume that, because my current primary partner is female, that I am lesbian. The reality is that I am a true bisexual, but that it is irrelevant from a sexual perspective since I have chosen asceticism and re-direction rather than sexual expression for myself.

I think that it is impossible to generalize about women's sexuality. Personally, I find people, male or female, who are blatantly gross about their sexual exploits to be pitiful and disgusting. Discrete PDAs in public are plenty for me. Kissing is fine -- licking one's companion's butt by sticking one's tongue so far down hir throat that it passes through the intestines and comes out the other side is over-the-top for me no matter -which- of the 9 Kinsey genders is doing it. When I was younger, I used to think some of it was pitiful and -funny-... but over the years it's lost the humor factor for me. Now it's just gross.

If someone feels comfortable displaying all hir perversions out on the street for any old Joe to see or hear... good for hir. I may even ask questions if there's a new one I haven't seen before... but though I have my visible perversions, and have no qualms about them, sex acts aren't something that I'll talk about anywhere with just anyone.


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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 8:15:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		As a landlady in a pub i come across more than my fair share of sex talk. In the pub environment to state you are offended by their choice of words, topic only makes it ten times worse. Spew a line of outrageous perverted sex talk back at them though and they soon shut up.
Would i talk like that in the company of my parents, the local vicar, a group of children? Probably not but it has nothing to do with being lady like or not.
 
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Just becouse females often do not discuss their sex life does not mean they don't have one, or enjoy one greatly. It simply means their parents managed to teach them manners.

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plus discussing about cum and penis in public is not ladylike - that's how i was raised.


I don't know about anyone else but i wasn't taught when it was good manners to talk about sex never mind when it was good manners to talk crudely about sex. Being lady like went out with the ark.
For me its about deciding when it is appropriate or not. It will never be lady like to talk in this manner and very rarely would it be good manners. It is however either necessary or entirely appropriate at times.
 
Are men or women more perverted? Who knows, could be either.
As a side note i'm not perverted as far as i'm concerned i'm normal. I'm not particularly kinky, i'm normal. Now i know most people would disagree with my self evaluation there but who really is the judge of how perverted or kinky we are. Just as who judges just how explicit sex talk needs to be before it is bad manners or unlady like.
 



 
 

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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 8:26:48 AM   
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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 8:42:41 AM   
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you meet the wrong females (or be nicer :P ). My subs always enjoyed what I enjoyed in public or behind doors...mostly because you like eachother...then it comes almost normally.
(or just order them :P )

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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 9:21:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		While i have yet to see a pernis or to experience cunciligus i know plenty of women, myself included who are openly kinky.

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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 9:42:49 AM   
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ORIGINAL: steelman1

Hi everyone, this question is mainly directed to the ladies, but men feel free to jump in if you got a good point.

I was surfing this site and thought to myself, WOW THERE ARE A LOT OF HORNY KINKY WOMEN OUT THERE! In society, most women seem to be discusted with the mention of cum, or pernis, or cunciligus. So my question is, do women on this site pretend to be discusted in public about sex, when they really want. And second, how can you find out a woman is kinky in public. Lastly, who are more perverted men or women behind closed doors. My bet is women are more perverted.




From my perspective it's not that women in society are not horny and kinky - my god, look at all the ads, the music videos, the grinding etc. It's just that I don't tend to think that women and men have the same ways of being kinky and expressing their primal feelings. Women are taught to be seductive, enticing, not to be vulgar, but inviting. Now once a couple know each other better, a woman may use expressions that the man enjoys hearing. I don't know if it's because that's what necessarily is a turn on for her. I know for me, I find very direct remarks about particular parts of my body quite humiliating. At the same time I know he likes it, so it's just a difference between us. I feel more comfortable being told I'm pretty or I look hot than - well - I'm not going to say it here. LOL.

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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 10:37:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: steelman1
I was surfing this site and thought to myself, WOW THERE ARE A LOT OF HORNY KINKY WOMEN OUT THERE!
This site is for the wow there are kinky horny women on this site.  And I bet there are as many horny women at the clubs you go to.... look at the way they dress, all to seduce someone and show their best assets off.  Surely you have noticed??


In society, most women seem to be discusted with the mention of cum, or pernis, or cunciligus.
In society and in companies where people must make a living there is a  law against sexual harassment.
Generalizing most women seem to be disgusted with the mention of cum ~~  do tell me; when was the last time you went to one of your clubs and discussed with a woman, showing alot of cleavage, her round hard ass in a very short skirt, anything to do with "cum, pernis or cunciligus?"
Did you use those words?? If so what reaction did you get?
 
 


So my question is, do women on this site pretend to be discusted in public about sex, when they really want. Most women on this site enjoy sex, want a bit of bdsm, have fetishes, are looking for a SSC kinky outlet or are into a D/s relationship involving some sort of bdsm.
 
Comparing us to university techno women looking for an easy lay who probably don't use the terms "cum, pernis or cunciligus" is really a silly thing to do.

And second, how can you find out a woman is kinky in public.
I have no idea since I am introverted. 
Try spanking the ass in a short skirt showing lots of cleavage in your face as she grinds her ass into your dick at the clubs?  Whisper in her ear if she enjoys your hard dick and would she like to suck it?

