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colouredin -> RE: Age and BDSM (11/25/2008 12:26:46 PM)
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ORIGINAL: moonvine
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ORIGINAL: sexisubi
In her defense, family is importent, and when no one else is there for you, your family is. If the family would not want their child to bringing home someone older and cut communication if they did, then i would support the disicion.
Perhaps this is true for you, but it is hardly a universal truth. I've been having major life crises over the past year; another person might have committed suicide. My family has specifically not been there for me and has informed me of such. *I've* cut off communication with my mother because it is bad for my mental health. So my choice of partner is definitely none of their concern.
Well in my defense, as it was aimed at me, my family mean everything to me, always have always will, i wouldnt want to loose them for anything, not that i think bringing someone much older home would do this but you know there has been enough crap go on for them that i really wouldnt want to add to it, im the eldest of four kids everything i do impacts on their lives.
Also i wanna get married and have kids and call me weird but i would like my partner to be young enough to watch them grow up and play games with them and all that malarchy. To be honest I dont think i have to justify my choices really, you can read what you want into whatever you want. I am just saying that yup age is a big deal, im 22 and thats young so maybe im just immature or sallow or whatever else people want to assume from what i wrote, i couldnt care less it is my life and i can pick my partners on what the hell i want.
I find very often in this subculture young submissive women go out with much older Dominant men i do think this comes from an idea of experiance more than compatability at times. Many younger girls who are with much older men will state they dont see it being long term, not all of course but many, most that I have met. See because its normally the other way round, young people are immature, not experianced whatever but you know older people dont ness have the same values as younger people either, they have lived they have found where they are and where they hope to go, not so much for young people and let me tell you the cynicism it brings can be draining.
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