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Midnght -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/10/2008 10:29:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: persephonee

dont you have vitally important computery type work to do Sir?....i wouldnt want to interrupt with my babbling...:)


Newp.





persephonee -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/10/2008 11:18:49 PM)

*snort*




WestBaySlave -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/10/2008 11:37:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Eliana

I've noticed one feature of the BDSM world is older Dominants often seeking submissives or slaves who are considerably younger than them (for relationships, not just play).  I've also noticed - with all respect - a lot of them seem to have been looking a very long time without apparent success.   This leads me to ponder - how realistic are they being? 

I've observed these days that not only do a lot of the younger women clearly want men who are also younger, but in recent years a lot of the OLDER women also want - and get - men much younger than themselves.  There seems to be a feeling that the younger men don't have the "old attitudes" which is to say they don't generally display the chauvinistic attitudes which tend to be more prevalent in the older generations, and that young men make them much happier.

I'm generalising here of course and not suggesting by any means there are not many very desirable older men, nor that they all have sexist outlooks, but realistically how many older men are really going to attract women half their age, except maybe for the odd few?

It would also be interesting to hear why some of them do or would prefer younger women.

Thanks!


I'm twenty-one.

Personally, I'd say most of the men I find attractive are in the thirty-five to fifty range, up to fifty-five or sixty if they keep in shape. That being said, I've found men in their twenties and men in their sixties quite hot, mostly depending on their face and build.

However, age and looks aren't all that important to me if I'm emotionally attracted to a man.

On the flip side, when I read on a master's profile "only looking for 18-25" or the like, I do worry. I'm looking for something long-term. I may be twenty-one now, but I won't be forever, and I know it. What happens when I'm twenty-five - or thirty?






rosanegra -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/11/2008 12:22:49 AM)

I'm 21. I met my husband here. He is about to turn 23.

We have our issues, and some of them are related to our mutual lack of maturity (although I have to say I believe we are both far more mature than many of those the same age as us)

When I was single, I sent messages from any Dom more than 12 years older than me directly to bulk mail. I read my bulk mail fairly regularly, so they still had a shot.. but I definitely wasn't intentionally seeking out someone far older than me.

It had nothing to do with the fact that I had a problem with older guys. It is just that.. I was an emotional train wreck after losing several people I was very close to in a short span of time. It would have taken something REALLY astounding to make me consider a relationship with someone who was likely to die so long before me. Morbid, I know... but I was looking at the long-term, and the potential for damage to my already tender and bleeding heart.

Of course, the irony is that the young guy I married is currently in a war zone... So I guess I'm just screwed all around.




cutuppaperdoll -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/11/2008 12:51:30 AM)

older men are simply divine~~




tweedydaddy -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/11/2008 1:45:29 AM)

I have an eighteen year old and a nineteen year old both pestering me to spank them, so yes, it would seem they do. Conversely, LadyLove has four male subs aged from 21 to 41, all younger than She is. Oh, and she has a nineteen year old girl pet as well. I have lost thirty pounds in two years trying to keep up.
I get emails from young girls all the time, they all seem to want a Daddy.




LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/11/2008 5:08:45 AM)

another age crap thread  frist off  it is not about older younger it is about maturity and responsiblity and were we are in life 
that being said age does factor into that  we all grow at different states while some who are younger might SEEM to be older minded that is very much a illusion of confusion   pan sexual drama at it's best  so remeber be wise be smart and be responsible
cause SOME OF us are tired of cleaning up after other peoples messes yep




cherrydoll25 -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/11/2008 5:17:54 AM)

I generally prefer older men and Daddy he is 12yrs older than me but we didnt get together based on age........to me there is just something aobut an older man especially a dominat older man that just screams POWER and I love that.




CreativeDominant -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/11/2008 7:18:04 AM)

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ORIGINAL: cutuppaperdoll

older men are simply divine~~


Why yes...yes, we are.  [;)]




MasterTslave -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/11/2008 7:26:50 AM)

I am with an older Master.  Master T is 12 years my senior and i feel like that is really a turn on for me.  Master knows what to do with me and knows how to make me happy!!!  i would never leave Master T, but i would pick Him all over again with him if i had the choice between Him and a younger guy.There is just something about an older man that is very sexy, now i'm not talking a 65 year old fat grumpy man, but a nice looking middle aged man is great!




