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Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 7:18:33 AM

Mercnbeth

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a question for all orientations:

those of you who have experience being considered another's "slut"(in a good way

, of course!), what sort of specific activities or mindset did/do you and/or them perceive as "slutty"?
on edit: even if you have no experience with it, but have an opinion regarding it, that would be welcome as well!!!

considering the current usage of the word in our society, this slave understands the obvious component of indiscriminate promiscuity, either with everyone on the block or random strangers met on Craig's list or each and every one of the other partners' friends, or whoever is in authority over you directing you to,etc., but for those who have experienced "slutty" for your Owner/Master/Dom/otherwise- labelled partner, in a monogamous setting...how did/does that flesh out, both physically and/or mentally?

is it even possible to be "slutty" within a monogamous D/s, M/s or even a conventional relationship, without,at the very least, having sex or participating in scenes with others?

thank you for taking your time here!

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 8:13:21 AM

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quote:

is it even possible to be "slutty" within a monogamous D/s, M/s or even a conventional relationship

Personally I think so. Another part of the definition is promiscuity. opensoul is my sensation slut, as I have trained her to enjoy ever increasing sensations of all types. The more sensations she feels, the more she wants to feel. Yet there is nothing remotely casual about anything we do together.

A word of caution on words like slut, whore, etc. A pronoun can mean all the difference between gleeful acceptance and stinging insult. Many subs enjoy being MY slut, but would be offended by being called A slut.

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 8:15:12 AM

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Virgin at the supermarket ... maid at home ... administrator at work ... and slut in the bedroom ... the perfect woman ... :)

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 8:58:54 AM

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Mmhm, it's possible to be 'a' slut (or someone's slut) within a monogamous relationship (and without cheating).

It just means that you're hyper-sexualized (or whatever the equivalent would be in a DS sense) :3

In my previous relationship I was, most assuredly, a slut despite the fact that I had sex with no one else during it (and he was my very very first). I was willing (and wanted) to have sex with him wherever, whenever, however he wanted. Almost (generally when I was in a lot of pain arthritis wise I'd have to limit positions/activities) always.

It's different ways of looking at it, from a relationship to a pop-culture standpoint.

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 9:39:44 AM

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I was just saying to My little girl last night..."You know...I think it's very cool that you want it all the time." Of course we laughed about it, but there is truth there. My girl is always horny. She is a perfect sex toy, and she is MY slut. Others have mentioned the difference between being called a slut and being called "someone's" slut. I absolutely agree. What a difference the word "my" makes in that statement. She's a total sensation junkie, and I'm all about "trigger and response." So, it works very well for us.

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 9:57:52 AM

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Yup, we all get that it is the MY thing that makes it okay. I want her so slutty with me…at times….that she has to beg to be fucked and whipped. I want to prove to her that she is a slut and I do that often by showing her what she will do to get me to do something to her. Nothing like checks to show her what a slut she is. “See how wet you are.”

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 10:09:08 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

is it even possible to be "slutty" within a monogamous D/s, M/s or even a conventional relationship, without,at the very least, having sex or participating in scenes with others?

Sure, it is for me. I don't define a slut necessarily as someone who have sex with anyone and everyone ... I also define it as being ready, willing and able with a smile on my face at every opportunity with my partner ... always hot and eager.

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 10:54:31 AM

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BACKGROUND: It's only fair to let you know how this question evolved. It's purpose is to have some Monday morning fun!

I LOVE my slut!

(No major surprise or new disclosure there huh?)

We're both "sluts" and have years of anecdotal experiences in our histories that substantiate that representation. It's hard to appreciate unless you experienced it, but partners tend to not see this as such a 'good thing' over the course of time.

