Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: subs that cheat on their doms


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master >> RE: subs that cheat on their doms Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3 4   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/28/2008 11:42:59 AM   
SteelofUtah


Posts: 5307
Joined: 10/2/2007
From: St George Utah
Status: offline 		C-D,

I believe it is time for that talk.

I used to play a game with my former girl pawn. We would play Bullshit which is a game played with cards in which you start with an Ace then go 2's 3's 4's and so on you Take what you have of that card in your hand and lay it down face down .

i.e: 3 Aces - then set them down face down.
the next person says 2 two's - then sets them down face down
the next person 1 three - then sets it down face down

This goes on like this until someone thinks you are Lying and calls Bullshit. They pick up the cards the last person set down and if they lied then the person who got caught lying picks up all the cards and the person who caught them gets to start with any number they like but it goes on numerically from there.

In addition to having to take the cards every time she got caught lying she would have to take 2 spanks for each card she lied about laying down.

Basically I would go 2 eights, and set down my cards
then she would go 11 nines, which there aren't that many of and she would have to take 22 spanks

Fun Game always ended with her well used and well spanked and no one ever winning the game.

Steel

_____________________________

Just Steel
Resident Therapeutic Metallurgist
The Steel Warm-Up © ™
For the Uber Posters
Thanks for the Grammatical support : ) ~ Term

(in reply to CruelDesires)
Profile   Post #: 21
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/28/2008 7:31:54 PM   
DesFIP


Posts: 25191
Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Well....sometimes I sneak chocolate behind HM's back...

does that count?

Oh! And I'm always real sorry after...


Really? I'm never sorry after. Just hand over the chocolate and nobody will get hurt.

Cheating is cheating. You keep your word or you don't. If you don't, when the partner has kept theirs then you aren't trustworthy and without trust there isn't much left to a relationship.

_____________________________

Slave to laundry

Cynical and proud of it!


(in reply to xxblushesxx)
Profile   Post #: 22
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/30/2008 11:51:43 AM   
MasterTslave


Posts: 200
Joined: 8/24/2005
Status: offline 		if you are a good Master, your sub will be way to busy to even think of cheating.

(in reply to CruelDesires)
Profile   Post #: 23
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/30/2008 12:03:30 PM   
Lockit


Posts: 11292
Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline 		LOL  Too busy to think?  A good enough master can keep someone so busy they can't think of cheating or actually do so?  Wow... not in my world.  I mean... after all... there are three strokes and your out kinda guys and I doubt there are huge shortages of quickies... well, at least I hope not.  If someone can think it and they can, I don't care how busy they are... they can do it.  I mean... how many multitask and can do one thing while thinking another. lol

_____________________________

No matter how old a woman gets, some men will think she was born yesterday! ROFL... I love this place!


(in reply to MasterTslave)
Profile   Post #: 24
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/30/2008 1:27:00 PM   
BeIgnited


Posts: 191
Joined: 6/23/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterTslave

if you are a good Master, your sub will be way to busy to even think of cheating.


So, where does personal responsibility enter into it, then?

Arguably, when one person cheats it is because they are going unfulfilled in the relationship, but the burden is on them to deal with their problems in a constructive manner (by making their concerns known), or end the relationship.

But sometimes the person who cheats is a just a jerk, regardless of what side of the slash they fall on.

(in reply to MasterTslave)
Profile   Post #: 25
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/30/2008 3:59:43 PM   
tweedydaddy


Posts: 673
Joined: 9/1/2008
Status: offline 		What a sub or slave does in their spare time is actually none of my business!
The game and playing stops when they leave my house.
I have decided I am DommieDaddydiddymiss, since were all paying with words.

DommieDaddyDiddymiss, and proud!

(in reply to Huntertn)
Profile   Post #: 26
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/30/2008 9:29:36 PM   
tazzygirl


Posts: 37833
Joined: 10/12/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: kinkypuppy2

there is a difference between "cheating" in the vanilla world and fucking someone else if you are in a m-s relationship.
I as her Master have the right to fuck anyone I wish with out her permission, or even telling her.
NOW the catch to that statement.....

