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DogGoneBad -> Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:20:26 PM)
I've been debating about laying down an ultimatum or ending things. The issue this is over is one that I can not deal with anymore. She is aware that I have a problem over this issue. I thought the issue was resolved on her end. Last night during a phone conversation she brought up the fact it was still going on. If I make the decision to end things, it will be final. There will be no second chances or turning back. If I lay down an ultimatum it gives her one last opportunity or chance. I can not press forward in the relationship as long as this is still going on. In fact, I will end up emotionally detaching from her. She has not taken this issue as a serious matter.

DavanKael -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:22:17 PM)
More information required. Please elucidate. Davan

kiwisub12 -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:23:30 PM)
Wow - you are upset - and if what i am reading is right, then you have cause. If you have an issue in a relationship that has been addressed - apparently to resolution - and then renigged on, with no apparent remorse or willing to resolve it, and it is a deal breaker, and the other party knows this, then yes, an ultimatum would be the way to go. Good luck.

Rover -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:25:23 PM)
Honestly, this is not said to be mean.... but who is her Master? You or us? John

persephonee -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:27:02 PM)
Rover....be nice.

Rover -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:28:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: persephonee Rover....be nice. I'm trying awfully hard, but isn't that a rather fundamental perspective to place on questions like this? John

celticlord2112 -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:29:01 PM)
quote: I can not press forward in the relationship as long as this is still going on. In fact, I will end up emotionally detaching from her. She has not taken this issue as a serious matter. Two thoughts..... 1. You most definitely CAN "press forward"--what do you think you have been doing all along? 2. People don't detach emotionally over "serious matters". They detach over the trivial ones.

persephonee -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:30:57 PM)
Dear John... People need to vent. Even the most domliest of dominants...such as yourself (altho i would need to search for you venting and i bet the server may have "somehow" eaten that morsel of truth) Actually i have been dying to say that for a looooong time. Tonite was your nite...Thank you for playing along. smooches the Domliest of all Dominants perse (she knows cuz she perved you last nite)

marie2 -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:31:30 PM)
Is this related to the other thread??

slavejali -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:32:54 PM)
Honestly, this is not said to be mean.... but who is her Master? You or us? That's a bit mean [:)] I reckon one of the cool things bout message boards is that you can vent to anonymous people, kinda use them as a sounding board to sort things out in your own mind. No wrongs or rights with using them, or what you use them for. Man some of the emotional babble I've poured out on here...

marie2 -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:32:56 PM)
Umm....Did you just call him Dear John?

DogGoneBad -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:35:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rover Honestly, this is not said to be mean.... but who is her Master? You or us? John This is a new relationship. I did express my expectation already, this is why I debate about ending it instead of giving an ultimatum.

celticlord2112 -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:36:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DogGoneBad This is a new relationship. I did express my expectation already, this is why I debate about ending it instead of giving an ultimatum. Simple question: You give her the ultimatum. Will she respect it?

DogGoneBad -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:37:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 Is this related to the other thread?? No it is not.

marie2 -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:38:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DogGoneBad quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 Is this related to the other thread?? No it is not. Ok, sorry about that. It sounded like you could have been the other side of that story. Anyway.... it's hard to comment without having the gist of what the situation is.

oceanwynds -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:41:25 PM)
Personally, I feel everyone has the right to rant and rave if they wish. It shouldn't be limited to not Doms either. Rover's comment might have been seen as mean, but to be honest that was mild compare to some of the others remarks I have seen on other threads. He just politely gave his opinion and didn't come battling with his ego. I can not tell the OP what to do either, because it would make no sense. Just taking his post as a rant. oceanwynds

Rover -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:41:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: persephonee Dear John... People need to vent. Even the most domliest of dominants...such as yourself (altho i would need to search for you venting and i bet the server may have "somehow" eaten that morsel of truth) Actually i have been dying to say that for a looooong time. Tonite was your nite...Thank you for playing along. smooches the Domliest of all Dominants perse (she knows cuz she perved you last nite) Puhleeeze.... I utterly reject any portrayal of me as anything other than average. It's easy to have an unrealistic perception of someone via the internet, which is limited in its ability to adequately convey us in all our complexities. John

DogGoneBad -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:42:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: celticlord2112 quote: ORIGINAL: DogGoneBad This is a new relationship. I did express my expectation already, this is why I debate about ending it instead of giving an ultimatum. Simple question: You give her the ultimatum. Will she respect it? I suspect she will honor it. I suspect she will become resentful. I know if I end things that she will take it bad. If it continues onward like this, I'm going to become resentful.

DogGoneBad -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:45:15 PM)
This is not a rant. I'm rather somber about this.

celticlord2112 -> RE: Ultimatum or end it (12/3/2008 3:46:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DogGoneBad quote: ORIGINAL: celticlord2112 quote: ORIGINAL: DogGoneBad This is a new relationship. I did express my expectation already, this is why I debate about ending it instead of giving an ultimatum. Simple question: You give her the ultimatum. Will she respect it? I suspect she will honor it. I suspect she will become resentful. I know if I end things that she will take it bad. If it continues onward like this, I'm going to become resentful. I suspect you have your answer on what to do. What comes next is your choice.

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