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ORIGINAL: DomCT2002

Does it really matte rto many what age a Dom or  Submissive is in this lifestyle?
I believe fully that, as long as your physically able to perform amd you are capable of supplying what the partner you have wants on a emotional, mental and physical side then age should mean absolutely nothing in this lifestyle.

What say folks anyone else agree or disagree?

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Actually, funny that you mention the Challenger, as someone brought that up in casual conversation just the other day.  We talked about how blase' we had gotten about space travel, and how none of us even knew it was going up until it exploded. Yet when we were kids in the late 60's, going to the moon was a HUGE deal.

And from there the conversation moved to how much things had changed in the last 10, 20, 30 years and more.  Teens who have always had a cell phone, a microwave, dvds, cordless phones (heck, pushbutton phones), color television, etc., well, reading about life without it certainly isn't the same as living it.


Cali

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ORIGINAL: oddjobbery

Madam, you wound me and the many other intelligent, well - developed 18 - 25 year olds that exist on this plane. Age is certainly not a prerequisite for intelligence or cranial capacity.

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ORIGINAL: colouredin


I know age is a factor for me because I would want to be able to introduce my partner to my family and the older the person is the harder that would be. I talk to people of all ages, age doesnt really make a differance in connection for me, I have always spent time with older people so Im pretty adaptable.

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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

Nothing quite like an immature middle-aged man, is there?

Edited to add:  John Derek, I meant

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ORIGINAL: oddjobbery

well, i mean, how much older can you get than 42? :D

but seriously, the difference between a 42 year old and a 60 year old isn't even close to the difference between a 20 year old and a 38 year old. It's a step through three different worlds, to go from 20 to 38 - 42 to 60, not so much.

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ORIGINAL: rulemylife

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ORIGINAL: colouredin


I know age is a factor for me because I would want to be able to introduce my partner to my family and the older the person is the harder that would be. I talk to people of all ages, age doesnt really make a differance in connection for me, I have always spent time with older people so Im pretty adaptable.

So then we can conclude that the most important factor in choosing a partner for you is what other people think and whether your choice would embarrass you because of their disapproval.

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ORIGINAL: moonvine

I mean, I have never asked anyone where they were when the Challenger exploded.

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ORIGINAL: oddjobbery

well, i mean, how much older can you get than 42? :D

but seriously, the difference between a 42 year old and a 60 year old isn't even close to the difference between a 20 year old and a 38 year old. It's a step through three different worlds, to go from 20 to 38 - 42 to 60, not so much.

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ORIGINAL: sexisubi

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ORIGINAL: rulemylife

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ORIGINAL: colouredin


I know age is a factor for me because I would want to be able to introduce my partner to my family and the older the person is the harder that would be. I talk to people of all ages, age doesnt really make a differance in connection for me, I have always spent time with older people so Im pretty adaptable.

So then we can conclude that the most important factor in choosing a partner for you is what other people think and whether your choice would embarrass you because of their disapproval.

In her defense, family is importent, and when no one else is there for you, your family is. If the family would not want their child to bringing home someone older and cut communication if they did, then i would support the disicion. Friends are the same way, when you get left on the curb the only thing to pick you up is your friends. Some people still live a vanilla life outside of the BDSM one they have behind doors, there is nothing wrong with making a choice for your own well being because right now, the submissive is the one taking care of it... it is not until they fully submit that the Dom takes care of them (and this is also not always the case).. and even then it is importent to know what to do with yourself if it falls through... something happens to the dom... maybe he gets sick, or dies... but your family won't talk to you and your friends abandend you... what do you do then?

Is this a choice i would make no, but i think it is a bit silly to assume that someone is looking at how others feel because of a choice they think is best for them in the long run. It might not be a choice made because of the way someone thinks but to secure oneself in the long run, which is crucial, a submissive still needs to know how to be independent and strong. Sometimes we have to make choices with our head not from the heart. Some food for thought i guess.

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ORIGINAL: rulemylife

Yes family is important, but I would not let my family blackmail me into a position of going against my beliefs or feelings at the risk of them casting me out.

Even more so with friends.  I would not consider someone a friend whose friendship with me was determined by whether or not they approved of the choices in my life.