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My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 2:06:08 AM   
n0umen0n


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Status: offline 		It's basically clear with my girlfriend and I that we're not going to sleep with anyone else besides eachother, nor do we want to.

She does have a history of sleeping with alot of people, but that was then.
I'm curious as to the psychology behind her needing for me to "use her like a slut" and "call her a slut". I'm hoping for some intelligent prospectives on this...

She says she doesn't want me to share her, but she wants me to call her a slut, as if that's what she is. I'm sure there's some psychological reason she needs to feel like that...
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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 2:07:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		Maybe she just wants to be 'your' slut.  Nothing wrong with that. 

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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 2:14:00 AM   
n0umen0n


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Status: offline 		I've never seen any definitions for "slut" that don't say a women with multiple partners.

So what is this personal slut you talk of? is it some universal definition I'm not aware of? I don't mean ot be rude....

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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 2:22:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		hi,

I'm a slut, but I don't have multiple partners, I have only one.  But I am HIS slut.  That means there's pretty much no limits to the things I will do for and to him, sexually. But I will not have sex with others.  My body is his, and his alone.

He calls me slut, and it turns me on.  It makes me feel like a wanton, sexually liberated woman.  It makes me feel like he desires me, and wants me.  It means he appreciates my sexual skills, and they turn him on.

If you check around on these boards you'll see many of us love to be called slut.  But most of all we love our partners to call us 'my slut'. 

Try calling her it, and see what it gets you.  I doubt you'll be disappointed 

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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 2:25:55 AM   
n0umen0n


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Status: offline 		myotherself, I see what you're saying.

our little conversation went like:

her:feel free to treat me like a slut
me:what does that mean?
her: it means I'm yours, and you can do whatever you want to me.



SO I think you're on to something here, myotherself.

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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 2:29:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		LOL - if that was the conversation, then the fun starts here!

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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 2:35:47 AM   
n0umen0n


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Status: offline 		Before I met her I was really into D/S relationships, and the only relationships I've HAD were D/S.

I know this is an equal power relationship I'm in with her, with bedroom D/S. This is a VERY new relationship I have with her.

I'm working on establishing as much D/S as possible under the radar so to speak. I want her to be soley mine, and I don't want to be confusing her by calling her anything I shouldn't be.

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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 2:44:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		She's not stupid. (I'm assuming) Calling her your slut isn't going to suddenly baffle her to the point where she goes and finds some new partners off of Craigslist. 

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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 2:47:32 AM   
n0umen0n


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Status: offline 		Well ofcourse not Just don't want to be a bad guidance is all.

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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 2:54:07 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: n0umen0n

I've never seen any definitions for "slut" that don't say a women with multiple partners.

So what is this personal slut you talk of? is it some universal definition I'm not aware of? I don't mean ot be rude....

Partial repost:
For me, slut has nothing at all to with the ACT of sex, how MANY people you have sex with, what TYPE of sex you have with it, what CRITERIA you use with your partners. Being a slut for me is a personal attitude towards sex and sexuality. It is an attitude that hungers for sexual interactions, is unashamed of those hungers and actively seeks to satiate those hungers.

A woman who only has one partner she only ever kisses her whole life can be just as much a slut as I am.

This also helped me in that I realize so many people (women especially) find it hard to be “a slut.” They can embrace being “someone’s slut” or being a loved slut, but find it difficult to be bald-facedly an open slut. So by keeping things to a personal attitude level, it doesn’t matter HOW the person acts as a slut…simply that they embrace their slut attitude.

