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scvslave -> RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/29/2008 1:08:35 PM)
I have been searching for a real time Mistress that I can serve on a regular basis. Problem is, it seems the only Mistresses in Southern California are pro dommes who want to charge a lot of money for a session. Normally, I would be okay with a session once in a while, but money's a little tight and I would like to find a Mistress I can serve on a regular basis. Does anyone have any suggestions on how and where I can find a Mistress who is not a pro? Thank you.

LadyPact -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/29/2008 1:09:38 PM)
Ever consider a real time lifestyle event in your area?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/29/2008 1:19:07 PM)
The timer saved me from a deeply snarky remark!

Madame4a -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/29/2008 1:26:15 PM)
Since when are pros not real? and LH ... no timer for me... quote: ORIGINAL: scvslave I have been searching for a real time Mistress that I can serve on a regular basis. Problem is, it seems the only Mistresses in Southern California are pro dommes who want to charge a lot of money for a session. Normally, I would be okay with a session once in a while, but money's a little tight and I would like to find a Mistress I can serve on a regular basis. Does anyone have any suggestions on how and where I can find a Mistress who is not a pro? Thank you.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/29/2008 1:27:55 PM)
I was a very real pro!! Is it my fault that I type too quickly?? And since there is evidently NO realtime scene in SoCal, can I adopt Mercnbeth? They must be DYING! (Well, beth at least must be missing places to show off her hotness.)

LadyLeather1 -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/29/2008 1:39:50 PM)
Have you attended any munches or lifestyle events in your area? If not, I would suggest googling BDSM and munch. Check out the link for darkheart.com/usalist.html for munches in your area. Good luck in your search. Lady Leather

Lynnxz -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/29/2008 2:13:06 PM)
You'd have to go into more detail as to what you are looking for.

LadyConstanze -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/29/2008 2:23:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: scvslave I have been searching for a real time Mistress that I can serve on a regular basis. Problem is, it seems the only Mistresses in Southern California are pro dommes who want to charge a lot of money for a session. Normally, I would be okay with a session once in a while, but money's a little tight and I would like to find a Mistress I can serve on a regular basis. Does anyone have any suggestions on how and where I can find a Mistress who is not a pro? Thank you. Quite a lot of pros are real and a lot of them are also life-style, I don't know where in SoCal you are but there were a lot of events when I lived there. The main difference might be that in a pro session you get to mention what specifically you are looking for and you most likely get it (within reason) because you are a client, life-style it will be about her and finding common ground, you might have to sacrifice some things and adopt others. Also without being snarky, when you say "serve her" do you really mean to serve her or do you mean that you want to get your BDSM rocks off? Maybe a good way to start would be a list what you can do for her? Because if you approach them with "I want a session but can't afford a pro" your chances might be slim. A friend of mine once said "A pro domme doesn't get paid for the hour, she gets paid to stop after an hour and not make demands on the client's time" - which is a good way of putting it, serving her might not always be what you want.

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/29/2008 6:01:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: scvslave I have been searching for a real time Mistress that I can serve on a regular basis. Problem is, it seems the only Mistresses in Southern California are pro dommes who want to charge a lot of money for a session. Normally, I would be okay with a session once in a while, but money's a little tight and I would like to find a Mistress I can serve on a regular basis. Does anyone have any suggestions on how and where I can find a Mistress who is not a pro? Thank you. I can see the problem. It's your profile... quote: Conservative family guy during the day, kinky male-slut at night. Seeking domme to serve. Am Master to my slave wife, but I also need to submit to sexy domme. Slave wife understands -- and gets off on my submissive adventures. I am surprised that you don't know how to find a lifestyle Domina to fulfill your submissive tendencies when you already have a "slave wife". Using the words "kinky male slut" and "sexy domme" and "submissive adventures" immediately brings up the idea that you are a bottom looking for things more sexual, as opposed to things more D/s with some actual service (service attitude) involved. On top of that, "slave" wife or not, you are married. If I read your profile, I would most likely immediately refer you to a Pro. You really sound like you just want to get your rocks off when it is convenient for you and you are not as interested in being dominant in the bedroom. Unfortunately, that holds little to no interest for most lifestyle Ladies. You need to get out in the community (unless you are a closet bottom...could that be the problem?) and let people get to know you as well as your "slave wife". You would have a much better chance of eventually striking up a good friendship with "slave wife approved" play benefits that would be mutually satisfying on both sides of the slash. Could you be patient enough to put in that sort of effort?

