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RE: Wanting punishment when upset normal? - 12/4/2008 4:22:36 PM

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i will ask my Dom to be punished if i feel upset, anxious, depressed, etc etc. And he will gladly oblige. My Dom also knows that when i do ask, that it will automatically be a hard punishment. So yes, for me it is normal to ask for it depending on my feelings.

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RE: Wanting punishment when upset normal? - 12/4/2008 7:28:02 PM

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No wonder I feel tons better after a flogging. The chemicals are rushing in my blood , so rich in oxygen, easing my pain. Time for Alexis to punish me more...

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RE: Wanting punishment when upset normal? - 12/4/2008 10:17:35 PM

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I find that I want to be hit or striked, or taken.. as I am stressed and upset. It helps me cope, so I can understand the feelings and relate.

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RE: Wanting punishment when upset normal? - 12/4/2008 10:22:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: panthersub

i will ask my Dom to be punished if i feel upset, anxious, depressed, etc etc. And he will gladly oblige. My Dom also knows that when i do ask, that it will automatically be a hard punishment. So yes, for me it is normal to ask for it depending on my feelings.

I know what you mean, but for us, we refrain from using "punishment" unless it is one. There's already enough confusion between fun spanks, punishment spanks, and sadism spanks without adding more on purpose.

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RE: Wanting punishment when upset normal? - 12/5/2008 1:22:54 PM

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I personally an always at my most relaxed when i am tied up and am completely in Master's control. There is nothing more relaxing in the world for me. All of my problems just seem to disappear. So I would say that it's fairly common for slaves/subs/bottoms to get relief out of being punnished.

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RE: Wanting punishment when upset normal? - 12/8/2008 6:10:37 PM

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yes when i get stressed out i need punishment...i seek it out, sometimes not even thinking clearly what i am doing...it's a form self-medication...there is nothing wrong with that but you should find a dominant who understands and is willing to help...sadly enough, not too many dominants understand masochists...they focus too much on the d/s power exchange which doesn't help the needy masochist in suffering

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RE: Wanting punishment when upset normal? - 12/9/2008 3:45:23 AM

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for me, a session with my Master is very cathartic. It gets all that stress and worry out, makes them go away so that i can be relaxed and happy. Gotta love those endorphins!

i don't act out for a punishment either. All i have to do is ask from my knees... He is always willing to give me a 'good girl' spanking, if i need some release.

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RE: Wanting punishment when upset normal? - 12/9/2008 6:49:28 AM

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I too, love this quote: I am very found of having my frustrations taken out on me. but for me, it doesnt work exactly the same. I dont need them taken out on me, just out OF me, but I dont feel I need to be punished, either. I just need to be beaten for the sheer sake of physical release. Im no pain slut, and it's only happened 3 times in my life, but every so often I get so stressed so fast that my body shuts down around the emotion and I get stuck in it-no matter what i do its physically inside of me and it affects me emotionally-thats when I take the/my Dom aside and plead to be beaten. I dont feel the need, personally, to act up to get it, but what I am describing seems a bit different from the OP's scenario.

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RE: Wanting punishment when upset normal? - 12/9/2008 5:20:11 PM

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It isn't punishment if you haven't done anything wrong. It's just being under their control physically in a manner which allows release of emotions. Although the word punishment is a lot shorter and easier to say!

It isn't funishment because we're not looking for it to be fun. Just a cathartic experience.

We need a better way to refer to it.

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RE: Wanting punishment when upset normal? - 12/9/2008 5:59:20 PM

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I can relate to the feeling of wanting a good beating when I'm stressed.. the endorphins almost invariably make me feel better..

What she said...
though i identify as a submissive, and not a bottom or particularly masochistic. Just a girl who likes a beating every now and then.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lLOcDfeMvp8

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RE: Wanting punishment when upset normal? - 12/9/2008 6:51:30 PM

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aw lets face it..nuthing calms a sub down faster than a good ass woopen..LOLOLOL...then again..nuthing calms a Dom down faster than giving them what they want..hee-hee

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RE: Wanting punishment when upset normal? - 12/10/2008 7:39:40 PM

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ORIGINAL: BarbiE74
I keep trying to walk away from this LS for various reasons, but it is so in me that everytime I walk away I find myself slowly coming back. Something I have found is when I am upset about something or stressed I find I want to be punished.... it seems to be a stress reliever for me. Is this typical of a submissive?

Whenever there is dischord or disharmony between us, I don't feel right until I've been disciplined. I feel at fault when we are out of synch, and when he has me kneel before him and he spanks me ever so very hard, in a punishing, disciplining, non-fun-time kind of way, then pulls me onto my knees, has me ask forgiveness or confess what I did wrong, then allows me to suck his cock, all is then well in the world once more.

So: short answer - Yes.

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