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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 3:53:09 PM

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It depends largely on what one is looking for. I want a life partner, so when I start shopping again after the new year, I'll want someone closer to my own age. I'm flattered by the attentions of the ones young enough to be my son, but ultimately I need someone who can stimulate my rather well developed brain. That only comes with education and experience.

Madam, you wound me and the many other intelligent, well - developed 18 - 25 year olds that exist on this plane. Age is certainly not a prerequisite for intelligence or cranial capacity.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 3:54:43 PM

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60 is lookin` better...

Thanks...

You're welcome. lol

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 3:58:57 PM

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When I was 18 I am pretty sure I would have been horrified by the attentions of a 60 year old. I don't even know what I would have done had I received such attention. But when I was 18 no one had the Internet in their home so I didn't really experience that. Please do send all the hot boys my way, heh.

Don't get offended by this but at your age, you're not really that much different than the 60 yr old man who wants the younger women. You're an older woman who wants younger men. Should those young men be horrified at your interest?

Somehow I doubt you imagine yourself or your desires to be horrifying.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 4:04:39 PM

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Well, a 60 year old of either sex and an 18 year old of either sex comprise a 42 year age difference, and as I am 42, well, you do the math on me dating a person with a 42 year age difference. They'd either be not yet born or 84.

I probably would not date an 18 year old now and if I did it would be a 24 year age difference. My last dom was 25 and I assume he was not horrified as he approached me, although I think I was 39 at the time.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 4:07:55 PM

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18 and 60 are extreme examples. You knew that, though. Its just convient to pretend otherwise.

The point is, you're not really -that- different from older men who look for younger female submissives. Thats all.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 4:08:57 PM

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Does it really matter to many what age a Dom or Submissive is in this lifestyle?
I believe fully that, as long as your physically able to perform amd you are capable of supplying what the partner you have wants on a emotional, mental and physical side then age should mean absolutely nothing in this lifestyle.

What say folks anyone else agree or disagree?

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How timely that this question is posed today. I was recently approached by a (it turns out) passive aggressive submissive male in his 60s. I articulated my declination as politely as possible. The response is whiny and 'oh poor me'.

Perhaps my response SHOULD have been the truth. 'Sorry - my preference is early-50s or younger as I've already broken two men your age (pre-existing conditions, people!!) and I would rather not call any more ambulances.'

Shame on me for not wanting to hurt the man's feelings??? Aaaaaaaaaaaaarghh!

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 4:12:57 PM

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haha wow get to see a bit of a different side of me in this post.

im going to speak as freely as i can and pretend like im talking to a submissive freind because i was just talking about this with him today!

younger Doms... love head! their side of controle is like how long can you be down there (dont always get the jaw cramp thing, even though i have some great training stories for these and wow were they a lot of fun!). i feel like sometimes i need to go out and buy knee pads and sometimes im down there 100% of the time and that can be a looong time im talking about hours... sometimes all day!

older doms, they are more into the control factor... dont get me wrong every one loves head! but older doms just seem more into the control part of it making the submissive do whatever they desire... seeing how far they will go...

when a Dom dominates its a feeling of power but if they make the submissive go really far to the point of uncomfort or something the submissive doesnt like, They feel a little bad and then They show some type of affection or give them something ... (big O) to compinsate. Older Doms (people who have been Dom for longer) they seem to feel bad less... pushing you a bit further. Younger Doms (expecially first timers) push you to the limit in a different way... they really are just doing different things trying different things and sometimes hey it hurts and they seem to feel bad more quickly and are less subseptive to when you're in a lot of pain... i have no idea why this is! it just seems like it! even though both older and younger Doms are creative and fun and i always appricate my limits being stretched for the record!

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 4:17:45 PM

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No, I thought you were being serious about preferring 60 year old men to 21 year olds. I've seen stranger couplings.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 4:24:45 PM

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Perhaps my response SHOULD have been the truth. 'Sorry - my preference is early-50s or younger as I've already broken two men your age

Shame on me for not wanting to hurt the man's feelings??? Aaaaaaaaaaaaarghh!

Just in Their defense, there was a girl on collarme who was absolutly stunning about my age. her picture was a nude picture that she used paint to paint on a bikini while she was out at the pool. i really am not sure if she was a daddy's girl, or a masocist? i have no idea i know that when i saw her picture i could not take my eyes off her though... However, she only dated older Doms! She had no wants for a young anything unless it was to please an older Dom that she had. perhaps it was the sense of caring they give or the fact that they are more appricative of you... is it my thing, no.

