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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/2/2008 7:43:33 AM   
thishereboi


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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

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ORIGINAL: WiseCracknSadist

Wow this thread took a left turn in a hurry. It amuses me to watch subbies, yeah you, deflate a Doms thread because they don't like the subject. Then they all ban together in sisterhood and take shots at the guy. And yes I do expect there to be similar comments to what I've just said. 

deflate..as in release the hot air?



Is that what he meant?  Wow and here I though his dick had just gone soft.

To the OP....doesn't matter if it's a Dommie or subbie. if you cheat, your gone. I can't trust you to be honest and I don't have time for that kind of BS.

To the poster who said he has the right to fuck whoever he wants and not tell his sub.....yes you do. And your sub has the right to then kick you to the curb and find someone she can trust.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/2/2008 7:47:05 AM   
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To the poster who said he has the right to fuck whoever he wants and not tell his sub.....yes you do. And your sub has the right to then kick you to the curb and find someone she can trust.

Ok...sorry...but........I have to ask...simply because well...I can't resist

why does this thought put everyone's back up? He has made it clear, not only in this post, but in others also...that this is the way that their relationship works...and that both  of them are quite happy with it....so why is everyone so up in arms over what he said?

Seriously....I really am curious about this.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/2/2008 7:56:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ive never cheated, Ive never felt the need to, and I never will cheat.

Plan and simple, my partner breaks MY limits, he and i are no longer anything. Its very clear upfront in one of the first conversations

My most important most none breakable limit, is My bodily fluids exhanging with anyone but my partner and my partners bodily fluids exhanging with anyone but me. Because Apparently Others to some means no other submissives or slaves, not  no fucking anyone else.

I think you dont see many "my sub cheated on me thread" because ususally we do what we are told. and We tend to not play the well im the ASSHOLE in the relationship I get to do what i want.... which is the reason why subs com asking can he play the I get to do what i want without regard for conquences, Do I have to take that hes a lieing cheating scum bag? Do I have to share him? Do I have to stay with him?

Mostly Doms being in their Domly magic... dismiss the girl when he isnt pleased with her. Many subs sadly tend to stay long past the relationship experation date. (this in no way is lumping all subs or doms together or ment to be rude or insulting, except for the scum part that was supposed to be mean...)


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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/2/2008 8:05:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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To the poster who said he has the right to fuck whoever he wants and not tell his sub.....yes you do. And your sub has the right to then kick you to the curb and find someone she can trust.

Ok...sorry...but........I have to ask...simply because well...I can't resist

why does this thought put everyone's back up? He has made it clear, not only in this post, but in others also...that this is the way that their relationship works...and that both  of them are quite happy with it....so why is everyone so up in arms over what he said?

Seriously....I really am curious about this.


I am not up in arms about it. Why would I be? He's not my master and it's his SO's issue to deal with. It could be that she is very happy with the arrangement. I was merely pointing out that I would not put up with that attitude.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/2/2008 9:47:41 AM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: thishereboi
I was merely pointing out that I would not put up with that attitude.


Except you said "your sub has the right..." which is not about what you'd put up with at all.

Don't mean to be a stickler, but I also almost commented on that post until I read this one.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/2/2008 10:03:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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To the poster who said he has the right to fuck whoever he wants and not tell his sub.....yes you do. And your sub has the right to then kick you to the curb and find someone she can trust.

Ok...sorry...but........I have to ask...simply because well...I can't resist

why does this thought put everyone's back up? He has made it clear, not only in this post, but in others also...that this is the way that their relationship works...and that both  of them are quite happy with it....so why is everyone so up in arms over what he said?

Seriously....I really am curious about this.

If the dominant makes it clear that there is a possibility he/she will exercise their prerogative to have sex outside the relationship, then that is not cheating.
 
Cheating would be when one person promises monogamy and then is not monogamous. 



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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/2/2008 3:40:20 PM   
Padriag


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ORIGINAL: Huntertn

    Just once I want to hear from the Doms and Dommie's about subs that cheat on them.[..cause I really hate to think only Doms cheat]  Lets hear if from the other side folks..time to be fair again
                             Huntertn

Why?

Yes, this past Spring I had a slave who had an affair and ran off with her new "master".  But I don't see any reason to whine on here about it.  She has something to be ashamed of, though I doubt she is... but either way that's her problem, something she has to live with.  If her new "owner" is aware of her behavior, then that's something he has to consider both in regards to her, and himself; but again, not my problem.  I've let go and have moved on.  At this point I've decided not to actively look for anyone else as I have too much else going on in my life just now to really have time to tackle a new relationship.  When things settle down, I will be seeking new slaves, its that simple.

As a dominant and a master, I hold the power in any relationship... I can always release a slave who displeases me, replace her, or discipline her.  There is very little reason for me to spend any time whining or bemoaning things.  I suspect that is the reason you don't see many dominants here complaining about it.  Its not that it doesn't happen, it does... I think most of us just deal with it in a more proactive fashion.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/3/2008 3:46:13 AM   
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< Message edited by badlilthang -- 11/3/2008 3:55:39 AM >

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/3/2008 4:46:42 AM   
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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/3/2008 4:46:46 AM   
candystripper


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Status: offline 		I had heard about this pretty soon after I found D/s, and I have to say, it has always confused me.  I don't completely get how a person can be submissive, then find someone they want to submit to, then cheat on them.  Where's the submission?
 
