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Aneirin -> RE: Goals in BDSM (11/14/2008 6:29:11 AM)

My goals in Bdsm is the same as the goals in life, because bdsm is life, or it can be part of it. My goals are to know who I am, what I am and be comfortable with it. Now if by doing that I can shine some warmth on others along the way, then that is a worthy direction.

It is my belief we come together, are attracted to each other because there is something the other has that we need to experience and learn by, or it is that we have something very important to give.

Perhaps it is though we all be humans, there are different types of humans and the types attract and repel each other for the purposes of learning.



DesFIP -> RE: Goals in BDSM (11/14/2008 8:00:24 AM)

The goal for us is to build a strong relationship that will weather storms. The framework is D/s with a high level of emotional transparency.



RainydayNE -> RE: Goals in BDSM (11/14/2008 8:40:50 AM)

i don't think makign a sub more stable and well-rounded is a goal for EVERYONE.
some subs already are.

if a Dom/me sees an issue that's annoying, they can deal with it if they want, but i don't think that's a universal desire.
i've got an eye contact issue that he did this whole exercise with. it was ridiculously helpful and i appreciated it alot, but i wouldn't fault him for not doing it. =p

the only objective that i can see in any relationship is to be happy with each other more often than not =p



ElectraGlide -> RE: Goals in BDSM (11/14/2008 8:50:14 AM)

I agree with Rover alot, he cuts the BS out of it and gets to the point. I look forward to reading his intelligent postings. On the other hand, Hathalud has dug this so deep it is complicated to figure out.



agirl -> RE: Goals in BDSM (11/14/2008 10:36:59 AM)

Im bdsm my goals have been simple things like wanting to experience something...eg. a needle corset, learning how to flog, learning how to be proficient with a whip.....these things come up along the way and he makes them happen.

In our 'relationship' we really don't have any goals; it doesn't require them.....but M's done a lot of the things you've mentioned in terms of guiding me toward solutions throughout the years.

There's nothing wrong with offering people guidance, advice or lending them your strength when their's is low. There's nothing wrong with talking to people and causing them to think. I do it all the time and people make me think too.

I don't mind saying that there have been times when my life has been a total mess and I've been so mired in it that I couldn't have seen the route out if I'd had the strength to look.........Thank God for M's calm hand reaching out at those times.

It's not reciprocal like many relationships; He doesn't 'need' me to provide anything for him.

Much of what you do is done by anyone with an interest in a person.

agirl











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