I have absolutely no desire TO fuck anyone else as what she provides me is far and away better then just "fucking".



or even tell her.  guess the concept of dying to have sex is alive and well.  to me, a Dominant who would put my life at risk isnt a Dominant at all.  just a male needed some strange on the side and not man enough to speak up and say so.

quote:

ORIGINAL: DavanKael

Dom, sub, swtich, I don't care how they identify in D/s parlance or otherwise; cheating is an immediate trip out the door, outta my life, and probably with much negative fanfare as I'm going to assume they don't mind attempting to potentially kill me.  And, if they provided me with some sort of medically damaging 'gift' as a result of their duplicity, Hell would take the form of a small, dedicated female. 
Davan


barva, davan!

if i am his slave, he should put my health and life before the need of his cock.  what happened to self control and accountability?

tazzy

edited to add

i also feel a submissive who cheats isnt much better.  she, or he, should also be held to the same accountability as the other side of the slash.  some relationships enjoy the freedom to do what you please when the other is not around.  thats known up front, and thats not cheating.  when it has to take a back alley way and its hidden among the dark shadows, you know its sneaking, underhanded and simply wrong.

we are supposed to be adults.  be an adult and speak up first.  i dont wish to die because my partner wasnt brave enough to give me that choice of life or death.

tazzy

< Message edited by tazzygirl -- 10/30/2008 9:33:25 PM >

_____________________________

Telling me to take Midol wont help your butthurt.
RIP, my demon-child 5-16-11
Duchess of Dissent 1
Dont judge me because I sin differently than you.
If you want it sugar coated, dont ask me what i think! It would violate TOS.

(in reply to tweedydaddy)
Profile   Post #: 27
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/31/2008 10:08:27 AM   
SirDominic


Posts: 711
Joined: 11/22/2006
Status: offline 		It would not be the cheating that would distress me the most, it would be the dishonesty and deception. I believe honesty is a must, to the point that I have, from the very beginning, stated in my profile that I am married and not hiding anything from my wife. You think that wasn't a deal breaker for potential relationships time and time again. lol.

Fortunately I have never had a sub cheat on me, so I've never had to face the issue. If it did happen, it would most likely kill the relationship, but I would want to hear her explanation first. There is no excuse for deception; their can be extenuating circumstances though. If I had some reason to believe the relationship was salvagible I would require a period of separation. Not as punishment, but time for us both to consider if we want to continue together or not.



_____________________________

You teach best what you have lived.

(in reply to Huntertn)
Profile   Post #: 28
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/31/2008 10:12:26 AM   
WhiplashSmile2


Posts: 526
Joined: 6/11/2008
Status: offline 		If your submissive/slave is cheating on you, please consider buying a cage.

(in reply to SteelofUtah)
Profile   Post #: 29
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 10/31/2008 5:10:22 PM   
tazzygirl


Posts: 37833
Joined: 10/12/2007
Status: offline 		hey, not all who like cages cheat

~grins

_____________________________

Telling me to take Midol wont help your butthurt.
RIP, my demon-child 5-16-11
Duchess of Dissent 1
Dont judge me because I sin differently than you.
If you want it sugar coated, dont ask me what i think! It would violate TOS.

(in reply to WhiplashSmile2)
Profile   Post #: 30
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/1/2008 6:34:33 PM   
WiseCracknSadist


Posts: 163
Joined: 10/27/2006
Status: offline 		Wow this thread took a left turn in a hurry. It amuses me to watch subbies, yeah you, deflate a Doms thread because they don't like the subject. Then they all ban together in sisterhood and take shots at the guy. And yes I do expect there to be similar comments to what I've just said. 

(in reply to CruelDesires)
Profile   Post #: 31
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/1/2008 7:01:41 PM   
CalifChick


Posts: 10717
Joined: 10/28/2007
From: California
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: WiseCracknSadist

It amuses me to watch subbies, yeah you, deflate a Dommies thread because they don't like the subject.


If you're going to be condescending, at least be an equal-opportunity condescensionist.


Cali


_____________________________

AKA "The Undisputed Goddess of Sarcasm", "Big Bad Cali" and "Yum Bum". Advisor to the Subbie Mafia, founding member of the W.A.C. and the Judgmental Bitches Brigade, member of the Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair-a's and Team Troll

(in reply to WiseCracknSadist)
Profile   Post #: 32
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/1/2008 7:13:54 PM   
Lockit


Posts: 11292
Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: WiseCracknSadist

Wow this thread took a left turn in a hurry. It amuses me to watch subbies, yeah you, deflate a Doms thread because they don't like the subject. Then they all ban together in sisterhood and take shots at the guy. And yes I do expect there to be similar comments to what I've just said. 


