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RE: Do you see your sub/slave as inferior superior or e... - 11/9/2008 4:28:28 PM

ElanSubdued

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Politesub53,

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Personally speaking i see myself as an equal, who choses to take the submissive role. I dont feel it makes me less of a person, and I am able to walk away at any time. If only She would untie me..

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RE: Do you see your sub/slave as inferior superior or e... - 11/9/2008 4:30:42 PM

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My subs are equals, as are all other human beings. Having superior skills is about skills - not your value as a human.

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RE: Do you see your sub/slave as inferior superior or e... - 11/9/2008 8:09:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53
Personally speaking i see myself as an equal, who choses to take the submissive role. I dont feel it makes me less of a person, and I am able to walk away at any time.

If only She would untie me..

Or as soon as she says it's okay to get up and stretch your legs a while.

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I held the reins and guided both the relationship and the slave. The slave followed, bringing many, many things that enriched us both.
As incongruent with BDSM roles and protocols as this may sound, I believe equality is a significant, critical building block in BDSM relationships. I'm not talking about equality of skills, job titles, BDSM titles, and things of this ilk. Rather, I mean equality of the heart, of desire, of intent, of effort, and of humanity and commitment.
Elan

Very nicely said, thanks. M

< Message edited by FullfigRIMaam -- 11/9/2008 8:13:26 PM >

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RE: Do you see your sub/slave as inferior superior or e... - 11/12/2008 12:11:12 AM

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FullfigRIMaam,

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ElanSubdued:
I held the reins and guided both the relationship and the slave. The slave followed, bringing many, many things that enriched us both. As incongruent with BDSM roles and protocols as this may sound, I believe equality is a significant, critical building block in BDSM relationships. I'm not talking about equality of skills, job titles, BDSM titles, and things of this ilk. Rather, I mean equality of the heart, of desire, of intent, of effort, and of humanity and commitment.

FullfigRIMaam:
Very nicely said, thanks. M

Thank you. :-)

When I read these thoughts now, they have a degree of acuity I didn't recognize at the time. I may well paraphrase this in my profile (when I re-activate it). Thank you for your compliment and for emphasizing and summarizing the key elements in what I wrote.

Elan.

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RE: Do you see your sub/slave as inferior superior or e... - 11/12/2008 8:50:16 AM

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Ma'am treats me (and i assume sees me) as an equal, though one who has chosen a lesser role in the relationship. Before everything else, we are friends; at least as far as i see it, and true friends are neither superior or inferior to one another. My role as a submissive does not make me less than Her, it is more along the lines of equal and opposite. I am the contrast that complements Her dominance.

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RE: Do you see your sub/slave as inferior superior or e... - 11/12/2008 9:58:51 AM

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Nice to see this thread live and kicking. me im just standing back and enjoying the ride of life
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RE: Do you see your sub/slave as inferior superior or e... - 11/12/2008 1:18:29 PM

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RE: Do you see your sub/slave as inferior superior or e... - 11/12/2008 2:31:59 PM

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He is equal to me, and we discuss things. The concept that their are superior beings on this planet reminds me of the aliens from "Third Rock in the Sun". Me superior? Hardly not. No way actually, and at times I can be a sentimental mess. Like now. I have a cold. I don't feel good, and I would really love to sit and cry but don't have time because I have to work. Off to work. Have a good day.

Regards, MissSCD What a pithy reminder that dommes can't always be goddesses. Well said, Miss SCD. I sincerely hope you feel better later. A virtual hug to you.

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RE: Do you see your sub/slave as inferior superior or e... - 11/12/2008 6:39:34 PM

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Now that I think about it he is my equal in certain circumstances. He has equal input in our discussions as well as in the mode of play that will take place when we are together. He can and does suggest as well as initate play time as I do myself. He is my partner. He has the right to say yes or no to the things that I want to experiment. The one thing is clear to me is that without his input and acceptance in his role in my life I would not be a Domme. So no in my opinion there are no superior beings they may have more intelligence, they may be more adapt in some ways but they are not superior or inferior they just haven't hit their stride yet or they have hit it and are cruising through.

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RE: Do you see your sub/slave as inferior superior or e... - 11/13/2008 3:10:10 AM

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If there's choice involved, which there always is because D/s relationships are entered into and maintained voluntarily, then it follows that if a sub feels inferior to his domme, he does so because he wants to feel inferior to her. He can step out of that feeling any time he wants. Or, at least, he could if he were confident about himself and his submissive feelings.

Superman deliberately became Clark Kent partly in order to foster a relationship with Lois Lane. Yet he always knew he was Superman underneath.

There now. If that little analogy doesn't make certain subs (and perhaps one or two dommes with slight feelings of guilt) feel better, nothing will!

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RE: Do you see your sub/slave as inferior superior or e... - 11/13/2008 3:33:51 AM

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Who said anything about guilt?

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RE: Do you see your sub/slave as inferior superior or e... - 11/13/2008 4:16:36 AM

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Who said anything about guilt?

Nnnnyesssssss. I did have a slight feeling when I wrote that comment that it'd elicit such a response . . .

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RE: Do you see your sub/slave as inferior superior or e... - 11/13/2008 6:22:02 AM

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<<<<---- Goes to send a thank you for the kind words, but no profile.

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