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what is it with men - 12/19/2005 5:31:46 AM

Yourkitten

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this is for the men who think that when they write to you and say id love to pinch those nipples or get between your thighs. if you are really looking for someone to add to your life write (talk) like you would in a live conversation. when you first meet someone i am sure you dont talk nasty. to get respect its good to give it first.

what makes you think by saying those things that im going to jump in my truck and drive right over. and as for the profiles...... i think spell check would be a good thing. read what you write and fix the mis spells. take time to say what you want and for those who write and then i go look at your profile. you dont say anything. its an empty box. at least put what you are looking for and what you like. how can i say i am interested if there is nothing to read.

as for my profile, i am in the process of moving into a new home so i just put a few things in it. but i do have words in the box and tell my most important thing to me right now. i have cats. if you dont like them then you already know i do and that gives you a partial insight to who i am.

so, men, talk like a person not an animal and put a few things in your profiles

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 5:55:51 AM

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First if all Yourkitten, welcome to the state! Not sure how far you are from Me but we can see---always nice to have someone to have lunch with--welcome to CM and the boards----may you find what you seek, but be patient---as for men, their approaches and profiles--adnauseum---it still all comes down to the battle of the sexes--there are good Ones out there, it takes time--but they get the score---

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 6:03:22 AM

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You're experiencing the fantasy versus reality problem. Too many people, both Dom and sub and male and female, think that BDSM and D/s is something out of a cheap porno novel. And that's the approach they tend to use and the model they go by in approaching a potential partner. At least that makes it easier to spot the people who actually have lifestyle experience. And that's the way to need to think about it. Because you're not going to get very far by tossing pearls of wisdom before swine.

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 6:07:48 AM

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Ahhh attack of the fishermen

All new profiles are pounced on.... fresh meat.

I call them the fishermen because that is all they are doing... tossing out their line in hopes to get a bite.

I puzzle this activity much deeper than 'why do these jackasses behave like this'. I'm thinking that if this tact is used so widely by so many, it must produce results from time to time or they would attempt other methods to "LAND THE BIG ONE".

There is a nifty feature on here that will become your best friend. It is called the block button.

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 6:09:05 AM

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thank you MH00314, lunch does sound good.

and thank you MasterRobert.

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 6:10:36 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Yourkitten

this is for the men who think that when they write to you and say id love to pinch those nipples or get between your thighs.

Just one thought....

If you didn't want folks commenting on your nipples as one of their opening remarks, it might be a good idea to not use a nipple showing picture in your profile.

Hope this helps. :)

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 6:15:15 AM

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when you post a provacative picture what else do you expect? You put a picture out there of your nipples, in a sexually alluring pose. You will get that kind of unwarranted attention. What irks me to no end is people who post pictures of themselves naked and then wonder why they get all this kind of email. If you don't want emails like that post a picture of just your beautiful face. You are a beautiful woman, but when you put out pictures of you naked, you should expect some of that attention.

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 7:09:11 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: justatoy2

when you post a provacative picture what else do you expect? You put a picture out there of your nipples, in a sexually alluring pose. You will get that kind of unwarranted attention. What irks me to no end is people who post pictures of themselves naked and then wonder why they get all this kind of email. If you don't want emails like that post a picture of just your beautiful face. You are a beautiful woman, but when you put out pictures of you naked, you should expect some of that attention.

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 7:17:54 AM

MsIncognito

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Along the same lines, what is it with women who put provocative pics on their profile and then get all bent out of shape when they get provocative responses? Seems a tad incongruous to me.

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 7:26:43 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: justatoy2

when you post a provacative picture what else do you expect? You put a picture out there of your nipples, in a sexually alluring pose. You will get that kind of unwarranted attention. What irks me to no end is people who post pictures of themselves naked and then wonder why they get all this kind of email. If you don't want emails like that post a picture of just your beautiful face. You are a beautiful woman, but when you put out pictures of you naked, you should expect some of that attention.

Ahhhh...I see. So women shouldn't wear a short skirt to work, or to the store, or a sheer material, or wear her hair down, or wear red....cause you'll invite getting crudely approached in public too. PUHLEAZZZEE! Or even raped?...cause of what you were wearing?

(Extreme example...I know.

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So someone deserves to be crudely approached because they choose to use a more sexually charged type photo to express themselves? Some will see the photo as artistic expression. Some will see as sexually charged. Some will see it as a sign of submission. Some will see it as a crude invitation...but it doesn't warrant what it appears she's receiving...just from the photo. Her profile doesn't say she's seeking to be a slut, or open to sex invitations, or did I miss that paragraph.

A sexual pose, or erotic photo doesn't invalidate courtesy, IMO.

Yourkitten, I'm sorry you're getting some disturbing e-mails, but it's the way of online. You could have NO photo, and still get that type of e-mails.

It is apparent that some will find the photo to be the invitation. Some of the response posts here confirm that. You might reconsider the photo, although I wouldn't....'cause it's a good indication to the type of men that may be contacting you, and you can eliminate them a lot quicker from your own interest list.

K
Edited for typos.

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 7:30:27 AM

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Hi Lady!

Welcome to the boards (and the zoo). I totally agree with you about the spell check but it's been brought up several times before and to no avail. I also agree about the way some of these guys talk to a lady; pretty poor but at least you don't have to read it all and you DO have a delete button. They just haven't figured out how much that kind of thing hurts their chances of making a contact.

Hope you enjoy this forum. Just relax and learn and participate. Don't worry about how bad some of these people are cuz most of them are really good and cool. You can learn a lot here and make some new friends too.

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 8:01:21 AM

justatoy2

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there is a big difference between wearing a short skirt and putting naked pictures of yourself on the internet. My point was one should expect that kind of attention...im not saying that attention is right or wrong just that she should expect it, and not whine about it. Actually in some ways you are right, this is on line and you should expect alot of disturbing emails. Delete them and not let them bother you.

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 9:02:42 AM

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There's something out there for everyone and griping about coming into contact with someone who's "something" is different from yours really changes nothing. It does seem to be a CM favorite past time, though, so people must gain something by the contact, even if its just the pleasure of complaining about it

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 9:12:22 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

First if all Yourkitten, welcome to the state! --

I second this!!!

I also find the humor in this post yourkitten. Especially after the long thread that developed after fox's comment on what is it with women.

This should get interresting... i'm going to go pop some popcorn and grab a coke....

Again, welcome to the state!!!!

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 9:35:14 AM

Yourkitten

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hello truesub4u, i sort of did this post for that reason lol. as for my pictures, they are not nasty and i think they are tasteful. there is not total nudity so i am not asking for the emails i am getting.

i have gotten many very nice emails from people who are not rude and nasty. i hate getting mail from some who think its their right to tell me what to put in my profile and how to talk to them. i dont know them and if thats how they talk i dont want to know them.

and believe me, i do use my delete and ignore buttons.

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 9:50:40 AM

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Your my hero kitty, joke them if they can't take a screw. Can never have too many friends.

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 9:55:51 AM

Yourkitten

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thank you Sensitivefello, you are toooooo kind

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 9:55:53 AM

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i dont know..
what is with females dressing like some store front model...and expecting guys to treat em like they were a proper lady at a tea brunch?

when you advertise...people WILL answer the ad.........

take care

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 9:58:16 AM

Yourkitten

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my my my, we are getting catty arent we, meow

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RE: what is it with men - 12/19/2005 10:11:25 AM

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Some of us are freaking nasty in real life and the first time we meet someone as well....

And, we all got together and were wondering:

"Well - are you going to pinch those nipples, or what?"

Sincerely:

The Animals.

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