Story two: i went to a sex club once and there was this couple where the woman was very young and the man was older and liked it when she had sex with other guys but they were married. i guess the point is everyone is different and has there own thing! i feel like the point of BDSM is to be open and feel free of thought, right? So fine not your thing but why bash it? age play for some people is what they are looking for, and if that is what floats your boat and tickles your fansy great! For all of us that know it isn't for us awesome :) but no need to bash what they are looking for.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 4:27:02 PM

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Playing with someone is one thing. Establishing a dynamic is something different entirely. Further, a relationship with an attachment is another field. It's going to be determined by what you are looking for.

By example, if it matters to you that a person can identify with the question of where you were when Kennedy was shot, or how you felt when Challenger blew up, then yes, you want that connection.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 4:42:28 PM

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No, I thought you were being serious about preferring 60 year old men to 21 year olds. I've seen stranger couplings.

I once met a 19 year sub/slave...married to a 60 yr. old domdaddy. She told me she simply couldn't imagine herself being any happier than she was. She felt in her mind (and body) she had the best of all worlds.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 4:49:15 PM

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Perhaps my response SHOULD have been the truth. 'Sorry - my preference is early-50s or younger as I've already broken two men your age

Shame on me for not wanting to hurt the man's feelings??? Aaaaaaaaaaaaarghh!

So fine not your thing but why bash it? age play for some people is what they are looking for, and if that is what floats your boat and tickles your fansy great! For all of us that know it isn't for us awesome :) but no need to bash what they are looking for.

I'm not bashing anyone's choices. My beef is with the fact that 'no'doesnt appear to be recognized as an answer - no matter how diplomatically it is delivered.

Apparently the standard response to 'no, but thank you for the offer' is 'are you sure? are you really really really sure? Is there something I can do differently? Can we negotiate this??' This is typically followed by a lot of whining.

Has it become outrageous to expect that an answer be respected as the answer?

sorry...I may have accidentally driven off the trail. Back to our regularly-scheduled topic !

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 5:02:46 PM

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Has it become outrageous to expect that an answer be respected as the answer?

ah gotcha, yeah no should be taken as just that, it would annoy me too! Usually if someone isn't interested they get no response so to get a response should be enough, right? You should absolutely rant about this i would respond to it for sure... but it's not just age that does the whining... if you respond you get whining, and if you don't respond you get whining. It's kind of a lose lose situation i have to say!

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 5:07:35 PM

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Apparently the standard response to 'no, but thank you for the offer' is 'are you sure? are you really really really sure? Is there something I can do differently? Can we negotiate this??' This is typically followed by a lot of whining.

Has it become outrageous to expect that an answer be respected as the answer?

Next time, try using "red".

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 5:11:44 PM

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age play for some people is what they are looking for, and if that is what floats your boat and tickles your fansy great! For all of us that know it isn't for us awesome :) but no need to bash what they are looking for.

Age play? Who said anything about age play? What did I miss?

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 5:14:41 PM

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Apparently the standard response to 'no, but thank you for the offer' is 'are you sure? are you really really really sure? Is there something I can do differently? Can we negotiate this??' This is typically followed by a lot of whining.

Has it become outrageous to expect that an answer be respected as the answer?

Next time, try using "red".

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LOL - when I read that, I think I heard you chuckle!

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 5:26:18 PM

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Age play? Who said anything about age play? What did I miss?

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if you would like i guess i could use different terms, like child/parent, teacher/student grandparent/childs friend/child, baby/parent... the list can go on, on that this one... but some people like older guys because they can put themselves deeper into an age play world. This is not always the case! by no means am i attempting to generalizing the attaction that some people have for whatever they have...

anyway hope that clears up the confusion cali :)

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 5:27:47 PM

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Ahhh, I see now. I have never equated age with age play, and couldn't figure out where that came from.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 5:31:47 PM

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Cali

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To be honest i'm not always the best at my discriptions but... i give it a try, sometimes they come out pretty good :)

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 6:06:30 PM

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My perspective, and really that is all that is relevant to anyone is there individual view, used to be that I could not submit to someone who was young(from my prespective). Then I met my Goddess/Wife, who at 12 years younger than me, is better at supplying my needs as a sub, while still seeming to be enjoying it herself, than anyone else I have met. The interesting thing is, since she is fairly new to it, is the approach, almost like a child with a bug pinned to a board. Delight, fascination, and always looking to explore different areas of her role. Witnessing her finding new areas that turn her on, is as much of a joy, as is having my old favorites applied.

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