slavekal -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/29/2008 9:39:48 PM)
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FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/30/2008 12:32:44 AM)
Well darling, you aren't exactly without baggage, and with this quote: family guy during the day, kinky male-slut at night. Seeking domme to serve. Am Master to my slave wife, but I also need to submit to sexy domme. Slave wife understands -- and gets off on my submissive adventures. in your profile, you simply have to find someone who thinks you're hot and wants to play with you like that. I can't imagine why attending socials in your area would be a problem, as that would be the best way to connect with likeminded folks who want to play. M

azjojoba -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/30/2008 5:03:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: scvslave I have been searching for a real time Mistress that I can serve on a regular basis. Problem is, it seems the only Mistresses in Southern California are pro dommes who want to charge a lot of money for a session. Normally, I would be okay with a session once in a while, but money's a little tight and I would like to find a Mistress I can serve on a regular basis. Does anyone have any suggestions on how and where I can find a Mistress who is not a pro? Thank you. Here is the reality -- on the web there are two types of women who are dominant -- pros and the 24/7 femdoms who want you to marry them so that you will have to support them financially. Most of the pros are under the age of 30, and most of the 24/7 are over. In answer to your question: you won't find what you are looking for here unless you want to be a john or a 24/7 total slave. If you choose the slave route you will probably never have sex because you will wear a chastity belt and your mistress will probably be a bitch that hates everything about men except the money they earn.

Lynnxz -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/30/2008 5:06:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: azjojoba quote: ORIGINAL: scvslave I have been searching for a real time Mistress that I can serve on a regular basis. Problem is, it seems the only Mistresses in Southern California are pro dommes who want to charge a lot of money for a session. Normally, I would be okay with a session once in a while, but money's a little tight and I would like to find a Mistress I can serve on a regular basis. Does anyone have any suggestions on how and where I can find a Mistress who is not a pro? Thank you. Here is the reality -- on the web there are two types of women who are dominant -- pros and the 24/7 femdoms who want you to marry them so that you will have to support them financially. Most of the pros are under the age of 30, and most of the 24/7 are over. In answer to your question: you won't find what you are looking for here unless you want to be a john or a 24/7 total slave. If you choose the slave route you will probably never have sex because you will wear a chastity belt and your mistress will probably be a bitch that hates everything about men except the money they earn. I just snorted coffee.

azjojoba -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/30/2008 5:08:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lynnxz I just snorted coffee. You should stop snorting coffee so you can get to bed. It's way too late.

azjojoba -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/30/2008 5:11:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: scvslave I have been searching for a real time Mistress that I can serve on a regular basis. Problem is, it seems the only Mistresses in Southern California are pro dommes who want to charge a lot of money for a session. Normally, I would be okay with a session once in a while, but money's a little tight and I would like to find a Mistress I can serve on a regular basis. Does anyone have any suggestions on how and where I can find a Mistress who is not a pro? Thank you. I forgot to mention in my previous post -- most pro dommes haven't wised up to the reality of our lousy economy. They are charging for a market that no longer exists. There are guys who will pay to be spanked, but they just can't pay $150 an hour for it. Give it some time and these women will have to lower their prices. If they continue charging what they do they will just have to sit on their ass and complain about men who are cheap. [:)]

Lynnxz -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/30/2008 5:13:29 AM)
150 an hour for a pro domme is already a little on the cheap side... especially if she has her own dungeon. Trust me, the market still exists.

manxcat -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/30/2008 5:39:25 AM)
I support myself, tyvm, always have.

Lynnxz -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/30/2008 5:41:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: manxcat I support myself, tyvm, always have. I think his point is the Pros want money, and the lifestyle women want some form of commitment... the horror....

MissIsis -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/30/2008 5:52:04 AM)
A pro is paid to give you exactly what you want. That is her living. A real time Mistress, (disclaimer, because not always), will generally expect you to serve her wants. Her wants may be you, scrubbing her floors, or mowing her grass, & if you are lucky, she might even help you fulfill a kink now & then. If you have specifics that you are looking for, you might be better off going with a pro.

yourMissTress -> RE: RT Mistresses versus Pro Dommes (11/30/2008 7:32:25 AM)
Without reading the replies... I read your profile, checked out your friends and searched your area, and I wonder what may be your criteria for a domme? If you are looking for a barbie doll with a whip...yeah, they are mostly pro's.

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