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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 7:49:36 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		As far as checking up on me, I enjoy when Daddy asks did you brush youre teeth or did you do your home work or did you do........ or have you.....  Because then I feel he cares about the fact that I di d or didn't do it and I feel he's taking an active role in our relationship dynamic.

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 8:04:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		Granted, I have limited examples from which to draw, but the only instances in which I have heard of following, gps-ing, and otherwise doing what I would call 'micromanagement in a stalkey way' is in relationships with substantial issues. 
Were this to happen in a relationship in which I was involved Iwould be pissed.  If I'm devoted to someone, I take pride in being so and I excel in my devotion.  If they have such serious doubts (About me and/or themselves) that they're doing whacked out stuff as noted above, it's probably time for at least a serious conversation but, as I am attributing those sorts of behaviors to negative personality traits more often than not, more likely a parting of ways. 
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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 8:05:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Uh no im not that in secure.  How would checking up stop anyone from cheating?

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 8:55:17 PM   
Barelily


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Status: offline 		I might be over simplifying things, but maybe it's not a matter of mistrust or jealousy, perhaps he just enjoys it?
Mine knew what I was doing 24/7 not because he checked on me, but because thats how my day was setup. Although...he did always seem to know when I had deviated from the norm..hmmmm.


Disclaimer: This post was made in response to the post made by Ariella10 and is based on my opinion and experiences only.




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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 9:00:06 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Barelily

I might be over simplifying things, but maybe it's not a matter of mistrust or jealousy, perhaps he just enjoys it?



Distrust seems to be the reason most people fall to (for whatever reason) when responding to something they don't particularly like. I don't know why, but that seems to be case on these boards.

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 10:40:35 PM   
SirMIkeSD


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Status: offline 		I don't think I would want to be with someone that I felt I needed to check up on using friends. Now if I had friends in the same town as my boy, I might ask a friend if my boy could contact them if he needed to for something and make sure they know each other in case. But that a different thing.

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/7/2008 4:35:46 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		I've never been checked up on, but I am expected to let them always know where I am, who I'm with, what I'm doing.  They did also have me spend a day with another family but that was more about making sure I meet people around here. 

If someone checked up on me because of mistrust, there are much bigger problems than just checking up.  However, sometimes people like to get another person's perspective, or just like to show off  "see how cute/great/smart my girl is!".  And sometimes, it's just a friendly how you doing gesture.  It all goes to intent in my mind.

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/7/2008 8:18:25 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Ariella10

i am a slave to an absolutely wonderful Master. 


Greetings Ariella....
 
To me, the aforementioned was an answer to your own questions...
 
You made one choice to submit to your Master....whether he decides to checkup or not checkup on you is definitely His decision and/or perogative.  I usually see many gray areas and not the big picture at all times, but this seems relatively simple...You decided to trust in his mastery wherever the path takes you.
 
I wish you well,
~donna~
 

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/7/2008 11:41:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		I trust mine to not send me to jail.  I therefor also trust her on lesser issues such as whether she obeyed some command or not.

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/7/2008 12:30:09 PM   
littlemisssnarf


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Status: offline 		i have a phrase that says - if you are doing your job you having nothing to worry about!

perhaps you haven't been doing all that He asks and are now worried he will find out?

honesty in the long run is far healthier - even if it means a spanking.... haha

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/7/2008 2:56:53 PM   
TabrisMaceth


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Status: offline 		Am I a bad person for wanting to check up on people I care about? I mean, what if they die?! If it's an internet relationship and there's no one to tell you what happened, for all you know, they just casually dumped you because they got bored with you! Then you spread terrible rumors about them, and hack their email account and use it to make terrorist threats! And you pay an actress to pretend to be them as they sell drugs to children! (breaks down into tears) And you do all these horrible things to someone who genuinely loved you because you didn't want to make sure they were okay! They loved you, and you stained their memory by turning them into drug dealing pedo-terrorists!
...Why do I think so much about these horrible scenerios?

