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subs that cheat on their doms - 10/27/2008 5:29:13 PM

Huntertn

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Just once I want to hear from the Doms and Dommie's about subs that cheat on them.[..cause I really hate to think only Doms cheat] Lets hear if from the other side folks..time to be fair again
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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/27/2008 5:44:56 PM

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Oh god, now it's become "dommies"

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/27/2008 5:57:08 PM

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I always think of a chubby sweaty guy named "Dom" who hangs out in the back room of a corner food market wearing a stained "wife beater" t-shirt and who looks at internet poRn and wanks off to sweet young porn models and who has nicotine stained fingers and wears old cheap velcro sneakers and lives in his mothers basement when I hear the abbreviation "Dom". Call me weird. LOL.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/27/2008 6:07:17 PM

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you're wierd :D

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/27/2008 7:54:00 PM

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quote:

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you're wierd :D

x2, but at least it was a very vivid visual

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/27/2008 8:04:17 PM

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Yes, in the interest of fairness, as the OP said... if we're subbies, then conversely, the other side is dommies.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/27/2008 8:26:51 PM

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there is a difference between "cheating" in the vanilla world and fucking someone else if you are in a m-s relationship.
I as her Master have the right to fuck anyone I wish with out her permission, or even telling her.
NOW the catch to that statement.....

I have absolutely no desire TO fuck anyone else as what she provides me is far and away better then just "fucking".

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/27/2008 8:30:10 PM

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I don't know whether I'm a dom or dommie, but in any case a sub who cheated on me would be no longer my sub.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/27/2008 8:42:22 PM

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Now Now, we all know that any self respecting Dom that makes a posts about their submissive or previous submissive cheating on them runs the risk of looking like a "Dummie" I mean.. "Dommie"... is that spelled with a lower case instead "dommie". I wonder what if people started using dropped case lettering? you know with the starting letter being slightly lower at the start of the word. Would that somehow making things even more meaningful.

The reason why so many sub/slaves make post about cheating Doms/Masters is the fact they pull out their mighty MasterCard and use that as a cheap excuse to break thier own agreements, mislead, lie, be deceptive, and demand that a sub/slave must put up with it, because it pleases their Master/Dom.

On the other hand, many Doms/Master will pimp their slutty girls out or give their subbie slut slaves permission to fuck others, or be greedy control freaks and keep their subbie slut slave caged up at night in the basement where there's no way in Hell her ass is screwing around with anybody else... LOL...

I'm being a bit of a smart ass with this post. Cheating is a two way street. However Doms/Master attempt to justify it with being all Domly, that it's their right, and they can put anything on their MasterCard. These kind of guys just hate it when the bill finally comes and they see the interest charges that have racked up... that it's taken a great expense on their D/s relationship.

What excuse do submissives have to use? A good for nothing slut card? Hence why you read more stories about cheating DOMs compared to subbies.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/27/2008 9:13:33 PM

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Ask 'em. Much more interesting conversation.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/27/2008 9:22:29 PM

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I do not have subs, I do own slaves though. My slaves cannot cheat, but they can disobey. I have had one slave disobey in the manner some may call cheating, once in my life. She was punished and my rules reinforced again. My slaves are my sluts, so the nature of a slut has to be tamed with excellent mastery. There will be mistakes along the way and not every slave can be mastered by every owner. It is the dishonesty and deceit that bothered me the most, and secondarily the disobedience.

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Just once I want to hear from the Doms and Dommie's about subs that cheat on them.[..cause I really hate to think only Doms cheat] Lets hear if from the other side folks..time to be fair again
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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/27/2008 10:53:21 PM

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Dom, sub, swtich, I don't care how they identify in D/s parlance or otherwise; cheating is an immediate trip out the door, outta my life, and probably with much negative fanfare as I'm going to assume they don't mind attempting to potentially kill me. And, if they provided me with some sort of medically damaging 'gift' as a result of their duplicity, Hell would take the form of a small, dedicated female.
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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/28/2008 6:10:05 AM

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I don't know whether I'm a dom or dommie, but in any case a sub who cheated on me would be no longer my sub.

And conversely, a Dominant who cheated on me (as a sub), would be kicked to the curb really fast.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/28/2008 6:49:51 AM

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I believe this really comes down to that thing that really everyone should follow-- which is to sit down, and have that conversation about "what is cheating" -- especially with poly-open couples and various other arrangements that occur within the lifestyle, it is necessary for both sides to define cheating and be ok with the result.

If someone broke my rules about cheating about what I consider cheating, it wouldn't necessarily mean leaving them over it, but it would be a "big deal" and the circumstances would obviously matter. I assume that it would go the other way as well. It's really an isssue of knowing where the boundaries are. I made very sure what Master's boundaries on me were -- and they've been bent a little but only with his express permission asked at the exact time.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/28/2008 7:49:24 AM

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Well....sometimes I sneak chocolate behind HM's back...

does that count?

Oh! And I'm always real sorry after...

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/28/2008 9:24:53 AM

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I'm not a fan of lying, in either direction. If there is an agreement about expectations and someone decides to divert from that agreement on their own, trust is going to be broken. Only the person lied to can decide if the lie is enough to end the relationship over.

As a submissive, if I had agreed to abide by certain rules, blatant disobedience from those rules would have me questioning my desire to submit to the man, and I'd probably have just as big an issue with it as he would.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/28/2008 10:21:29 AM

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It's happened once or twice but they aren't worth the time it would take to tell the story.

People who whine about getting used need to spend some time with a mirror and start to address the actual problem.

A Cheater is a Worthless sack of Shit. Actually that isn't true because even Manure is worth something. A Cheater has no worth. If you cannot face your partner and be honest with what you are doing then what is the relationship you are having worth?

I hate this topic because I always get so worked up. There is NO excuse for Cheating. NONE! I can't even lie to andi, I'm serious I tried once over something really stupid and called her back 5 minutes later and sprilled my guts cause I felt dirty or wrong. She laughed at me because of how bad I felt over something so silly but Integrity is important to me and those who lie have no integrity.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/28/2008 10:40:48 AM

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If you really want a variety of opinions, I will offer Mine, too. I had a slave of almost a year(yes, as in owned as per a mutual decision), who I found out had been making arrangements to participate in a foot worship session behind My back AFTER the fact. Now, he was a self-professed cuck for one thing, and was useless in bed(his words)so while I had free reign to "sleep around", it wasn't something I did with abandon...That is where defining cheating becomes paramount. To Me, the fact that an Owned slave was sneaking around to see other Dommes was cheating(even though he didn't actually go through with it, saying he would have felt guilty). I did take that into consideration and tried to work it out briefly, but I was just too devastated by that breach of trust. My reasoning is, as of now I may have multiple subs but only one slave at a time. I would have never loaned out his collar, let alone without discussing it first. Now I am off in search of the topic I was originally looking for, lol. Good luck!

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/28/2008 10:48:45 AM

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Just once I want to hear from the Doms and Dommie's about subs that cheat on them.[..cause I really hate to think only Doms cheat] Lets hear if from the other side folks..time to be fair again
Huntertn

Very simple actually...If a sub ever cheated on Me?
sub...meet curb. Curb...meet sub. Have a nice life.
It wouldn't be worth any more of My time or energy.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/28/2008 11:15:23 AM

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My girl cheats on me all the time.

I caught her switching cards in the deck. She also skips a space or two when we are playing monopoly. I even "heavans forbid" caught her miscounting her squares the last time we played chutes and ladders!

I'm thinking its time for "the talk"!

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