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MistressMinna -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (10/22/2009 6:27:27 PM)

Just friends, vanilla or D/s.... I almost always attract and prefer younger men. How much younger? Currently in their 20s. I have always had a hard time articulating this but the best way I can state it is that younger men come with fewer preconceived notions and are more open minded. They are also unabashedly who they are. I am 48 and find that the vast majority of men I have met over 40 are confused. They may play the man's man but inside they don't know if they should lead, follow or get out of the way. I realize these are huge generalizations but as I said, I have a very difficult time articulating it.

All that being said... I have yet to meet a younger man who will take me to the theater or know how to order from a french menu. My view of the necessities of life change daily and today I think the necessities include a somewhat cultured man near my age (stud or sub) and a couple of cute harem boys.

- MM

Just thinkng out loud




Bromius -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (10/23/2009 7:29:58 AM)

As a Dominant, I know I tend to enjoy younger subs. I don't really have a Daddy/girl kink. But I definitely enjoy feeling like the elder in the relationship. And many of the girls I know enjoy that. I'd say it's an actual concrete physical representation of the entire D/s dynamic. Is it necessary for a D/s relationship? No, but I believe it does help, and it reinforces that dynamic. It makes it easier to get into the proper headspace for both partners, when that age disparity exists.




sleazybutterfly -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (10/23/2009 8:06:01 AM)

I prefer someone at least my age or older, though if the right one came along I wouldn't turn him down because he was 30. I have to draw the line of age above me somewhere though, I usually say 50, but that can be flexible depending on the person. I still want kids if at all possible, and most men that age aren't really interested too much.

I think what more concerns me is that we connect on many different levels, from play to conversation. I think it's important to have things in common with someone outside of the kink, we can't play all day, we will eventually have to talk.

Just my 3 cents :)




billyInAustin -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (10/23/2009 12:52:24 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Eliana

I've noticed one feature of the BDSM world is older Dominants often seeking submissives or slaves who are considerably younger than them (for relationships, not just play).  I've also noticed - with all respect - a lot of them seem to have been looking a very long time without apparent success.   This leads me to ponder - how realistic are they being? 

I've observed these days that not only do a lot of the younger women clearly want men who are also younger, but in recent years a lot of the OLDER women also want - and get - men much younger than themselves.  There seems to be a feeling that the younger men don't have the "old attitudes" which is to say they don't generally display the chauvinistic attitudes which tend to be more prevalent in the older generations, and that young men make them much happier.

I'm generalising here of course and not suggesting by any means there are not many very desirable older men, nor that they all have sexist outlooks, but realistically how many older men are really going to attract women half their age, except maybe for the odd few?

It would also be interesting to hear why some of them do or would prefer younger women.

Thanks!


Way too lazy to read 5 pages of replies but had to pipe in.  It is mostly finacial.  Not a bad looking guy at 51, but when I meet young women in a situation where they know my circumstances like business meetings etc they seem to flock around and all other times I am invisable.
that being said I have no interest. 

And before you jump all over this, yes I know my profile sucks and I only have a few posts and I am not part of the clique here yada yada yada. 




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