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RE: What Do You Prefer? - 11/21/2008 7:31:01 AM   
heartfeltsub


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Status: offline 		Am wondering if there are any others like me whose preference changes based on the amount of stress or lack of control one has in his/her personal life. Currently going through ups and downs with my mom's imminent, not imminent death (things keeps changing). Although i am normally a person who does not need a great deal of protocol or desire a great deal of protocol, i am feeling out of control in my personal life and consequently find myself desiring more external "reinforcement" or reminders of His control.

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RE: What Do You Prefer? - 11/21/2008 8:09:22 AM   
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Do you like/need high protocol, casual or somewhere in between in your dynamic? What and why?



'Depends on context.

My home is a place in which to relax.

The restaurant is a more formal occasion, and as such is a place where I like protocol: ordering wine, ordering food, dress, manners etc.

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RE: What Do You Prefer? - 11/23/2008 7:40:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		I want to thank everyone who responded here. I've very much enjoyed this discussion and reading the thoughts and opinions of others and learning and having more to think on.

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RE: What Do You Prefer? - 11/23/2008 8:10:44 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SassySarijane

Do you like/need high protocol, casual or somewhere in between in your dynamic? What and why?



i like high protocol because it keeps me in line but in all GOOD relationships it varies from time to time so that the slave doesnt feel up tight and gives them time to relax.

in most cases i have learned:

casual= home with Master and fellow slaves
inbetween= mostly with vanilla and lifestyle environment
High= very formal event with lots of leather and or needs for tight control and restrant on actions

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RE: What Do You Prefer? - 11/23/2008 8:16:42 PM   
Aszhrae


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Status: offline 		Girl is not sure this is the correct response, having established protocol reads very clinical to me, white walls, mod furniture, linoleum floors and stainless or surgical steel appliances everywhere.
However girl does perceive a need for ritual in my daily routine. Such is important to me, like stepping stones in being secure and focused on whatever my tasks happen to be, be it pleasure or disciplined.
Casual translates to procrastination. (For me anyways)

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RE: What Do You Prefer? - 11/23/2008 8:49:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		There is definitely no right or wrong answer here. There is simply what works best for you and yours.

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RE: What Do You Prefer? - 11/27/2008 10:14:06 PM   
graceadieu


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Status: offline 		I'm really more interested in a casual dynamic. I'm a very laid-back, casual person generally, so the idea of having to deal with lots of rules and titles and such doesn't seem very appealing. That doesn't mean I'm not going to do what I'm told or to not try to proactively please and serve, I just don't see any need to be all formal about it.

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RE: What Do You Prefer? - 11/28/2008 4:42:41 AM   
SBbiguy


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Status: offline 		I don't know quite how this fits in (someone PM me?),but to be my Mistresses naked servant,blindfolded & bound ..serving whoever she commands me to their sexual needs... 

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RE: What Do You Prefer? - 11/29/2008 9:10:43 PM   
VAcontroldom


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Status: offline 		"Everything depends on the person and the relationship" is so cliche
I'm always in the middle, depends which end of the middle
And I'm big on the whole orgasm on command thing, which requires the same protocol over and over again

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RE: What Do You Prefer? - 11/29/2008 9:34:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like enough so that I know what is expected of me but not so much that it becomes just silly.  To me, learning fifty various slave positions by their numbers is just protocol for its own sake.  No practical value at all.  But having a Mistress tell me that she expects this or that in the morning or for me to do such and such every evening or to address her by a certain title makes sense.

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RE: What Do You Prefer? - 11/30/2008 8:15:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		For me, it all starts with good manners.  As far as levels of protocol, i like whatever feels natural between the Dominant and myself.  We establish protocol, and how deeply we feel the need to go depends on how things progress.  i've had casual where i felt like i was too free, and i've had some high protocol that felt forced and stifling.  (i've also had some high protocol that felt overbearing, yet unbelievably frikkin' hawt!!!)  It depends entirely on the relationship, and the energy my Partner and i share together.



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RE: What Do You Prefer? - 11/30/2008 8:42:14 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavekal

I like enough so that I know what is expected of me but not so much that it becomes just silly.  To me, learning fifty various slave positions by their numbers is just protocol for its own sake.  No practical value at all.  But having a Mistress tell me that she expects this or that in the morning or for me to do such and such every evening or to address her by a certain title makes sense.


Here I do believe you have the wrong end of the slock old boy. Mind you I know of no system which had 50 different slave possitions. I sugest that the half dozen or so slave postures of the Gorean Community do have a grteat deal of value. Apart as good training and a constant reminder of the girl or boy's slavery, it also ads beauty to a service or any interaction between the slave and owner. It is rather lovely to watch too when at a function as serves are rolled out or the slave is kneeling at the feet of his or her owner. (I prefer a girl to kneel besides my left knee so she may rest her head there if I allow it and I may play with her hair if I feel so inclined. Some time ago I enjoyed listening to a classical quartet playing Chopin whilst a slave kneeled beside me with her head on my thigh and my hand toying (in time with the music) with her hair.. Not everyones cup of tea I admit but each to their own


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