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fyreredsub -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/24/2005 1:27:16 PM)
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several of us made the suggestion in the other thread. of is this lifestyle really what you seek.....i did not make it in a bad way either, i do not wish to see her get hurt, and that is all i see happening by the limits she is placing on herself....methinks it is a man w/ dominant qualities and a wee bit o kinky sex thrown in the mix....but hey thats my 02.
only she knows what she needs and wants...my psych n counseling degrees dont mean diddly,lol, in these forums...
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ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily
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Sometimes i see a profile and it's very appealing; then i get to the part where He discusses what He wants; and so often He wants a bisexual or "bicurious" woman; and i feel sad.
Are straight women just not exciting? Is monogamy just never enough? i have a clear vision of a life or peace and joy with my One; but apparently few men are interested in that vision.
Don't misunderstand; i get mail; but often when i actually IM with Him -- He asks "would you?' and the answer is "no f**king way"; and we come to an end. *Sigh*.
Am i suffering alone?
candystripper
Well, Candy, I never suffered, so I don't quite understand where you are coming from. But clearly you don't like suffering in silence given how prolific you've been on the boards lately.
For someone who's getting such a copious amount of mail, you certainly find flaw with everyone who's written you. Perhaps you are looking for something/someone that's not appropriate to BDSM. In other words, maybe you are searching for your prince in the wrong neighborhood.
You continually start contrary threads that involve concepts that most of us who are actually involved in this lifestyle accept. In order to actually be active around here, one has to employ a certain amount of tolerance for others. I don't detect in you a level of tolerance that will allow you to view others in a way that we generally do in this neck of the woods. One of the first concepts I learned when I entered the scene basically boiled down to 'everyone's kink is ok'. That doesn't mean I would participate in everything, or that some people don't do things that I find shocking. What it does mean is it is their right to do so without judgement or scrutiny.
My advise to you is consider where you are looking for a mate. This is a free website for people interested in alternative relationships with a bend toward BDSM. Perhaps you don't fully understand what that means, because you are clearly antagonistic about almost everything that those of us who are experienced take for granted.
Honey, maybe you are just looking for a vanilla man who's got leadership qualities. There's nothing wrong with that. If I were you, I'd take some time and explore that.
Lily
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