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LadyPact -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 10:50:14 AM)
I suppose this is how I'm seeing it. Darn near any male who is on a certain intimacy level in My life could bring Me to orgasm. It's not that difficult. (I'm great for the male ego that way.) Any male with the right body parts could do it. That means half of the population could potentially do so. It doesn't take any certain quality. That isn't submission. The same goes the other way around. Any female can spread their legs or open their mouth so a guy can get off. That isn't Dominance. Rather, give Me a submissive who enjoys serving, or better yet a masochist who wants to play. Then you really have something that most of the population can't give Me. They have a lot more to offer than just orgasms.

MistressRouge -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 10:51:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha So ladies... How important is the orgasm to you? Is it the number one thing you want from your submissive? In the top three? In the top five? Akasha It's the "What I absolutely don't want from a submissive", I want that from my partner, would my partner be submissive then yes, it would be with him but not other submissives... Sexually I am monogamous, when it comes to BDSM I am not (in short, I don't need to date a person to dominate him or her). Not a rule for everybody, but one that works for me. A me too post [:D] Orgasm is maybe the last thing on my list, it is something I get from my significant other, I do not have orgasms with my slaves/submissives. However, orgasms as the "last resort" are sometimes focussed on way to much on. I quite like the journey upto that moment: arousal, and sexual gratification everytime I session usually, without any need to complete with an orgasm in the sexual oral/penetration sense. My partner gets the best of me on my hornier session days, on my return from work. I much prefer the arousal stage of being sexually turned on in my sessions, whilst not resulting in an orgasm. I am much a morning person anyway, so take what I want, if I want an orgasm [:)]

PeonForHer -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 11:17:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact I suppose this is how I'm seeing it. Darn near any male who is on a certain intimacy level in My life could bring Me to orgasm. It's not that difficult. (I'm great for the male ego that way.) Any male with the right body parts could do it. That means half of the population could potentially do so. It doesn't take any certain quality. That isn't submission. The same goes the other way around. Any female can spread their legs or open their mouth so a guy can get off. That isn't Dominance. Rather, give Me a submissive who enjoys serving, or better yet a masochist who wants to play. Then you really have something that most of the population can't give Me. They have a lot more to offer than just orgasms. I have both submissive and masochistic tendencies in me, LP. I'd like to be able to offer a domina more than just orgasm and just sex - but without those first two, there would be no partnership between myself and a domina. The essential thing for me - what I'm looking for - is a one-to-one, romantic and sexual partnership. If I open a domina's profile and see the word 'subs' written in the plural, I move on. That's all I need to know.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 11:21:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer I have both submissive and masochistic tendencies in me, LP. I'd like to be able to offer a domina more than just orgasm and just sex - but without those first two, there would be no partnership between myself and a domina. The essential thing for me - what I'm looking for - is a one-to-one, romantic and sexual partnership. If I open a domina's profile and see the word 'subs' written in the plural, I move on. That's all I need to know. You are looking for a life partner, nothing wrong with that, but you know, finding a partner you can live with on a day to day basis isn't easy, almost like winning the lottery, now finding a partner and be not only sexually but also kink or BDSM compatible is almost like expecting to win the lottery twice in a row. Some of us do have to compromise and possibly even compartmentalize. It takes all sorts ;)

LadyPact -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 11:37:07 AM)
Peon, there's absolutely nothing wrong with being a monogamous type. That's who you are. Just like there's nothing wrong with poly types if that's who they are. Does that mean the two will be a fantastic match for each other? Probably not. Some can be successful in either and some never thought of switching sides because they've always been one, and never really contemplated the other. Too often, people are so focused on the overwhelming ratio of subs to Dommes, that they forget the importance of one word: Quality. The vast majority of that supposedly huge pool of submissives don't have it. The ones that actually do are more like a trickle, rather than an ocean.

