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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/24/2008 5:22:40 AM   
SomethingCatchy


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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici
 
Don't use this to hide from reality--it will haunt you like a dog.


*snort*

Very important- have self respect, do not compromise your self respect, and never listen when someone might try to tell you you're worthless.

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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/24/2008 5:53:14 AM   
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Damn it Rover, next you are going to tell me that Scooter is not really God!


There's no telling who each of us might worship.  :)
 
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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/24/2008 10:42:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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Don't tell your Mistress she hits like a girl.


and don't ask them to stop hitting you in the same place

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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/24/2008 11:28:57 AM   
DelilahDeb


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http://www.lovethatworks.org/
http://www.ncsfreedom.org/

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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/24/2008 1:52:45 PM   
MrHarsh


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Status: offline 		Know yourself.  You cannot possibly have your needs met until you understand what those needs are.

Find a mentor.  Everyone needs someone with experience that they can trust.  Finding such a person can be difficult because most people put their own interests first.  However, we all need people who can look at things from "outside" and give an unbiased, honest appraisal.

In the mean time, ask lots of questions.  Read the boards.

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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/24/2008 2:37:39 PM   
IrishMist


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ORIGINAL: StarmanJr

Hey there.

So, lets say one's new to the whole scene.  What useful nuggets of information or wise anecdotes would ya tell em?  Any useful information, websites, etc?


My first question to you would be

what kind of information...precisely...are you looking for? Munches, clubs, hook ups, etc.....or something more in -depth?

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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/24/2008 2:55:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: StarmanJr
So, lets say one's new to the whole scene.  What useful nuggets of information or wise anecdotes would ya tell em?  Any useful information, websites, etc?



  • Things get saner the more real world you are. What I see in person at my local MaST meeting is generally pretty understandable. Things get weirder on collarme. Things get WAY WAY weirder when you go into online only places like SecondLife, chat rooms, etc.
  • There is no BDSM role that justified being an asshole.
  • Just because you see me do something like command my wife to kneel and blow me, doesn't mean that you understood the actual exchange that just happened or that you can do it in your relationship.


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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/24/2008 3:45:27 PM   
stella41b


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Don't get caught up in the fire
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Using the search function won't lead to destruction

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Don't get caught up in the fire
Using the search function won't lead to destruction

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inspired by Billy Joel

< Message edited by stella41b -- 10/24/2008 3:46:41 PM >

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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/24/2008 3:58:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: justgemmie

quote:

ORIGINAL: thishereboi

QR

Don't tell your Mistress she hits like a girl.


and don't ask them to stop hitting you in the same place


OHHH yeah, this is huge, only had one sub say that--he still carries the marks!


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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/24/2008 4:11:33 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		as always, Stella... BRILLIANT!

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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/24/2008 5:42:03 PM   
yourMissTress


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Status: offline 		OMG, stella, you ROCK!!!  That is one of my favorite Billy Joel songs too!

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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/24/2008 8:39:57 PM   
proudsub


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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/24/2008 11:58:11 PM   
robertolapiedra


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Status: offline 		Hello StarmanJr. Along with the usual pearls of wisdom you may find here just remember that it is supposed to be fun. A lot of people get into trouble when the fun goes out of the lifestyle because of the holy quest for uberness. Good luck, go slow and stay happy. RL.

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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/25/2008 6:56:51 AM   
Beneathhumanity


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Status: offline 		I notice many newbies tend to romance about either submitting and dominating too much that they can't see what really going on too well, try to be able to see clearly what may happen with each situation in meeting someone. Also follow your instincts, if you feel something is wrong with the person and you can't push the feeling away, there most likely is something wrong;)

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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/25/2008 9:16:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

OMG, stella, you ROCK!!!  That is one of my favorite Billy Joel songs too!


god... I am soooooooooo out of it... I didn't get the post   and I still don't get it... Heard of Billy Joel... a singer I believe... don't remember any more than that

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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/25/2008 9:33:04 AM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		Stella!!! Brilliant!!! Way to bring us all great smiles this morning!!! Awesome!! Woot!

This definitely calls for the dancing banana!!!





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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/25/2008 9:35:54 AM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

OMG, stella, you ROCK!!!  That is one of my favorite Billy Joel songs too!


god... I am soooooooooo out of it... I didn't get the post   and I still don't get it... Heard of Billy Joel... a singer I believe... don't remember any more than that


Click on a few of the videos here and it's very likely you'll recognize him.

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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/25/2008 11:55:03 AM   
yourMissTress


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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

quote:

ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

OMG, stella, you ROCK!!!  That is one of my favorite Billy Joel songs too!


god... I am soooooooooo out of it... I didn't get the post   and I still don't get it... Heard of Billy Joel... a singer I believe... don't remember any more than that



That particular song is "We Didn't Start the Fire" and it's listed on the link that NuevaVida posted.



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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/25/2008 12:44:15 PM   
JustDarkness


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Status: offline 		lol  IS it a hint I was put so close to the word "trouble" in the song..lol...love it though.

back to the tips;
-Don't believe everything you read
-Advise from a new person can have as much vallue as that of a veteran

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RE: Tips for a newbie - 10/26/2008 12:10:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici


SSC still applies, embracing BDSM isn't a condom against disease.
 

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