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RE: asking for a lil help - 11/1/2008 12:46:18 PM

DavanKael

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Hi, tsatske----
Cool, I'll look forward to talking with you at greater length off-thread.
Uhhhh, I am not sure if you're asking me to answer all ofthose questions, answer the one about the intact hymen, or about the fundamentalist women who are getting knocked up.
For the sake of condensing the reply:
As far as fundamentalist women getting knocked up, I would say that they are, imo, behaving in ways contrary to their proported belief system. I have a lot of opinions about these things that aren't necessarily relevant to the post (E-mail is fine to discuss that further, as well, if you wish), unless the OP is stating she or her paramour is a fundamentalist. I don't believe she has done so.
I'm going to say that the only hymen I've concerned myself with, to date, is my own. It was broken when I was 16 when the guy who ultimately became my husband (Soon to be ex-...we were together 17 years) and I had sex for the first time: it was May 1, 1991, late afternoon, in his bed at his Mother's house, doggie style, I still own the outfit I was wearing that day, lol! We shortly thereafter found out that he is allergic to spermicide. Was quite mortified when he threatended to tell his Mom he needed to go to the hospital because his penis was turning red and burning. Luckily that calmed down and we didn't need to get his Mom involved. Aah, the good ole days < smirk >. They really were! :> Beyond that, yeah, a lot of folks hymens get broken in any number of ways. Oh, and I believe that oral, anal, or vaginal is sex and any of those practices are included in my personal 'number' of partners.
If my writing and reminiscing didn't answer what you were asking, let me know.
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RE: asking for a lil help - 11/1/2008 3:48:01 PM

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the end of this past July, i got my menstrual cycle late. there was a pregnancy scare, but the next week i started no more problems since...or so i thought.

Since this incident we have had sex only once or twice and he refuses to cum in me, scared that i might get pregnant. He told me last night that every time we start to get intimate that is all He can think of. any advice here would be greatly appreciated.

I had to look up your age before I responsed. Based upon the expectations of your relationship,a pregnancy should be definitely discussed. Because I have had gynecological cancer, I have had alot of issues with lab tests reporting false negatives on the hormone labs.So my MD and I made a decision to go back to the year without any menstruation method. Because of my age, I don't want children. I have old eggs and we all know what old eggs are like. On top of that a pregnancy is not good for my cardiac issues.Sir has 2 college kids. He certainly doesnt want to raise more kids. Although I have a diaghram and it is kept at his place, it was decided my cervix will have no little spermies trying to invade the dark and mysterious cavern. I really don't care where the cum is deposited, we just don't want a child.This is an important discussion couples seem to forget to have. Your advice from my small corner:1) have a plan2) communicate.

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RE: asking for a lil help - 11/1/2008 3:52:07 PM

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i am a slightly long distance, slave/sub/baby girl/gf to my Sir...He brought something to me last night and i would like to do a lil research...i know that there have been posts on this matter, but can't seem to find them. i also have dial-up so searching page after page of topics is difficult.

1) My Sir and i started a cyber/phone relationship last August. Last September we met for the first time. we used protection the first few times, and i had had an IUD before we met. we see each other once or twice a month. the end of this past July, i got my menstrual cycle late. there was a pregnancy scare, but the next week i started no more problems since...or so i thought.

Since this incident we have had sex only once or twice and he refuses to cum in me, scared that i might get pregnant. He told me last night that every time we start to get intimate that is all He can think of. any advice here would be greatly appreciated.

2) My Sir has also expressed that He has a hard time letting go and being able to beat me, or even discipline me because He is so caught up in having to take care of me. the last time He tried to, He grabbed me by my hair from my position over the edge of the bed and told me he might hurt me, would i love Him still if He did? i said yes. He asked if i was sure I wanted Him to really let go, as it might scare me that He would want to hurt me like that. i said yes. but i found out the hard way i was allergic to the toy He was using on me just before He was to begin beating me, and He immediately went into Daddy mode and lost the want to hurt me yet again.

i thought it was just bad timing, but now He has told me that His wanting to take care of me is why He just can't let go anymore, and He isn't sure He ever really let Himself go with me. i want to be supportive and, i definitely can live with it if He never does beat me again. but if i can help Him get past this difficulty, which is something He seems to want my help with, i would rather do that than nothing. i do enjoy getting beat by Him and the times when it has been rougher has helped to sharpen my focus in serving Him, and also a release of the frustration i feel from the rest of my life.

thank you for any and all help...please no bashing my beliefs or wants as this will not help me to serve Him better, however, i do welcome intelligent converse on these matters.

That is good. It shows that he is thinking ahead and realizes what getting you pregnant would entail. It also shows he knows what a huge responsiblity a baby can be. I would be more concerned if he didn't give it a thougt.

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RE: asking for a lil help - 11/2/2008 5:50:33 PM

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WOW..what can i say? perhaps some of the persons responding whould read what i wrote again. A) i have mentioned that we have spoken about this...it was all we did for 2 + months...(although i didnt add the 2 plus months to my previous posts, i did state that we have talked about this. B) i have done some research....however, my doctor has spoken about the morning after and the abortion pill interchangeably. there was some confusion. C) i came to this board (ask a Master as opposed to ask a sub/slave) for help and it has been insinuated ot just said that i am being irksome and stupid. thank you for reading my entire first post where i stated that bashing my beliefs would not be helpful.

i do know what it takes to get pregnant. it is why i waited as long as i did before i had sex the first time. it seems that running with the prgnancy scare and trying to force your beliefs on me or i am "stupid or irksome" is not helpful.

again, thank you for the ones that had helpful advice without the name calling or bashing.

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