PeonForHer -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 11:43:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer I have both submissive and masochistic tendencies in me, LP. I'd like to be able to offer a domina more than just orgasm and just sex - but without those first two, there would be no partnership between myself and a domina. The essential thing for me - what I'm looking for - is a one-to-one, romantic and sexual partnership. If I open a domina's profile and see the word 'subs' written in the plural, I move on. That's all I need to know. You are looking for a life partner, nothing wrong with that, but you know, finding a partner you can live with on a day to day basis isn't easy, almost like winning the lottery, now finding a partner and be not only sexually but also kink or BDSM compatible is almost like expecting to win the lottery twice in a row. Some of us do have to compromise and possibly even compartmentalize. It takes all sorts ;) Fair enough, Lady C. I can see that many dominants - for their reasons - and many submissives - for their sometimes different reasons - will have to compartmentalise. What I'm saying, I guess, is that sex and romance are more important to me than D/s. Since D/s is inevitably a sexual thing for me, and also since I'm essentially monogamous, I'd have to compromise on, or even ditch, the D/s element. I've managed that to date, so I'm sure I could manage it again.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 11:46:48 AM)
I hear ya, but the way you are slutting around here, tsk tsk, oh well, at least you aren't wearing white stilettos and we have to be grateful for small favours... ;)

PeonForHer -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 11:48:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Peon, there's absolutely nothing wrong with being a monogamous type. That's who you are. Just like there's nothing wrong with poly types if that's who they are. Does that mean the two will be a fantastic match for each other? Probably not. Some can be successful in either and some never thought of switching sides because they've always been one, and never really contemplated the other. Too often, people are so focused on the overwhelming ratio of subs to Dommes, that they forget the importance of one word: Quality. The vast majority of that supposedly huge pool of submissives don't have it. The ones that actually do are more like a trickle, rather than an ocean. OK, LP. All points accepted. I'll try to stop growling now. [;)]

LadyPact -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 12:15:11 PM)
Good idea. I think you'll find purring is much more attractive.

SomethingCatchy -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 12:24:46 PM)
Since I don't usually orgasm from penetrative sex, but enjoy sex immensely, I'd have to say sex is a primary need of mine but orgasms are not. I don't really care if they happen or not, and if I need that release, I'll usually do it for myself.

PeonForHer -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 12:26:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze I hear ya, but the way you are slutting around here, tsk tsk, oh well, at least you aren't wearing white stilettos and we have to be grateful for small favours... ;) I could rush out to Primark and get a pair of white stilettos if it's a deal-breaker for you, Lady C - no problem!

PeonForHer -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 12:28:53 PM)
Good idea. I think you'll find purring is much more attractive. Hell, LP, life's difficult enough being as attractive as I already am.

thetammyjo -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 12:29:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mystickoolaid quote: ORIGINAL: thetammyjo It all depends on whether or not we have a sexual relationship to begin with. If we do, then my orgasm if very important when we have sex and I generally want sex of some sort three times a week on average. Out of curiosity, is that PER sub, or just in general, and those 3 times can come from anyone? (I am under the impression you have a poly household, correct me if I am wrong) Three times a week with either the husband or the slave... neither of a terribly high sex drive and frankly I could have sex more often if I either had more partners or their sex drives were higher. My slave will have sex with me whenever I want but honestly the sex is better when he's as horny as I am.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 12:43:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze I hear ya, but the way you are slutting around here, tsk tsk, oh well, at least you aren't wearing white stilettos and we have to be grateful for small favours... ;) I could rush out to Primark and get a pair of white stilettos if it's a deal-breaker for you, Lady C - no problem! Are you flirting with me?

PeonForHer -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 3:04:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze I hear ya, but the way you are slutting around here, tsk tsk, oh well, at least you aren't wearing white stilettos and we have to be grateful for small favours... ;) I could rush out to Primark and get a pair of white stilettos if it's a deal-breaker for you, Lady C - no problem! Are you flirting with me? How dare you, you brazen hussy.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 3:16:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze Are you flirting with me? How dare you, you brazen hussy. You saw the clip then?

PeonForHer -> RE: Femdoms: How important are your orgasms? (11/24/2008 4:24:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze Are you flirting with me? How dare you, you brazen hussy. You saw the clip then? I have now. I think I'll save flirting with you till when I've got a bodyguard. [:D]

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