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persephonee -> RE: Service Oriented Submissive (11/25/2008 9:43:46 AM)
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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin
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I've often seen Dommes state that they are looking for service oriented submissives. Many of them further define that as someone who is not looking to have their sexual fantasies fulfilled. Do dommes use this term differently???
No... I don't think so..... I consider these differences more a product of the horny net geeks being more more of the male variety than female. But.... when your out in the munch etc.... I haven't found the worlds of male or female Dominants to be all that different.
LaT...
Out in social gatherings...beit a munch or just hanging out in the lounge at the dungeon, i dont see much difference in what i might to in service to the dom im with and what the sub of a domme would be doing. But in conversation with dommes in my area i overwhelmingly hear this complaint....that the service is fine,but when it comes time for a scene, "once he comes, the quality of his submission changes"...even inperceptively. And that is a distinct difference in service that i have noted to myself.
Whatever my role is in the situation, its not reliant on whether my sexual needs have been met or will be in the future. If im there in submission, the quality of my actions dont really change. i dont step out of the submission and put on some other hat. But i do see this in some submissive men. Like a switch was flipped somehow.
So to combat this phenomenon, they focus in on those type of statements in hopes of finding a male submissive whose intentions or motive behind their submission is more pure or honest....i may not be being exactly clear in expressing this....if not, i apologise.
perse
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