Lastly, who are more perverted men or women behind closed doors. My bet is women are more perverted.
You are young and probably haven't been accused of sexual harassment yet.
Take a stroll through Victoria Secrets and graze your eyes upon the women buying sexy underwear and realize they know this gets them somewhere.
 
As to your bet that more women are perverted...start a poll on myspace or in the off disscusion topic and use your own judgement.
I bet you are a bit perverted and thus wondering if you can find someone who has your perversions!
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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 11:52:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

personally, i don't have sex on the brains 24/7. 

i prefer to have stimulating conversations about anything and everything sans the mentioning of sex ... call it boring but people who solely discuss sex are the ones i find boring. plus discussing about cum and penis in public is not ladylike - that's how i was raised.


Exactly.


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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 12:23:12 PM   
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Because we can be! I'm way naughty outside in public now. But I use to just be that way behind closed doors!

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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 1:12:41 PM   
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I have tons of male friends and none of them have ever been completely open with the world about their sex lives. Are they disgusted that their girlfriends or lovers like to do the freaky deed when the kids are in bed? No, they simply show respect for everyone else and keep their mouths shut.

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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 1:31:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: steelman1

Hi everyone, this question is mainly directed to the ladies, but men feel free to jump in if you got a good point.

I was surfing this site and thought to myself, WOW THERE ARE A LOT OF HORNY KINKY WOMEN OUT THERE! In society, most women seem to be discusted with the mention of cum, or pernis, or cunciligus. So my question is, do women on this site pretend to be discusted in public about sex, when they really want. And second, how can you find out a woman is kinky in public. Lastly, who are more perverted men or women behind closed doors. My bet is women are more perverted.




I for one am not disgusted by sex, I AM disgusted by people who feel the need in public or private to use gutter terms for things or as Miss Tress stated---do not respect that there is a time and place to discuss certain things, just because I am a Domina does not mean I have to tolerate what I define as someone else's lack of class or dignity.
 
As for who is more perverted--on what day? under what arrange of planets? what month? at what age? I don't think we can generalize like that.
 
How can you tell a woman is kinky in public? When she tells the police officer who just wrote her a ticket, to assume the position. 

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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 1:38:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well I was brought up to not only fear and avoid sex, but to you know- keep it behind closed doors once you're married. When I got older and discovered my sexuality, I still didn't believe I should walk around humping mens legs. Also, most women are brought up to have manners, be classy and discreet so walking around advertising their sex lives usually doesn't come naturally. I don't know why this wouldn't be obvious...On top of that, with at least the men I've dated, they want a "girl they can bring home to mom, and a whore in the bedroom."

I am pretty kinky behind closed doors, but with men some have been a LOT more kinky, some haven't. I don't really go by gender on that one. With billions of people walking the earth, I think it's a case by case basis and not easily summed up. Why is your guess women? You didn't give a reason, and you don't seem to even understand seperating talking dirty from everyday life so I'm curious about your answer.

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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 2:29:51 PM   
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and why are people not perverted in the office, and why dont they wear latex to eat at the dinner table, and why dont they walk around with leads round their necks to church

Oh thats right, context, what do you want, people running around telling everyone what they are into? hmm seems a bit disrespectful to me.

If someone wanders up to me to talk about oral or anal or indeed anything i will probably tell them to bog off or ill scare them shitless by some story of a scene ive done. Its no ones business but mine, sure I talk about sex to people, im certainly not disgusted by it, in fact I dont even agree with your assertation that women are. There are times that its innapropriate though and i guess thats where disgust comes in, mind its not disgust with the act but with the person.

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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 3:30:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: steelman1

Hi everyone, this question is mainly directed to the ladies, but men feel free to jump in if you got a good point.

I was surfing this site and thought to myself, WOW THERE ARE A LOT OF HORNY KINKY WOMEN OUT THERE! In society, most women seem to be discusted with the mention of cum, or pernis, or cunciligus. So my question is, do women on this site pretend to be discusted in public about sex, when they really want.

For this cumdrinking cocksucker, i would have to say no i do not pretend to be anything i am not.
Is there a time and place for things... Yes, other wise my knees would have shoes fitted onto them.

And second, how can you find out a woman is kinky in public. Lastly, who are more perverted men or women behind closed doors. My bet is women are more perverted

How can you find out if a women is kinky in public?  Hrmmmm going out on a limb here, but my guess would be to get to know her and build trust and respect.
  Depends what you seek really. 
As far as who is more perverted,  6 of one and half dozen of the other i would imangine.




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RE: Why are women only perverted behind doors??? - 10/23/2008 3:53:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		i believe it goes back to the conservative notion that for women, sex is for producing babies and for men its for pleasure. women are taught at a young age that sex is reproduction and shouldnt be spoken of in public while guys are not taught this. i believe this has lead to more women being behind closed doors on the topic of sex because it is inappropriate for them to want to enjoy sex and talk about it openly. just a thought.

myself, depending on the situation and who i am with, i am open about sex and sexuality, but living in a conservative area of the country where sex shouldnt happen out of marriage....its best not to talk too much about it to just anyone. if asked point blank though i will be honest and not act disgusted because im not.

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