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Aszhrae -> RE: A semi philosophical question. (11/22/2008 4:54:00 PM)
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I had written on another thread about the need to see your sub as not just a toy. Fellow Doms, don't get me wrong, she is there to serve and to please, but, to truly get the most out of her I believe that there must be a mental connection when vertical before play begins. As such, she trusts you more and you explore her more fully. I find that I simply get bored with subs who have nothing to themselves. So my question to the Doms and the subs out there is:
To the Doms:
Which play is better and more satisfying to you? Do you prefer to have the totally disposable little toy? Or, do you find that breaking in one that you actually care for as a person is more of a challenge and produces more of a gain? I suppose that the way that I phrased that indicates my preference...
To the Subs: Would you rather be chewed up and spit out or, would you rather have a Dom who sees you and into you where you have developed a more serious bond?
To both:
Obviously both have thier place depending on the scene and the appetite, but which really makes it for you?
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ORIGINAL: DoctorJeep
I had written on another thread about the need to see your sub as not just a toy. Fellow Doms, don't get me wrong, she is there to serve and to please, but, to truly get the most out of her I believe that there must be a mental connection when vertical before play begins. As such, she trusts you more and you explore her more fully. I find that I simply get bored with subs who have nothing to themselves. So my question to the Doms and the subs out there is:
To the Doms:
Which play is better and more satisfying to you? Do you prefer to have the totally disposable little toy? Or, do you find that breaking in one that you actually care for as a person is more of a challenge and produces more of a gain? I suppose that the way that I phrased that indicates my preference...
To the Subs: Would you rather be chewed up and spit out or, would you rather have a Dom who sees you and into you where you have developed a more serious bond?
To both:
Obviously both have thier place depending on the scene and the appetite, but which really makes it for you?
Reading through the thread and of the various opinions given in reply.
The first choice for being a sub is not an option. The second choice for girl is, but to have such a bond, girl needs to have certain things occur first: agreed that its LTR, that girl has offered TPE and that girl has considered RACK, the final thing and most important is that the dominant can be allowed into girl's head. There is no place for being a toy, to be used and discarded. Girl has too much respect in the dominant to be treated in such away. After all, if the dominant would simply discard girl after they have been 'filled up' that really doesn't say much about the dominant and even less of girl.
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