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PeonForHer -> RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? (11/15/2008 10:35:49 AM)
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FM,
Firstly, I'm strongly behind Sambamanslilgirl when she says threads are not the personal property of the anyone after posted on a site like this. I'm a veteran of a few other forums and none has operated on the basis of a simple "question from one person, answers all addressed to that person" principle. IMO, the more useful and relevant analogy for everyone is that of a seminar. One person starts a debate - 'the student giving the paper', i.e. the OP - and all participants (with any luck) benefit. This idea, that many people may join in on a forum thread with their own interests and their own answers to others' questions is what keeps forums like this lively. Not just one person, but many people, benefit.
Secondly, I've been caught out only too often in my own prejudice that there exists some sort of "privileged knowledge". For me, when I've held that belief in the past, I've nearly always been proven wrong. Two prime and recent examples here, on CM, spring to mind. One was a recent post from a lady (a quite heart-rending one, for me) who had readily agreed to take the dominant role with her partner but, for some reason that wasn't clear to her, wasn't quite able to take the plunge. Now, to me, as a sub male (and a pretty inexperienced one at that), it seemed, at first, overwhelmingly like I had no business in answering this lady. It felt pretty obviously like something experienced dommes alone should answer. Yet, when I did put in my two-pennyworth, the lady in question did seem to be helped. She expressed quite some gratitude (I say with my head inflating mightily here!)
The other example relates to the pretty painful experience I had when I first arrived here. I was struggling, very hard, to make my own feelings clear to myself on the essence of my own sub nature. A lot of dommes helped, a lot of sub males helped; but it was, finally, a sub female who expressed a point in such a way for me that it hit straight to the core. I'm still thanking her to this day for turning up on a thread that one might have thought would have had little interest or relevance for her.
Thirdly, a special note re a few sub males who write on this forum (and I'm not talking about myself here!): they invariably consider things very, very carefully, never post without lots of thought and concern for the topic and always, for me, are worth reading on whatever they say. It would be a disgrace, in my view, if their opinions were to be considered irrelevant because they come from the "wrong demographic". Actually, even more a disgrace than if their opinions were to be rubbished because they were considered to be mere 'philosophical ramblings'.
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