(Does a head spin)  Say what?  Are you talking to CruelDesires or what?  Who deflated what?  Damn it, I hate when I miss stuff.

_____________________________

No matter how old a woman gets, some men will think she was born yesterday! ROFL... I love this place!


(in reply to WiseCracknSadist)
Profile   Post #: 33
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/1/2008 7:18:23 PM   
sirsholly


Posts: 42360
Joined: 9/7/2007
From: Quietville
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: WiseCracknSadist

Wow this thread took a left turn in a hurry. It amuses me to watch subbies, yeah you, deflate a Doms thread because they don't like the subject. Then they all ban together in sisterhood and take shots at the guy. And yes I do expect there to be similar comments to what I've just said. 

deflate..as in release the hot air?


_____________________________

PICKED UPON
TECHNO-DOLT
MEMBER OF THE SUBBIE MAFIA
GRACEFULLY CHALLENGED :::::splat:::::
BOOT WHORE
VAA/S FAN

GIVES GOOD HEART (Lushy)

CREATOR OF MAYHEM (practice)


(in reply to WiseCracknSadist)
Profile   Post #: 34
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/1/2008 7:37:19 PM   
califsue


Posts: 593
Joined: 2/2/2008
Status: offline 		Due to circumstances, Master is dealing with his own demons and has asked me to wait. I gave him my word that I would and I will honor my word and commitment to him. That does not take away the most basic physical needs which haven't been met in quite some time. At least going through what I am currently going through gives me a better insight as to WHY someone might cheat.

(in reply to sirsholly)
Profile   Post #: 35
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/1/2008 7:42:05 PM   
Lockit


Posts: 11292
Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline 		Maybe your Master can help with that and buy you some sweet lil toys!  Hang in there... there may be some blessing you can't see at the moment.  Most challenges have something wonderful in them if you can be patient and open to them.

_____________________________

No matter how old a woman gets, some men will think she was born yesterday! ROFL... I love this place!


(in reply to califsue)
Profile   Post #: 36
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/1/2008 7:53:32 PM   
NuevaVida


Posts: 6707
Joined: 8/5/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

quote:

ORIGINAL: WiseCracknSadist

It amuses me to watch subbies, yeah you, deflate a Dommies thread because they don't like the subject.


If you're going to be condescending, at least be an equal-opportunity condescensionist.


Cali



Well done, Cali!

Although I didn't see anyone deflate anything here. I read that post and thought, "Huh???"

_____________________________

Live Simply. Love Generously. Care Deeply. Speak Kindly.



(in reply to CalifChick)
Profile   Post #: 37
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/1/2008 8:44:56 PM   
califsue


Posts: 593
Joined: 2/2/2008
Status: offline 		Lockit--Thank you for the encouragement and reminder!!

(in reply to Lockit)
Profile   Post #: 38
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/2/2008 7:32:59 AM   
catize


Posts: 3020
Joined: 3/7/2006
Status: offline 		Fast Reply
Ummm, guessing here, but it seems as if he’s piqued because

Submissive people are posting their opinions
That submissive people are posting where ever they want to post (on the “ ask a master” forum of all places!!!)
That when submissive people have opinions and post on the ask a master forum his ego and perhaps something else suffers from deflation
    eta:  the above is regarding post #31


< Message edited by catize -- 11/2/2008 8:00:00 AM >

_____________________________

"Power is real. But it's a lot less real if it's not perceived as power."
Robert Parker, Stranger in Paradise

(in reply to califsue)
Profile   Post #: 39
RE: subs that cheat on their doms - 11/2/2008 7:42:09 AM   
IrishMist


Posts: 7480
Joined: 11/17/2005
Status: offline 		~ fast general reply ~

Hmmm...I guess I actually took his question at face value; which is why I left the thread pretty much alone. He asked a question that is asked quite often by submissives and slaves in regards to their own partners...his only change from the norm was to instead ask his question of the other side ; which, even I can say,  we often do not see asked here.

Of  course, I guess many took offense to the way he worded his question...I saw the humor in it though

/shrug

_____________________________

If I said something to offend you, please tell me what it was so that I can say it again later.


(in reply to Huntertn)
Profile   Post #: 40
Page:   <<   < prev  1 [2] 3 4   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master >> RE: subs that cheat on their doms Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3 4   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.090