JustDarkness -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/11/2008 7:32:21 AM)

[:D] so if a Dom feels he gets old..he actually gets a better position in the lifestyle




N4SDChastity -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/11/2008 5:48:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Eliana

I've noticed one feature of the BDSM world is older Dominants often seeking submissives or slaves who are considerably younger than them (for relationships, not just play).  I've also noticed - with all respect - a lot of them seem to have been looking a very long time without apparent success.   This leads me to ponder - how realistic are they being? 



I love it when this topic comes up! [sm=seesaw.gif]<---Edited to add

I did not bother reading all of the thread (but I did skim) because I am 1000% certain the responses cover the exact same gamut they always do:
Some (old guys) for it
Some (old guys) agin
Some (young babes) for it
Some (young babes) agin
Some (old babes) for it
Some (old babes) agin
Some (young guys) for it
Some (young guys) agin
Some (old/young guys/babes) don't care either way

Put ME in that last camp.  Now, I'm not a spring chicken, but I am more than average active.  I've been around a few blocks but I still giggle with childish glee when I wake up to find a foot of snow has fallen overnight (and, yes, I go play in it...  with my CAR, at this age).

In my life, in both the vanilla world and WIITWD, I have dated Women nearly twice my age (when I was younger), and some approaching half my age (these days), and about everything in between.  I also dated at/below my age when I was younger, as well as at/above my age, now.

For ME, it's ALL about looks!!!  Lemme 'splain, Lucy:  It is ALL about the looks that come back to me when I look into "Her" eyes.  If I see a compatible soul, one who (like someone else said) still sees wonder in the world; yet understands the "walk down there and fcuk 'em all" mentality, I'M IN!!!  Down for whateva!  In for a penny/In for a pound. <insert your favorite cliché, HERE>

Look into my eyes (in the AV piccy, to the left, duh!) and tell ME what YOU see... 

In case you lack the capacity, I will tell you, you see a Man who will ROCK YOUR WORLD, on a dozen different levels, no matter WHAT your age is.  While I can only go maybe 2/3's as many times as I used to, 20-30 years ago, I can go much, much longer these days.  Besides, twice each night and once each morning is still usually more than enough (it ain't braggin if you CAN do it) for most age groups.  I can go less, but not too much more than that.  Not only can/will I lick you for hours on end, STILL, I am better able to "read" your body, now.  So I KNOW when to ease up and leave the man-in-the-boat and dally around the sholeline until you're ready to be "rowed" some more, plus I can tell by your (breathing, moving, not moving, shuddering, gasping, arrhythmic-sphincter-grasping/puckering) reactions if I am on the right track, or not.  I can spank to hurt (bare-handed, ALWAYS; I love the feel of quivering flesh), or swat-dat-ass 50-times and not leave a lasting-mark (but you WILL feel it, mon cheré) . I understand that sometimes you just want to be held, and sometimes you really DO want to be taken by a SAVAGE BEAST; and, I am usually able to tell the difference between the two (again) looks in your eyes.  Sometimes you need a Daddy, sometimes you just need a friend.  And, sometimes, sometimes you want to be genuinely IMPRESSED by your Man, and so I will order in Italian/Spanish/French/German (but, honestly, WHO goes to a German restaurant except when they are IN Germany, really).

I dint learn all that overnight, nor have I had all of that within me for the last 15-30 years.

I STILL "balance-walk" along curbs (remember doing that?) whenever I get the chance.  I STILL splash through puddles, when its wet out after a rain.  I STILL do doughnuts in the parking lots (in the snow) until the po-po come and make me stop (although, at my skill-level, I tend to do it in-and-around the light poles, as opposed to avoiding them).  I STILL lie awake, stretched along the hood of my car, on warm summer nights, and wonder up at the stars.  I STILL ride my bicycle, for FUN (for commuting I prefer to burn fossil-fuels, thank you), and, I still sometimes fall and skin my knee (ankle/elbow/skull).  I STILL like to tickle you until you laugh so hard no more sound comes out.  I STILL go for long runs (6-10 miles, is a medium-length run, for me, OK) on those rare weather days when it should be cold but it's warm/should be warm but its cool.  I STILL masturbate, when no ones looking (I hope).  And HUNDREDS more, along those lines...

