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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 3:20:45 PM

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I am posting this to gather the opinion of a Master. I am an owned slave in a 2 year LDR who has made a mistake and misunderstood a rule that was given to me by my Master. I had gone out of town to be with family and was told to keep my Master informed of what I was doing, now I have traveled in the past and only have had to ask permission and keep Master informed on my whereabouts if I left the house. So when Master told me to keep him informed, I did just that, when I left the house I asked permission before I went if I was able to go and then when given permission, I made sure to inform Master of my whereabouts when away from the home.

Once I got back in town to my own home, I was surprised to have Master tell me that I had not followed his rules and disrepected him and would be punished. Since this time, Master has banned me from leaving the house to go anywhere other than work while he coordinates my punishment. I am to update him every hour as to what I am doing when I am in the house on punishment.

My punishment will be that I will have to watch my Master be intimate with another woman. This is something that Master has promised would never happen as this is a HUGE insecurity for me as I was cheated on in my vanilla marriage and so I have huge insecurities about this.

I guess what I am asking, is this is a fair punishment that I should just suck up and accept for my wrong doing or is this the point where I have to weigh that this is deliberate meanness and something that my Master has now lied about to me as he said this would never happen.

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He wants to fuck someone else and has grabbed onto an "opportunity". Run away. Run far far away.

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 3:22:34 PM

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Point taken. I prefer that I end it before it gets to the point of devastating.

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 3:25:43 PM

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Oh for fuck's sake already...

Your being "punished" for not doing anything wrong in accordance with a completely asinine, pointless, and fantasy driven rule in order to provide an excuse for a man to fulfill a sexual fantasy that will probably drive a wedge between the two of you and doesn't even have anything to do with the alleged offense!

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 3:33:50 PM

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Don't blame everything on the master guy - you picked him, you're there because you wanted to be. You've clearly picked someone who has no respect for you - so you need to take this as a positive, and use it as an incentive for you to go out and find a dom who will help you grow, and be fair to you.

In general, I concur with others that the "rule setting" is a ridiculous way of domming, or mastering - in my opinion just as stupid as insisting on being called "Sir" or "Master". I tend to think that men who do that stuff, who read their sub's email, what have you, are intrinsically insecure males devoid of creativity - the telling thing is that they all do exactly the same stuff. I am a controller too, but to let you do detail reports of your day - what would I get out of that? How do these types even have time for that?

Enough of a rant, get out of there, I hope you have learned what the danger signals are that you need to look out for. And remember: he broke the rules by planning to bang another chick, so the rules (all of them) no longer apply, that is always the deal. You are free.

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 3:34:39 PM

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How do you REALLY feel, MR?

OP- I agree with those who say he is just making shit up so he can blame you while he does something he knows is going to hurt you very deeply.
Dump the asshole.

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 3:36:36 PM

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We all have our soft and hard limits, doms and subs alike. Watching him being intimate with another woman is a hard limit for you. Being under punishment is no excuse for not respecting your hard limit.

Just my .02

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 3:44:33 PM

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ORIGINAL: stilllearning98

I dont beleive i broke any rules because i have treated this time exactly like i have treated the other times that i have gone to visit family. i do accept some punishment for not asking for clarification of what keep him informed meant.

i dont agree with your accepting whatever punishment, i beleive the punishment should fit the crime. i think if he has repeatedly told me i am and will forever be the only one for him that to deliberatly use this as punishment is unforgiveable.

I think you are correct in what you say here. Sounds like a dumb so-called punishment that has nothing to do with the so-called disobedience.
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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 3:46:07 PM

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I think that the idea of the punishment fitting the crime is more realistic when in the setting of a parent with their child than in the BDSM lifestyle. It may be a noble ideal, but if your punishment for unknowingly doing something wrong is to have to face your absolute worst fear in a relationship then it does seem overblown. While not trying to excuse your actions I think you have every right to ask why he chose this particular punishment, and whether it has been something that he has been planning for quite a while. He answer - even if it is to refuse to speak about it - should say volumes about him as a person.

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 4:17:45 PM

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**fr**

sounds like you've made up your mind, honey - and I believe you've made the right decision. Speaking (as most of the respondents have) from experience, you're worth ten thousand times more than this tosser - walk away and don't look back.

Treat it as a learning experience and promise yourself you'll use this experience to weed out the losers in future.

Good luck!

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 4:49:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: stilllearning98
i really feel empty with a good Master, maybe that is why i have stayed so long

a Freudian slip, perhaps?

No, you really feel empty with a bad master. And he does not deserve to have his title capped. Run away before you invest more time and energy into this.

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 4:50:50 PM

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Oh for fuck's sake already...

Exactly.

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 5:01:21 PM

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He must have been giddy with excitement when he saw the opportunity to twist the situation around into something he could use to justify screwing somebody else.

I truly hope you leave him at the curbside with the rest of what lands there

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 5:03:11 PM

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I can't believe she's going to dump him face-to-face. He wouldn't get that much from me. But then, I can be quite the passive-agressive bitch when prodded hard enough.

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 5:06:48 PM

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yeah, my advice would be drop him an email and dump him.. that's all he deserves. A phone call if she absolutely MUST, but given his behavior (which strikes me as emotionally/psychologically abusive) might escalate into physical abuse if she does it face to face.

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 5:06:51 PM

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I didn't post it, but I had a vision of her playing along with his fantasy, and when his ass was in the air screwing the woman, to shoot rubber bands at it, or throw a pissed off tomcat on him, or shove a toilet plunger up his ass and walk out, lol.

But it was only a vision

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 5:12:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: windchymes

I didn't post it, but I had a vision of her playing along with his fantasy, and when his ass was in the air screwing the woman, to shoot rubber bands at it, or throw a pissed off tomcat on him, or shove a toilet plunger up his ass and walk out, lol.

But it was only a vision

*hiss*

*spit*

ROOWRRRRR!!

Can I watch??

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 5:14:12 PM

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As a Dominant I would never use this type of punishment, particularly since he knows you have issues with it from your past. I think if he does go through with this he maybe doing more harm than good.

Have you considered that he might just want to sleep with someone else and use your punishment as an excuse to get away with it?

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 5:22:37 PM

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If he is going to give rules ..rules that can change without negoation...their right, you better brush up on your ESP. If my boss tried that I'd call him on it..must be why I'm only in mid-magement..lol

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 5:32:33 PM

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ORIGINAL: windchymes

I didn't post it, but I had a vision of her playing along with his fantasy, and when his ass was in the air screwing the woman, to shoot rubber bands at it, or throw a pissed off tomcat on him, or shove a toilet plunger up his ass and walk out, lol.

Oh windchymes, i think you are correct, I think this is my time to get even...let him get naked and start the fucking in the hotel room and then it is me who is in control, in control to pick up his and her clothes and walk out the door...now who will be laughing...

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RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters - 10/26/2008 5:40:16 PM

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I agree with ::Glances around:: Everyone else. Being your Master didn't just break a promise to you, he went by a limit that you set,it sounds like he was just trying to take advantage in order to get something being he knew you were far. My advice is dump him, remain single for a bit and find someone who deserves your submission.

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