In short:
slut- someone who has an active interest in sex, sexuality and celebrates it openly (does not imply any ACTUAL sex, or any AMOUNT of sex)

whore- someone who receives money in exchange for sexual services

bitch- female who has aggravating, negative and superior attitude

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1428646/mpage_7/key_slut/tm.htm#1433293
the "s" word

http://www.collarchat.com/m_237078/mpage_1/key_slut/tm.htm
sacred slut

http://www.collarchat.com/m_531333/mpage_1/key_slut/tm.htm#531359
bitches, whores and sluts

http://www.collarchat.com/m_591921/mpage_1/key_slut/tm.htm#592075
slut over bitch?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_409663/mpage_1/key_slut/tm.htm#409813
whore slut??

http://www.collarchat.com/m_303351/mpage_1/key_slut/tm.htm#303531
sluts? requesting your thoughts

http://www.collarchat.com/m_303280/mpage_2/key_slut/tm.htm#303517
sluts

http://www.collarchat.com/m_261773/mpage_1/key_slut/tm.htm#261966
what does slut mean to you?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_122047/mpage_1/key_slut/tm.htm#122221
being a slut

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1178048/mpage_1/key_slut/tm.htm#1178265
slut training

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1064330/mpage_1/key_slut/tm.htm#1064463
define the term "slut"


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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 2:57:06 AM   
n0umen0n


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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 3:11:51 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		If we could know for sure what sex was like when humans were at their most basic, I suspect that the female was as likely as the male to have multiple partners, maybe more likely.  There is some science to suggest that, especially the shape of the human penis which is designed to siphon away the previous ejaculate, the ridge at the underside of the penis to channel away the previous ejaculate. 

To be a slut then is to revert to a time before social stiffling of a woman's total enjoyment with total abandon as she was originally designed by nature.  You can call me the Queen of Sheba will not make me so in fact and calling your girlfriend a slut will not make her go out and fuck others.  But it might allow her to feel her sexuality more fully and might allow you to recieve that energy from her and allow you to feel yours more fully also.

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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 3:16:15 AM   
n0umen0n


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< Message edited by n0umen0n -- 11/30/2008 3:18:50 AM >

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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 3:19:44 AM   
eyesopened


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ORIGINAL: n0umen0n

What's everyone's opinion on reasons a women wants to be "used"? as for my pleasure and not hers.


Maybe being "used" for your sexual pleasure, IS her sexual pleaure.  I know that is true for me.

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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 3:24:02 AM   
n0umen0n


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Status: offline 		It is, I'm interested in the psychology of it.

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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 4:20:17 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: n0umen0n

She says she doesn't want me to share her, but she wants me to call her a slut, as if that's what she is. I'm sure there's some psychological reason she needs to feel like that...


Maybe. Or maybe she is just into being called a slut. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar buddy - there are woman with only one sexual partner to their name who get off on dirty talk.

Edited to add: Being called a slut and other aspects of dirty talk isn't, in my opinion anyway, that unsual. It's a bit like fuzzy handcuffs - you'll find a lot of people using them who would rather have a heart attack than come to this website.

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 11/30/2008 4:23:11 AM >

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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 6:00:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		She is simply giving herself to you completely; to allow her body to be used by you as you see fit.  This is a beautiful present for a woman to open herself up this much and to basically tell you that she has no limits but trusts you without limits.  It no doubt makes her feel sexy and desirable.  Actually being reminded that she is your slut in such a situation can give her a rush, but chances are she would react very differently if you called her a slut across a crowded mall.  What is said in the privacy of your bedroom will be a very different issue. 


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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 8:12:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		So she's your slut and probably expects you to take her and use her well sometimes with out the formality of forplay or advanced warning. Good show mate most male Dominants here who have no girl at the moment will be lusting after her and wishing to be in your shoes.. One of my girls some years ago defined slut and in particular her bein my slut as someone who will wear and act in a provocable manner (within boundaries I set) including in public. She will get nakid for me and/or have sex with me in a public place or infront of an audience if that was my command and who would strip nakid in the manner, place, in private or public , and before whom I command. I use this as my base definition of slut. 

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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 8:16:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		'slut' has more interpretations;  more context than what we're used to in the standard mainstream world

why not ask her about what it means to her! 

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RE: My girlfriend wants to be called a slut? - 11/30/2008 8:43:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		That "no foreplay" thing isn't universal by any means; it may be true for some girls.

For me, being slutty is acknowledging how primal things get for me... I'm not the "good girl" who "doesn't do that sort of thing".  Instead, I'm the girl that not only WILL do that sort of thing, but enjoys it so much that the thinking side of my brain shuts off and the feeling side takes over and I NEED IT RIGHT NOW. 

*cough*


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