Don't get me wrong...cheating is like lying; it's a deal-breaker for me and I also wonder how a Dom/me could be a *twue* Dom/me and still lack so much integrity that they'd cheat.
 
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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/3/2008 4:46:59 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		Some time ago I had a kajira in a real life collar but the relationship was mainly LDR except when she made annual visits to me. She never cheated to my knowledge except that much of our relationship was, I found and she admitted, based on lied. Deal Breaker.. She was released immediatly never to be seen or heard of in my home again. 

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/3/2008 4:55:34 AM   
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What a dumb ass!  Lying to you, of all people.
 
Maybe she was just desperate to be in your collar?  Still, an incredibly dumb assed thing to do.
 
candysripper 

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/5/2008 5:16:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've waited almost a month to come back to this and read it...and I admit alot of it is a good read..However I wanted to spell it..LOL..thanks Everyone...

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/6/2008 6:35:09 AM   
allthatjaz


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Status: offline 		If ever I considered cheating then I would end the relationship I was presently in but I do understand why a submissive would possibly consider cheating on her partner.

She could have the most fantastic dominant that fills all her needs as a submissive. In other words he has got her head big time and perhaps she has got his too but she needs to know that. If she doesn't really know how he feels about her, that he is captivated by her, enthralled and has tunnel vision towards her as she does to him then she may feel unsafe and an unsafe submissive may start looking for a back up plan.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/6/2008 3:08:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

quote:

To the poster who said he has the right to fuck whoever he wants and not tell his sub.....yes you do. And your sub has the right to then kick you to the curb and find someone she can trust.

Ok...sorry...but........I have to ask...simply because well...I can't resist

why does this thought put everyone's back up? He has made it clear, not only in this post, but in others also...that this is the way that their relationship works...and that both  of them are quite happy with it....so why is everyone so up in arms over what he said?

Seriously....I really am curious about this.


simply, for me, i dont want others thinking this is the way we all are, and that a new sub or slave should get the idea, or hear from her soon to be Master... see?  this is how it is.. its accepted by everyone.

to me, that isnt a trust issue, or a honesty issue... its a health issue.

tazzy

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/6/2008 6:41:01 PM   
Huntertn


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Status: offline 		hhmm I kinda think it might really be{for me tazzygirl] all three, but I understand what your getting at...Huntertn

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/6/2008 9:12:27 PM   
Barelily


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Status: offline 		WiseCracknSadist

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Wow this thread took a left turn in a hurry. It amuses me to watch subbies, yeah you, deflate a Doms thread because they don't like the subject. Then they all ban together in sisterhood and take shots at the guy. And yes I do expect there to be similar comments to what I've just said.
 

Before you lump us all in together, oh wait you did that already.

Cheating kills trust.
If the prior agreement was it's an exclusive relationship and they cheat...kick em to the curb...to quote others.
If the agreement was only the sub is to be exclusive and they cheat...kick em to the curb.
If the agreement was neither party is exclusive or the topic was never discussed and you find out later you don't like it....oh well

Disclaimer: This post was made in response to the post made by WiseCracknSadist and is based on my opinion and experiences only.


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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/12/2008 12:38:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Goddess007

If you really want a variety of opinions, I will offer Mine, too. 


The ex has been asking for a discreet meeting and I told him I don't do discreet cause that is cheating.I told him you are cheating on your present "slave"and I on my Sir, which I cannot do.  Monday he requested my phone number since he would be about 30 miles away this weekend.I know the feelings behind betrayal then rejection cause he did it with his present slave (which I think finally woke up to his indiscretions) when he had me. So I passed the email onto Sir when he said "good Lord I only asked you to be My cumslut."   I told Sir, he doesn't get the betrayal part. Sir wrote to him and cc'd me: (snipped for some content) My name is T**** and I am L****'s owner. I have read what you wrote her and now know beyond any shadow of a doubt that you are not a Dom, nor have you ever been one.
She is a true submissive and you are a fake, phony, disgusting excuse for a Dominant. What you actually are is an abuser masquerading as a Dominant.
No true Dom would ever consider using another's property without first receiving permission. I have been in this lifestyle for decades and have never met anyone as obviously confused about that concept as you are.
She is beyond serving another, it is not something she can do. As a true submissive to betray me in ANY way is not something she is capable of. Notice this part.....
[{ She gives herself wholly to One and will do anything I request or require. She can not share that devotion, it is to One not any. }]You should know this IF you had ever taken the time to learn about her while you used her. Instead of learning your submissive you instead chose to abuse her, another act that definitively proves you are not a Dominant. A true Dominant NEVER causes emotional damage to a sub, they protect them.
You are nothing hut a sick twisted man who has found an outlet for your own SERIOUS issues by abusing women who are submissive to you until they learn better. I assure you, all (of them) will  eventually learn better.
In the future if you wish to have any contact with her you will do so through me only.


Cheating on anyone we are attached to is NOT an option to some people.

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/12/2008 7:00:04 PM   
Huntertn


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Status: offline 		IrishMist...it was just a wonder I had..I ment nothing bad, or for that matter good..I just want to see what others thought..and it seems people think alot about this..or as little as possible..lol

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RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/13/2008 1:54:14 AM   
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Buh BYE!

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