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RE: MASTERS KEEP TABS ON SLAVES? - 11/7/2008 3:00:59 PM   
donnaamarie


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Status: offline 		Greetings CruelDesires,

I actually found that part of the movie quite hot.  And I loved how amazingly she obeyed him.

I enjoy when my Master asks me where I've been and why I wasn't answering my phone.  He never accepts the excuse when I say I didn't hear the phone.   And that's okay.

donna

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RE: MASTERS KEEP TABS ON SLAVES? - 11/7/2008 4:44:09 PM   
oceanwynds


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Status: offline 		No, Sir does not keep tabs on me. He doesnt believe in micromanaging me either. There have been times, and just recently, he will just turn his car south instead of north and come to visit me. He knows he is always welcome. He doesn't have  a lot of insecurites, if any. That to me says a lot about a person.

oceanwynds

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RE: MASTERS KEEP TABS ON SLAVES? - 11/7/2008 5:37:31 PM   
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RE: MASTERS KEEP TABS ON SLAVES? - 11/7/2008 6:34:42 PM   
stardancer00


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Status: offline 		As a few people have stated here,  there are different motives for what may seem to be "keeping tabs" on a slave.  For some Masters,  it is a way to begin  to break  through  the slave's ego-defenses  by not allowing the slave  to have a sense  of privacy.   There are very many ways to do this,  even to create  the illusion  that the slave  is continually monitored, or to keep the slave on edge never knowing when it  will be called upon  to make an accounting.    It can be enjoyable  for some Masters.

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/8/2008 12:05:25 AM   
masterforRT


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Status: offline 		I have to trust mine. If you can't trust, why bother? Online you can have 1001 different handles. I have one-and hope/believe that mine also is this way.

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/8/2008 2:39:33 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Ariella10

My question to Masters or Mistresses is this, do You, or have  You ever had any friends in this lifestyle check in to see if Your slave/subs are doing what they said they are? 



I'll start by setting the scene, here. I grew up in a family that was very much committed to the principle of: "here are the rules, within these limits do as you please, but do not break the rules". One of the rules was my Sister and I had to be at home before it got dark (right up until 16); in the event we weren't, then my Mam and Dad would come looking for us, and the punishment was embarrassing us in front of our mates when they found us. Within the hours of daylight, we could do as we pleased provided we abided by the rules. So, that background has led to me having a liberal approach to life, which amounts to: "Don't step on the grass" rather than: "You may walk on the grass".

Having said this, I will be checking from time to time. More a case of supervision than micro-management, though. Ultimately, I want to ensure I'm getting a return on my investment.

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/8/2008 6:27:27 AM   
chamberqueen


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Status: offline 		There is a difference between someone "checking up" on you and someone "checking in" on you.  If my Master will be gone for a number of days he often lets his uncle know and we typically go out to dinner together or I help him run errands.  It is my Master's way of making sure I get out and do something fun instead of just sitting around missing him.  His uncle knows of the dynamic, and once told me that he wouldn't "tell" on me if I did something wrong.  I smiled and told him that he wouldn't have to because I would feel compelled to tell on myself if I did anything I felt was wrong. 

Unlike most here, it would not bother me to be checked up on because I try to live my entire life in a way that would be pleasing to my Master.  I know that the only reports that would ever go back would be positive. 


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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/8/2008 7:24:58 AM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		Having someone check on me to see if I am ok is one thing but having people keep tabs on me is another. It is a sign of insecurity on the dominants part. If you can't trust someone then why be with them?

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/8/2008 7:44:54 AM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		I'm sure there are people who do things like that, but frankly I don't have the time.  I need to know where my slave is at all times, but I don't check up on her to make sure she really is doing what she says she is.  I would if she ever gave me reason not to believe her--and if I caught her in a lie, that would be the end.  But I trust her for as long as she gives me every reason to.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Ariella10
My question to Masters or Mistresses is this, do You, or have  You ever had any friends in this lifestyle check in to see if Your slave/subs are doing what they said they are?  No, i'm not paranoid or crazy, but i am just interested in the answers. i am new to this lifestyle and wish to know if this goes on or not? Oh yes, any slaves/subs ever had this type of experience? Thank-You to all who answer politely/kindly.

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