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candystripper -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 2:00:35 PM)
quote: My advice: get a sense of humor transplant and take two chill pills. Even my straightest most vanilla friends joke about hooking up with someone of the same gender. You remind me of what I enjoy the most about my kinky friends and aquaintances: they are open minded and I can say almost anything without getting freaked out reactions. To me stretching boundaries is what my life is all about. Try it sometime - it's quite liberating. Shayna Yes, you're right. i lost my sense of humor after the mean-spiritedness that went on in this thread. Let me recuperate and i'll be back as witty as ever. candystripper

candystripper -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 2:03:19 PM)
quote: i'm a straight monogamous woman ( of course in your book according to your own words yesterday, I'm not,lol) and i DONT UNDERSTAND you at all, nor do i want to, and i dont think my opinion need be placed on here.... after all i have seen and read this past 24 hrs. i see why br....spot has the ATTITUDE she does... YOU CAN FOOL SOME OF THE PEOPLE SOME OF THE TIME......... (sorry for caps) but it all comes out in the wash in the end i'm sorry ...shrugs and walks away in ____________(fillin the blank) grabs boots n shovel fyreredsub i thought you had blocked my posts? i was sorta counting on it. candystripper

fyreredsub -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 2:58:39 PM)
NO.... i blocked you on my email. [;)] quote: ORIGINAL: candystripper quote: i'm a straight monogamous woman ( of course in your book according to your own words yesterday, I'm not,lol) and i DONT UNDERSTAND you at all, nor do i want to, and i dont think my opinion need be placed on here.... after all i have seen and read this past 24 hrs. i see why br....spot has the ATTITUDE she does... YOU CAN FOOL SOME OF THE PEOPLE SOME OF THE TIME......... (sorry for caps) but it all comes out in the wash in the end i'm sorry ...shrugs and walks away in ____________(fillin the blank) grabs boots n shovel fyreredsub i thought you had blocked my posts? i was sorta counting on it. candystripper

LadiesBladewing -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 3:01:55 PM)
What a pity that so much bandwidth is being taken by petty bickering. I came in the hopes that 11 pages of commentary meant a fascinating conversation... oh well. sighs Lady Zephyr

Nendarye -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 3:19:08 PM)
quote: Are straight women just not exciting Who says you can not be 'straight' and yet be curious at the same time? quote: i have a clear vision of a life or peace and joy with my One; but apparently few men are interested in that vision. As does every single person who ever ventures out into the world looking for someone with whom they connect. quote: For many people this is about exploring and expanding boundaries and they seek partners who are willing to explore in the same areas they are. This is very true. But it should not just be confined to a level of BDSM or D/s...you should always be seeking to expand your life experiences in EVERY way. quote: i think straight women get disrespected here sometimes, as some people think they are bisexual and just haven't figured it out yet Hmm, sorry, but I am straight, and yet I have been with women. They don't turn me on though, and I would never go looking for one on my own. quote: my point was the high percent of Doms and Masters seeking bisexual women is somewhat discouraging... I fail to see where it could be discouraging? Most men list that as a fantasy of theirs. It does not mean that it will ever happen, but it is something that they do think about. All they are asking is that you be open minded enough to allow them that fantasy. quote: don't know what it's like for bisexual people; whether if they attempt monogamy they are left longing for a fulfilling relationship with the sex not chosen, or what. And does it vary from person to person, or over a lifetime. I am sorry but I have to ask...where does it say that bisexual's are NOT monogamous? quote: Hmmm, a tricky one in and of itself. I am straight. I have no bisexual tenencies what-so-ever. But I have been with a woman. And not because I was told to either. I offered it as an anniversary present for my first year anniversary to my husband. He had always respected my wish not to have other women ( though he often mentioned the possibility), but I knew that it was something he wanted. So, I gave it as a present. It did not make our relationship anything less that what it was; which was monogamus, and nor did it make me bisexual. Many men list this more as a fantasy than as a reality :) /waves at the Irish girl [;)] quote: Thank you for posting as you did; so many people have told me i will never find Him unless i change my decisions and lower my sights Not lower your sights, just widen your eyes a bit. Just because a man asks if you would consider another woman...notice the word consider...does not mean that that is what he wants; it may mean nothing more sinsiter than 'I want to know how you will react when I say this'. Getting bent out of shape, and saying 'no fucking way'...well, if I was man, looking for a monogamous relationship...and posted that question to a woman, and she responded in such a way...I would end conversations also, simply because of the rudeness and the 'I am putting my foot down and not budging' stance. quote: Straight people are not dumb asses who cannot get out of their own way; they are just people who want a monogamous relationship with a member of the opposite sex, Hmmm, so, since I am straight, and monogamous...this means I can not appreciate a member of the same sex? quote: Dont forget the strawberry flavored oil and the vodka. LOL no vodka for the Irish...not unless you want to be carrying her around...that poor girl can't hold her liquer :P

