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Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 2:17:12 PM

tornaway

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    As Domme women ( or probably ANY woman on here ) , I suspect as I do , you all get regular offers of endless oral service from eager munchers . It often seems as though many of these sub/slaves will settle for anyone willing - who happens to have the desired parts. But it's been talked about elsewhere , that's not what I wish to focus on here .

      After corresponding with someone for awhile - it came out recently that he does not particularly enjoy kissing ( the mouth ) - which is one of my favorite , and to me - most intimate things on the planet !   But during our conversation , he felt he made up for not being into kissing  , by being very skilled in oral service - which he claims to "totally love" , and is willing to perform "for hours" .

      So I'm thinking -   while I certainly love the glorious sensations produced by someone with a skilled tongue , I enjoy it along with many other wonderful things to be shared with someone else - not the only thing .   And after several mintues - or even several orgasms - to me , this would become tedious , and possibly even irritating - for real .

     Thus my curiosity prompts this question :

Have you had - or would you enjoy having someone perform continuous, non-stop cunnilingus on you for more than several minutes at a time ?    OR - For a full hour , or more ?

         Your thoughts ?

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 2:24:04 PM

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I agree with you. I love being kissed and not doing so would be a deal breaker for me.

As far as the continuous munching, I would like to know how anyone does this continuously for long periods of time ... any man I've spoken with or experienced oral service from ... have found their neck cramps and their jaw aches after 20 minutes or so. (Perhaps I've not been meeting the right men/subs.)

I seriously doubt this claim from subs and I've heard it many times.

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 2:34:28 PM

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I think it depends on what they are doing down there, LOL......I dont think anyone could go full force for an extended peroid of time, but even myself can spend a long time hanging out in the right area ;)
I personally, am not one for kissing either, and it would be a deal breaker for me too, if the other person insisted on it...

Just my two cents....

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 2:35:06 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tornaway

Have you had - or would you enjoy having someone perform continuous, non-stop cunnilingus on you for more than several minutes at a time ? OR - For a full hour , or more ?

Your thoughts ?

Well though many may disagree I have to say I do enjoy long nonstop cunniligus My boy has an onging need/urge to please mei n this way and does it nicely untill I honestly am lost as if in a haze, very similar to being fisted ...perhaps it is the multiple orgasms each have required to continue hightening the experience.Does that mean I want it each and everytime ...heavens no .. but from time to time it makes the experience utterly breathtaking .

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 2:39:45 PM

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I've never been timed, but I know it's been quite a while longer than 20 minutes. I tend to ignore the pain as best I can, though if the position is right, it's usually my tongue's endurance that's the problem. Regular practice improves endurance though, just like with any muscle. I don't use my jaws really...perhaps that's their problem.

I think it's quite strange that a guy wouldn't want to kiss someone he was romantically involved with though. That's the part of this post that bothers me.

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 2:41:28 PM

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 2:43:16 PM

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Hey blow up dolls can handle it for hours! I don't understand what the problem is in believing their claims! hehe

Okay... I did almost break a guys tongue once because he was determined to please me and I couldn't be pleased... not because of his not being good...omg... he was... but it was other things. He did try most the night. He could hardly talk the next day but was pleased because he did make me happy. BUT... he did take breaks so that I could adjust and so I wouldn't be hurt.

I would like it until I climaxed and then it would be done. Maybe a couple orgasms, but that is it. It normally doesn't take all night...lol... so I would be irritated and smacking the shit out of anyone who decided they were going to go further and munch all night long.

This to me is a fetish or a false interpretation of what they think is impressive to us. Okay it is important and good oral is hard to come by, but... it is what is between their ears I find most important and if they think that I am going to be impressed with their need to impress me with hours of oral and don't talk about the other wonderful things... except maybe foot worship or urinal duties... which seem to go hand in hand with some of them... no thank you... I am sure someone out there will want it, but it won't be me.

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 2:45:06 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sleuthingsub

I think it's quite strange that a guy wouldn't want to kiss someone he was romantically involved with though. That's the part of this post that bothers me.

I dont think its anything to be bothered by, not everyone shows affection the same way.....of course it does not make for compatable if one wants it and the other does not, but if both are fine with it, then thats what works for them...

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 2:47:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: sleuthingsub

I've never been timed, but I know it's been quite a while longer than 20 minutes. I tend to ignore the pain as best I can, though if the position is right, it's usually my tongue's endurance that's the problem. Regular practice improves endurance though, just like with any muscle. I don't use my jaws really...perhaps that's their problem.

I think it's quite strange that a guy wouldn't want to kiss someone he was romantically involved with though. That's the part of this post that bothers me.