Life will NEVER beat those enjoyments (oh, and I STILL make up words when conventional ones lack the proper emphasis) out of me, no matter how old I get

I can cook (better than you), and have done it, WELL, for the last 20+ years.  I can repair most car problems (given the proper tools), and have for the last 25 years. I can fix small, medium, and some large appliances, and have for the last 20 years.  I can fix computers (hardwaree OR software, ususally), and have for the last 12 years.  I can write poetry and short stories, and have for the last 35 years.     I can do home repairs and remodeling, and have for the last 35 years (necessity and our economic state, back then, meant I started VERY early).

Most of these things I have been capable of nearly ALL my life.

So, when I say I can "rock your world" on many different levels, it is not an empty claim, my dear(s).  There is something for nearly ANY age group and, if you fit the "profile" of what *I* am looking for, no matter your age, look into my eyes, and tell ME what YOU see...

If you ask 1000 different people you will get 1000 different answers (scroll back up and re-read, if you are not convinced of that simple truth).  1000 different truths to why/why not.

That (above) is mine.

My last relationship (vanilla) was with wonderful, bright, intelligent, active 40-year-old woman.  The one before that was with a 26-year-old who rarely went out.  Now, I have a potential sub (that I met here, on CM), who just might agree to come live with me.  She is 27/28-ish (I never ask these things).  If it doesn't work I may have to date your GMILF...




Eliana -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/11/2008 8:19:11 PM)

Thanks for all the answers. [:)]




azjojoba -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/11/2008 8:47:23 PM)

You will find on this website that there aren't many older women. For the most part most of them are younger than 30, and it drops off rapidly each 5 years as you increase the age filter. For guys like me that like older women the internet is very frustrating. This website isn't unique either -- go to Craigslist and you will see that very few women over the age of 40  post personal ads (those that are over 40 are usually looking for a marriage partner). So, if you are a man in his 50s, you will have no choice but to look for younger women if you look at all. Of course most men prefer younger women so that probably works out OK.




KMsAngel -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/11/2008 11:59:11 PM)

ahem.. *fans self* suddenly got hot here.....

and for the record, i particularly like men my age or older.

younger men are nice and all, but they tend to want different things to where i'm at in my life now.

older men tend to be at the same level and *shrugs* there's that experience thing that a lot of women are attracted to.




Rover -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/12/2008 7:04:42 AM)

Apologies for being late to the thread, and quite possibly redundant.
 
In relationships that thrive on perceptions of "inequities", why is it surprising that some folks might be attracted an inequity of age?  And although age is no sure sign of anything more than having eaten a few more birthday cakes, it *can* convey a perception of experience, power, reliability, etc. that enhances a power exchange relationship.
 
Or it *can* seem awfully creepy. 
 
It's just another personal preference.
 
John




Observer20 -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/12/2008 8:19:48 AM)

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ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff

I personally prefer older women. Mistress is almost 30 years older than me, but our relationship works. I cannot stand most girls my age (and I do mean GIRLS). Many of them are either selfish, stupid, or worse, both. Neither of these traits make for a good partner for me. Now granted, there are exceptions, but in my mind, they are few and far between.


I agree with you, I am not attracted to girls my age, and I would just laugh if a girl my age tried to dominate me, I just could not take her seriously. I have always been attracted to women that have been 15-20 years older than me. (I am 21, so women in their 30s and 40s do it for me)

I forgot to say that as a Top, age doesn't matter. But when I bottom, it does. Also, I prefer older women in a serious relationship as well.




jezzabelle19 -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/12/2008 8:44:25 AM)

im 19 and my Master is 46. i never intended to be collared to someone that much older than me but it happened. and He is happy and so am i, thats all that matters.




masterforRT -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/13/2008 2:35:24 AM)

IMHO, Doms are like fine wine-the older we are, the better we are.

Kabiche?




WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Do younger subs/slaves really want much older Dominants? (11/13/2008 4:51:25 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: masterforRT

IMHO, Doms are like fine wine-the older we are, the better we are.

Kabiche?


And some of you just turn to vinegar. 




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