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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 8:27:25 PM   
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I do not really care what age a slave is providing I am attracted to them, though I do think a persons age is generally telling of different attributes that I might not find appealing, like younger guys not being committed enough and older guys being too emotionally self indulgent.


So how does this post benefit me, personally?
 
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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 8:38:01 PM   
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I do not really care what age a slave is providing I am attracted to them, though I do think a persons age is generally telling of different attributes that I might not find appealing, like younger guys not being committed enough and older guys being too emotionally self indulgent.


So how does this post benefit me, personally?
 
John



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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 8:56:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		Right now I kinda think late 40's is best--but then a few years ago I thought early 40's was best.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 11:01:01 PM   
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In her defense, family is importent, and when no one else is there for you, your family is. If the family would not want their child to bringing home someone older and cut communication if they did, then i would support the disicion.


Perhaps this is true for you, but it is hardly a universal truth.  I've been having major life crises over the past year; another person might have committed suicide.  My family has specifically not been there for me and has informed me of such.  *I've* cut off communication with my mother because it is bad for my mental health.  So my choice of partner is definitely none of their concern.



Solidly with moonvine on this one; we don't all have shiny, happy families of origin and it would be difficult for me to care less than I do about their opinions of any partner I may have in the future or have had in the past.  Sending good thoughts your way, moonvine, for moving through those crises. 
My preferred age range is a male in his 40's, though as I remarked earlier, age definitely does not connote maturity, wisdom, or honorable conduct inherently.  The age range I like best has several facets about which I have identified appeal:  Often, a man's face has been touched a bit by time and is thus more uniquely his, his body is strong and mature, there is a greater sense of settledness and a confidence as well as life-course.  I find this to be a particularly powerful time in a man's life and development, thus my attraction.  :>
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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 11:26:34 PM   
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Hope not. No offense but I like my men with some muscles, facial hair, and distinguishing characteristics of sexy adult men.



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ORIGINAL: oddjobbery

You think anyone over the age of 30 looks like me? Because I don't.




Lady friend of mine, has no interested in those nie ve youths fiklled with primping and preening and self opinionated but prefers men, as is MEN with a few years behind them, possibly some real facial hair (not bum fluff), hard muscles built on hard physical effortt and not out of a steroid bottle, good common sense and some worldly intelligence. She also likes good tatts and is turned on by scars with a story behind them This lady has just turned 30 with looks and a body to die for and a mind to live for.


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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/25/2008 11:50:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		My Master and I have talked quite a bit about the age issue already.  He is 4 years younger than I, but doesn't feel younger to me.  Of course, the difference between 36 and 40 is barely worth mentioning in the context of this thread.  However, he has apparently always preferred women in the 35-40 age range, even when he was a tender young Dom.  And he doesn't seem to like being reminded that he is younger than me.    To me, he feels like he has an "old soul", and I am sure I could have submitted to him whatever his age.  He also refers to me as "little one" and such, so really, it's all about the dynamic, regardless of actual physical size or age.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/26/2008 12:36:02 AM   
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I apologize.  I didn't mean to attack you or for you to have to defend yourself, and I realize many people's families are important to them; I'm sure mine would be if they were halfway supportive.  Sometimes I hate this medium.   I didn't mean for you to have to justify your choices at all.

Just saying that for me my family's opinion of my partners is of no importance, if they don't act right they may not even ever have the opportunity to meet them.



To be honest it was more to Rule than you, Of course people do loose contact with their family for many reasons but it does seem that sometimes people state that as the norm. People get older and their fail becomes less important to them, its kinda the world that we live in now. I am sorry that your family isnt supportive to you thats a horrible thing.

I think i got so passionate because my sister has recently run away from home becaquse she has chosen to side with her boyfriend who attaced my brother a few weeks ago in a drug haze. SOmetimes people seem to state that standing by their partners is more important than family, for me it really isnt so they do come into my thoughts when im meeting people.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/26/2008 12:48:27 AM   
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Does it really matter to many what age a Dom or Submissive is in this lifestyle?

Does it really matter to many what age a person is?

(ie, why should people who use this website or consider themselves to be part of the D/s or BDSM or S&M or fetish or AB or D/lg or kink or alternative or taboo or WHATEVER "lifestyle" be any different?  Age sometimes matters to people, on this site, on other sites, and in reality.  Using this site doesn't make people care about age any more or any less.)


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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/26/2008 3:52:28 AM   
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Right now I kinda think late 40's is best--but then a few years ago I thought early 40's was best.



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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/26/2008 7:14:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: IronBear

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

Hope not. No offense but I like my men with some muscles, facial hair, and distinguishing characteristics of sexy adult men.



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ORIGINAL: oddjobbery

You think anyone over the age of 30 looks like me? Because I don't.