candystripper -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 3:30:20 PM)
quote: NO.... i blocked you on my email. fyreredsub fyreredsub, we have nothing constructive to say; please block my posts. i will block yours. Maybe at some point we can calmly discuss our differences, but not now. candystripper

candystripper -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 3:33:04 PM)
quote: What a pity that so much bandwidth is being taken by petty bickering. I came in the hopes that 11 pages of commentary meant a fascinating conversation... oh well. sighs Lady Zephyr Imagine how i feel. If You've read through You've seen the public displays of hostility by JohnWarren and KoM; a fact i still cannot understand; not to mention alll the anger. It's not added value to my life; apart from possibly waking me up to some false friends. candystripper

candystripper -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 3:37:16 PM)
quote: I fail to see where it could be discouraging? Most men list that as a fantasy of theirs. It does not mean that it will ever happen, but it is something that they do think about. All they are asking is that you be open minded enough to allow them that fantasy. Nendarye i'll save you some reading. i am unwilling to discuss the possibility of a third person in my private life with my One. i am equally unwilling to discuss having any sort of bisexual encounter. So, throw rocks if you like; i've been found wanting by others here already. Yet, my core values are involved and i will not change. candystripper

IrishMist -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 3:50:41 PM)
quote: LOL no vodka for the Irish...not unless you want to be carrying her around...that poor girl can't hold her liquer :P SHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH no telling of secrets quote: apart from possibly waking me up to some false friends. Candy, just the fact that you would say something like that...frankly it surprises me. I can not believe that you would place so little value on others speaking their own minds. I read their posts, and they responded to comments that you and you alone made...if that makes them false friends in your book...well, honey, I just feel sorry for you. quote: i've been found wanting by others here already Yes, but it was made by you, and not by them. What started out as nothing more than a posting of different opinions...you took, twisted them around, and turned them into an attack on yourself. Honey, it's great that you have core values...but, listening to you here...it's quite obvious that unless everyone agrees with your core values...and pats you on the back for being so strong with them...well, quite frankly...you turned your back on everyone here, and refused to even listen to what they were saying. I am sorry if you feel that we all dumped on you...but it was a dumping of your own doing.

fyreredsub -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 4:07:41 PM)
will merlot and a hot tub work???[8D] i'm leaving the rest alone. people have heard enough of my opinion and we all know that saying[;)] besides its all in the other one but ayup, you hit the nail on the head xmas cheer to you Irish

Nendarye -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 4:17:16 PM)
quote: will merlot and a hot tub work??? Psst... She likes whiskey /nods

JohnWarren -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 4:29:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IrishMist Yes, but it was made by you, and not by them. What started out as nothing more than a posting of different opinions...you took, twisted them around, and turned them into an attack on yourself. I'll note that it was she who asked me to block her. Of course, that public message was preceeded by an email that took an entirely unacceptable approach and had already predisposed me to the decision. I've found that it was probably a good move in any case.

