Jeptha -> RE: Mold me? (12/4/2008 10:41:22 AM)
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ORIGINAL: trealeon I think the term "emotional kink" kind of sums it up. That's what it is. Some people get off on being spanked, whipped, chained up, suspended, choked, etc. Some people get off on being mentally and emotionally manipulated, molded, shaped, micromanaged etc. All it means is that people need to find the partner (Dom or sub) that matches their particular kinks and preferences. Same as in any type of relationship. I think the key is that we want to try and keep an open mind even if we don't understand it or it isn't our "kink." I always like these types of threads that question other's tastes so that we can learn what makes others tick. I've always wondered, too, when I've read stuff that makes it sound like being with some dominant is roughly equivalent to going to a 4-year university, or something like that. This thread has given me some insights into what that means to some people. (Plus, some absolutely fascinating insights into people's complex relationships with brussels sprouts.) Nueva Vida's experience was a good example of the former. One minor thing I do wonder (and I may have missed it in the now many pages of this thread); Nueva Vida, did you seek to be "molded" or guided at the outset of the relationship, or did it just happen? The reason I ask is that I wonder if there's ever any sort of irony possible in the "seeking to be molded" stance... because it seems to envision and idealize a certain type of relationship right away, which is in some respects the opposite of being open and flexible. Probably just chasing my tail there, and I'm pretty much just tripping at this point, anyway, because it has been mostly outside of my realm of experience thus far. ~Just wondering, though.
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