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RE: what do you think? - 12/5/2008 8:02:37 AM

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ROFL Stella.
And happy co-birthday sexi - was mine too ;;-)).
As to the OP, as someone else said, likely they will be negative in life as well. In a journal, if it is a one-time venting thing, it can be overlooked, but a profile is semi permanent, and makes a powerful statement about who someone is.

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RE: what do you think? - 12/5/2008 8:05:57 AM

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ROFL Stella!

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RE: what do you think? - 12/5/2008 8:12:33 AM

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Happy Birthday to all of you... too many for me to list it seems. I can't believe how many December birthdays there are around here!

Happy Happy! I hope you all get exactly what you want out of your special day!

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RE: what do you think? - 12/5/2008 8:21:11 AM

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To answer your question, in general, no it doesn't bother Me if a journal entry is negative; I assume the writer has their own valid reasons for such an entry. But then again, it would depend what the blog was about.

Happy birthday (b.t.w) :)

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RE: what do you think? - 12/5/2008 8:39:13 AM

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   First - Happy Birthday !

   It's occurred on more than one occasion , that after seeing a seemingly attractive profile - I was totally turned off by their journal entries . Bitchin' and moanin' about other people on here , about their lot in life , about how they get no responses ( gee - wonder why !?) , or the responses they do get are awful and hostile .

     Poor babies . And that's just how I see them - whiny babies - not self assured adults , which I find far more attractive !

     Positive works - positively !!

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RE: what do you think? - 12/5/2008 8:45:53 AM

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Negativity = Total Turnoff

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RE: what do you think? - 12/5/2008 9:10:35 AM

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RE: what do you think? - 12/5/2008 9:17:25 AM

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For those that are looking for a partner on CM, does it ever turn you off when you see negitive writing in profiles or journals?

Hell, I am not looking and I find those kind of journal entries a huge turn off.

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RE: what do you think? - 12/5/2008 10:41:38 AM

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

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ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW

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Definite turn-off, even when looking for friends. I like interesting people. Depression, misery, and angst are boring.

And you still converse with me??

I love your angsty pics, darling! You make depression sexy!

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RE: what do you think? - 12/5/2008 10:44:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW

I love your angsty pics, darling! You make depression sexy!

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RE: what do you think? - 12/5/2008 10:56:59 AM

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Hey there
A journal entry could be a depiction of an experience, thought, state of mind lived by the subject at a particular moment in time. We have to admit that life is not a bed of roses (although the thorns could be exciting...), so those entries could be at times negative.
I've learnt that a good therapeutic method to clear one's mind is writing down negative experiences - as a way of cleansing the spirit and exorcising the suppressed emotions. So, there you go...
It's possibly a good idea to read carefully one's journal, between the lines, trying to look deep beyond appearance. Sometimes must-read books have torn covers...

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RE: what do you think? - 12/5/2008 11:03:57 AM

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I agree with marie's post about scolding. Nothing irritates me more when reading profiles than being given hell for something I haven't even done yet.

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RE: what do you think? - 12/5/2008 11:05:48 AM

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It all depends on how it's done.

People do have a tendency to lead with the bad news.

And bond over their complaints.

If a journal entry is negative, but still shows some degree of insight or introspection, perspective, or thoughtfulness or humor or questioning, or something like that, that I think it can be fine.

I don't *think* I'm a negative person (...am I?) , and yet I can carp with the best of them, it seems.

There was some big church recently that challenged its members to not complain about anything for 21 days straight, and they all reported finding it an incredibly difficult task to do (many took over a year to put a 21 day streak together), but they also reported having adopted a more optimistic and hopefull mindset in the process.

They would put a rubber band around one wrist, and if they caught themselves bitching (out loud - you still can think what you want) about something, they'd switch it to the other wrist.

They've tried to take it out of the church setting and suggest the exercise to the public at large, and I've been curious about it.
Thinking about it has made me realize how often I use ...negative "analysis" , let's say... in communication.

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