fyreredsub -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 6:05:01 PM)
i'm on good behavior[:D] (too bad they dont have a thingie that bats her eyelashes)lol. now where's that dang ole' hottub quote: ORIGINAL: JohnWarren quote: ORIGINAL: IrishMist Yes, but it was made by you, and not by them. What started out as nothing more than a posting of different opinions...you took, twisted them around, and turned them into an attack on yourself. I'll note that it was she who asked me to block her. Of course, that public message was preceeded by an email that took an entirely unacceptable approach and had already predisposed me to the decision. I've found that it was probably a good move in any case.

fyreredsub -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 6:07:56 PM)
uhmmmmmmmmm that is a good thing...(thinks of toby keith song...whiskey girl) i'll go have some chilled wine,whiskey gets me into trouble[8D] goes off to sing straight woman blues while awaiting Master(he's still off w/ his family but soon he'll be here) quote: ORIGINAL: Nendarye quote: will merlot and a hot tub work??? Psst... She likes whiskey /nods

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 6:36:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JohnWarren I'll note that it was she who asked me to block her. Of course, that public message was preceeded by an email that took an entirely unacceptable approach and had already predisposed me to the decision. I've found that it was probably a good move in any case. Ah good adding name to list of people Candy implores to offlist Now, the clincher is, did she ask you to change/stop your postings? That gets you into the VIP section of the list.

JohnWarren -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 7:14:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Ah good adding name to list of people Candy implores to offlist Now, the clincher is, did she ask you to change/stop your postings? That gets you into the VIP section of the list. Nope, I'm just a regular member of the Peanut Gallery. Such is life.

candystripper -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 7:48:22 PM)
quote: Candy, just the fact that you would say something like that...frankly it surprises me. I can not believe that you would place so little value on others speaking their own minds. I read their posts, and they responded to comments that you and you alone made...if that makes them false friends in your book...well, honey, I just feel sorry for you. IrishMist i was not referring to people's opinions. i was referring to both JohnWarren and KoM making a public display of ending our friendships and placing me on block. i mean, Lordy, i did not burn the BDSM flag. i just suggested -- ok, insisted -- that monogamy is necesssary for me to bond with a Man, and that there will be no 3rd parties -- no bisexual encounters -- in my life. i gave ample respect to the life choices of others. O, and i used that blasted phrase, "High Monogamy" which everyone seems to have jumped to conclusions about; although what it means i have explained at least twice that i can recall. candystripper

candystripper -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 7:50:55 PM)
quote: Yes, but it was made by you, and not by them. What started out as nothing more than a posting of different opinions...you took, twisted them around, and turned them into an attack on yourself. Honey, it's great that you have core values...but, listening to you here...it's quite obvious that unless everyone agrees with your core values...and pats you on the back for being so strong with them...well, quite frankly...you turned your back on everyone here, and refused to even listen to what they were saying. I am sorry if you feel that we all dumped on you...but it was a dumping of your own doing. IrishMist After a good night's sleep i'll re-read the thread again, hon. i value your opinion. But as of now, i don't agree. candystripper

candystripper -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 7:58:18 PM)
quote: I'll note that it was she who asked me to block her. Of course, that public message was preceeded by an email that took an entirely unacceptable approach and had already predisposed me to the decision. I've found that it was probably a good move in any case. JohnWarren Your behavior especially upset me; i thought of You as wise. i admired You. i did not ask You to block my posts ; i made a light-hearted reference to "corner time". i did go back and read the email i sent You. i was going to publish it here, but it contains too much personal information about me that i'd never choose to make public. i am again amazed that You were offended by my email; i guess it's best we leave each other be. Such a sad thing to have happen. candystripper

petwolf22 -> RE: Straight Woman Blues (12/25/2005 7:59:09 PM)
having a fantasy of a threesome does not make a man not monogamous, it doesn't mean a man has to fulfill that fantasy in order to live a better life. A lot of our fantasies stay just that--fantasies. Finding a man that not only doesn't want that in real life, but doesn't have it as a fantasy either...may be difficult, who knows. Allowing for fantasies, and living out the fantasies are two different things. Good luck to you.

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