Just a thought on the kissing part there... We all have our little quirks. Even after going on a couple years with my other partner and with my pet, I still have issues with kissing them passionately. I also don't like seeing my primary partner kissing my pet like that. It's nothing earth shaking, but, something I just can't quite bring myself to do or like seeing. Again, individual people have individual quirks. *shrug*

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 2:54:07 PM

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I agree. More than a few minutes of it and the naughty bits go on sensory overload; pleasure soon becomes discomfort. Kissing is a very intimate act for me, sometimes more intimate than intercourse; I can't imagine having a committed relationship with someone who wouldn't kiss me, and no amount of other "service" would compensate. It strikes me as being a bit presumptuous on the part of a sub to feel that his other skills made up for something lacking. Surely, that is for the domina in question to decide.

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 2:57:18 PM

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Ya, I tend to see it as incredibly intimate, and obviously not everyone does. I suppose I have preconceptions about the matter too, which are obviously not true for everyone. I think you said it best, "we've all got quirks".

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 3:28:14 PM

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My immediate reply is that if it takes hours to do oral sex then you aren't doing it very well. Yes, it often takes women longer to reach orgasm then men but that's a matter of minutes not hours.

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 3:36:22 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsLadySue

I agree with you. I love being kissed and not doing so would be a deal breaker for me.

As far as the continuous munching, I would like to know how anyone does this continuously for long periods of time ... any man I've spoken with or experienced oral service from ... have found their neck cramps and their jaw aches after 20 minutes or so. (Perhaps I've not been meeting the right men/subs.)

I seriously doubt this claim from subs and I've heard it many times.

(As far as neck cramps)Queening with a pillow under his head, or laying in a sideways 69 position with his head resting on your thigh.

It takes me a while to reach the big 'O' but once I do, I don't want them to keep going for hours, I'm done for a while

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 3:46:05 PM

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An interesting question... About the kissing aversion, I have only done this with a select few (in my life), I find it to be about the most intimate act one can engage in. It is strange, I know, but I could easier accept someone into my nether regions, than allow their tongue into my mouth. That is to say, until I am feeling the need for their kiss, then I am all over it and very oral about it!
About the non-stop cunnilingus; um, thank you, no. Daddy has done this for up to and beyond about a half an hour before, but it certainly wasn't a continuous drumming. If it is slow, if he is making love to me with his mouth rather than trying to drive me to beg him to stop, then I can enjoy this attention for as long as he wants to lavish it upon me. So, it depends on what they are trying to accomplish, as to how long would be comfortable to allow someone access.
It is the same when I am performing; I could stay down forever, but it certainly isn't constant contact or the same movement indefinitely. I am there to bring a person as close to Heaven as possible, not make them push my head away because I have over-stimulated or irritated them.. What is the point in that, except to feed ones ego?

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 6:16:17 PM

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The way that some people (mainly submissives) talk about oral service you'd think the experience would be like a bulldog trying to eat a pot of yogurt without a spoon.

From my experience I have found that the best experiences of oral service have taken place when it is spontaneous without any expectations either way. It is an activity which requires a great deal of intimacy, sensitivity and awareness together with a knowledge of anatomy and being tuned into her emotional signals.

There are women who enjoy extended oral worship over periods of up to a few hours but this isn't continuous and it involves other activities as well. Every woman you come across is individual and so too is her relationship with that particular area of her body.

Until you understand her, and moreso the specific nature of the relationship she has with that area of her body, and furthermore you are required by her to provide such service, there is no way of knowing how you will perform.

Therefore being great at oral service to me is a myth unless she says it.

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 6:16:32 PM

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I have never had any desire to have some one 'lick me for hours'. If you don't know how to 'get me there' in a few minutes.... get the heck away from me.

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 6:27:26 PM

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It is not an activity that needs to be a contest nor something that needs a kitchen timer. Both parties should be enjoying themselves for the duration of the ride.

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 6:39:14 PM

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Has been my experience enjoying doing oral on a sub that problem is the cit gets very sensitive after 30-45 mintues, have gone as long as an hour before sub couldnt take any more, esp when rubbing G spot at same time.

Ah yes, enjoy doing oral, any volunteers?

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 7:02:38 PM

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quote:

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It is not an activity that needs to be a contest nor something that needs a kitchen timer. Both parties should be enjoying themselves for the duration of the ride.

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RE: Seeking opinions on oral "service" - 11/23/2008 7:42:31 PM

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My former slave nearly ruined me for oral sex. He was very insistent on it, and I literally had to haul him away. The more he got into it, the more his skills deteriorated, like my parts were not attached to ME anymore. Fooey!

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