Lady friend of mine, has no interested in those nie ve youths fiklled with primping and preening and self opinionated but prefers men, as is MEN with a few years behind them, possibly some real facial hair (not bum fluff), hard muscles built on hard physical effortt and not out of a steroid bottle, good common sense and some worldly intelligence. She also likes good tatts and is turned on by scars with a story behind them This lady has just turned 30 with looks and a body to die for and a mind to live for.



I honestly don’t think I have ever met anyone (particularly on this site) who is not self opinionated and to suggest that you are not is quite amusing really hehehe. I don’t think you can win an argument by pointing out the exceptions to a rule, it does not really prove anything when it comes to people; rules and generalisations are applicable to a population though when you try to stick them to an individual they generally become meaningless. I don’t think it is unfair to say that women tend to go for muscular well groomed classically good looking guys in their early to mid 30s.

Ps, I can count the number of ladies I know in my age group who like beards on one finger and none of them are into guys much older than they are.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/26/2008 7:44:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		She has impeccable taste, this lady friend of yours Sir IronBear.


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ORIGINAL: IronBear

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

Hope not. No offense but I like my men with some muscles, facial hair, and distinguishing characteristics of sexy adult men.



quote:

ORIGINAL: oddjobbery

You think anyone over the age of 30 looks like me? Because I don't.




Lady friend of mine, has no interested in those nie ve youths fiklled with primping and preening and self opinionated but prefers men, as is MEN with a few years behind them, possibly some real facial hair (not bum fluff), hard muscles built on hard physical effortt and not out of a steroid bottle, good common sense and some worldly intelligence. She also likes good tatts and is turned on by scars with a story behind them This lady has just turned 30 with looks and a body to die for and a mind to live for.



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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/26/2008 8:26:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MstrTiger

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

Hope not. No offense but I like my men with some muscles, facial hair, and distinguishing characteristics of sexy adult men.



quote:

ORIGINAL: oddjobbery

You think anyone over the age of 30 looks like me? Because I don't.




Lady friend of mine, has no interested in those nie ve youths fiklled with primping and preening and self opinionated but prefers men, as is MEN with a few years behind them, possibly some real facial hair (not bum fluff), hard muscles built on hard physical effortt and not out of a steroid bottle, good common sense and some worldly intelligence. She also likes good tatts and is turned on by scars with a story behind them This lady has just turned 30 with looks and a body to die for and a mind to live for.



I honestly don’t think I have ever met anyone (particularly on this site) who is not self opinionated and to suggest that you are not is quite amusing really hehehe. I don’t think you can win an argument by pointing out the exceptions to a rule, it does not really prove anything when it comes to people; rules and generalisations are applicable to a population though when you try to stick them to an individual they generally become meaningless. I don’t think it is unfair to say that women tend to go for muscular well groomed classically good looking guys in their early to mid 30s.

Ps, I can count the number of ladies I know in my age group who like beards on one finger and none of them are into guys much older than they are.


Just goes to demonstrate the variance in differing groups of people. Sometimes this is due to culture, nationality or just the vagaries of different locations. To which I add there is also a difference in the socio-economic levels which different people mix with..

I would heartily dissagree with you regarding using exceptions to the rule (is there a rule in this case? I think not other that one person's opinion which is not a rule.), as it points out that such rules or opinions are not universal and should not be used as benchmarks.

Regarding being self opinionated, most people I know well both here and in life are self opinionated as am I but, here lies the crunch, I was refering ( if you read my original comment), to the young agressive, in your face males which I have no time for and who believe that they have all the answers and attempt to force their opinions on others.. The difference being that those with some life experience and maturity not to mention good manners, will air their opinions openly as opinions or as something which they find works for them and leave it at that.

I was not in the least suprised to see you post considering the interesting history between you and I when I frequented the Gorean Forum.


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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/27/2008 10:01:01 AM   
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For some it matters for some not, some assume young people will be inexperianced some assume old people will be stuck in their ways.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/27/2008 10:09:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		That's exactly how I am,I will be friends with anybody of any age, on either range of ages, hell I have some 80 year old friends or I did before they died, My brother used to say why the hell ya wanna be friends with old foggies for.  but relationship wise nuh uh I stay with in a certain age rage.

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I have no problem with having younger or older friends in the lifestyle - people are people.

When it comes to relationships, then age does matter to me.    That may make me shallow, but it's the way it is.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/27/2008 1:07:20 PM   
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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/27/2008 2:23:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		A person can neither be too young or too old... however, they can be too stupid for it.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/27/2008 8:54:23 PM   
Aszhrae


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Status: offline 		Girl is 42 and would not be comfortable with a mistress old enough to be my daughter. 30+ would be fine for this girl as they would have some life experiences and a more mature understanding of the D/s relationship.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/27/2008 9:04:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		I go along with the attraction idea.  The first Dom I was ever with is 10 years younger than me.  I've always had a fondness for younger men, but there has to be the emotional and intellectual connection for anything long term.  And age does not equal maturity in my experience.  Not too long ago, my 79 year old father said to me. "leave me alone and let me lead my own life".  My own kids have never said that to me.  Go figure 

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