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hopelesslyInvo -> RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? (11/18/2008 1:09:32 PM)
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i skipped most of this thread's contents, so regardless, if i revisit something already made note of...
the mistress forum was the first one i ended up in, i didn't go looking for it, i didn't even know i was in it; i was on CM's front page perusing profiles and i noted that little box in the lower left hand corner had a post of interest to me that i felt like voicing myself about. keep in mind this is something everyone on CM sees, not just people who expressly come into the mistress forum; all i saw was the thread title and the first lines of the latest post. that box has lead me to many divisions and threads, but one thing holds true about that little box's contents; i didn't and still do not care where the thread may lie, if the topic is of interest to me i'll post on it.
after initially posting though, and coming to realize i was in fact in the forum entitled "ask a mistress", i did become somewhat leery about continuing to do so and made my way into "where i'm supposed to be". despite my attempt to hang around the submissive forum though, i had an exceedingly small amount of interest in it, as it is predominately all female subs replying to questions regarding "masters" or questions of other female subs. i didn't belong there, couldn't hardly relate to any of it, let alone have anything to contribute, and so i didn't care to hang around much; while the mistress forum on the other hand had many topics and people of interest to me which i could relate to, so time to time i would find myself posting here, yet still be timid of people's reactions in my doing so.
in voicing my concern over the awkwardness i had one day, every mistress here that cared to comment invited me to feel welcome and continue to post, let me know i should feel free to do so in anywhere i'd like, and encouraging me to offer my input in other boards such as general and even "ask a master" of all places. grateful for such response from many of the others here, i damn sure intended to continue to contribute whenever i felt i had something to, or believed others might like to hear; even though i was disheartened by a few people at one point and disappeared for a while [due to a circumstance both uninvolved with me being submissive or male, and by posters who did/do not frequent this forum].
for the most part though, it says "in the hope of receiving answers from that particular perspective", regardless of who is saying what, we are all providing them that because it all the perspective we all have. beyond that, both the master and submissive/slave forum is so saturated by dominant men and submissive women, that this forum is pretty much the unintended home for people like me, and i think many of the mistresses realize it is that way too, as they very often will pose a question or though to the mistresses among them, as well as an adverse question to the submissives to give feedback on. it's not as though "we" come on here and speak from the viewpoint of a mistress, we offer up our own advice/opinions/viewpoints/experiences in the forum which holds the most interest, pertinence, and relevance to us; it is after all the mistress forum for gods sake, it's going to draw "this" audience, and would likely be less interesting to everyone if it only consisted of a stark segregated crowd.
but really, the forums are a community of like-minded individuals engaging in conversation, this is the subforum in which we're able to find those who are even more closely like-minded, and despite the forum being titled "ask a mistress", "we" are no less entitled to post our thoughts than the "mistresses" are required to answer anyone's questions. it's not a public service anyone is here to perform, we're all here because we want to be, to mull and muse under most circumstances, and anyone truly interested in getting "answers" should be happy to have the diversity this forum is provided, while the diversity we are afforded is still part of "the same crowd".
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