Sure its fun and exciting at the onset of a relationship, but both of us have heard partners call for a 'time-out'. It's not been the case so far between us. A few months short of 6 years - we're still at it with an intensity that hasn't peaked.

beth had a much harder time reconciling this at the beginning. I happen to think it a function of gender bias (she may add 'redhead' bias) where being a slut is an 'asset' for men, but a liability as female. Although once in a committed relationship there tends to be a greater gender commonality. she was accused in past relationships of being "too slutty"

. Lacking confidence her prior intimate partners

always thought that her insatiable nature was

"sick"; and the intimate details of her, at the time, unfulfilled fantasies

"disgusting!". Worse they thought that because they couldn't satiate her, she'd find someone who would

.

He current comfort, confidence, and acceptance that she now has a partner at least as "sick" and seeing the "disgusting" as exciting is pointed to the reference of the personal 'freedom' she's achieved through her 'slave' identity as our relationship dynamic defines it.

So 'bedroom' chatting

during a recovery period, she asked the question; "Master, is this slave too 'slutty'?"

To which, without thinking, I responded; "you can't be 'slutty' enough!"

Therein lies the dilemma. As much as I've tried to be a 'good' Master; I'm guilty of setting up a situation where no matter what she does, my slave;

"can never be slutty enough!;

frustrating her to no end.

To ease her frustration she's hoping that the good people on this forum can assist her in becoming the penultimate - slut! I thank you all for your help.

quote:

ORIGINAL: pompeii
Virgin at the supermarket ... maid at home ... administrator at work ... and slut in the bedroom ... the perfect woman ... :)

beth orders food from the store via the internet and has it delivered. We have a maid service. her 'work' and only job responsibility is keeping me happy. See, I did have her set up for success until this BIG mistake!

Point of fact: beth is already my "perfect woman".

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 10:56:54 AM

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Hey mc...got your mail...and lost it...ill email you tonite...

~fr~
beth...
of course you can be as slutty as you can possibly be and never scene with others...everyone gets all wrapped up in the fantasy of what they consider a slut to be...the reality is, you can define it for yourself and thats just the way it is...now get off the computer and go fuck that magnificent stallion.

love
perse

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 11:01:18 AM

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For me, my ideal of MY slut is someone sexually comfortable and open to new experiences, particularly the experiences I want her to have.

Once she wears the bunny ears and bunny tail butt plug, then it's official. She is my slut.

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 11:25:45 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

is it even possible to be "slutty" within a monogamous D/s, M/s or even a conventional relationship, without,at the very least, having sex or participating in scenes with others?

It is absolutely possible! Being slutty within a relationship, for me, means lust with total abandon. Passionate, sexy, primal, hungry, ready any time, any place, any how, and giving everything I can give to pleasing him sexually. It means having an insatiable desire for the man I am with, and never feeling I can give or do enough, sexually, and getting off on that fact! And also getting off on his pleasure. It means exploring any new avenue with him sexually, and loving anything he wants to do to/with me.

Yum.

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 11:28:19 AM

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quote:

she was accused in past relationships of being "too slutty". Lacking confidence her prior intimate partners always thought that her insatiable nature was "sick"; and the intimate details of her, at the time, unfulfilled fantasies "disgusting!". Worse they thought that because they couldn't satiate her, she'd find someone who would .

Hi Mercnbeth
beth, i do really understand this paragragh that Merc wrote. In my past, slut was my major name, and it caused a lot of problems in my head. Actually, it caused so many problems, that I purposely shut down that part of me. What a shame, since I think my late husband would have enjoyed it. But that is another story. I am just now letting this girl slut come back out in me, with Sir's help. Do i need other men or woment to be slutting, no, nor am i interested. It is okay for me to be slutty enough for Sir only. Have I completely healed from those words and physical abuse that some people put on me back then? No, but doing so much better then I have in ages.

oceanwynds

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 12:07:46 PM

Mercnbeth

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SirDominic,

thank you for your reply.

quote:

...A word of caution on words like slut, whore, etc. A pronoun can mean all the difference between gleeful acceptance and stinging insult. Many subs enjoy being MY slut, but would be offended by being called A slut...

duly noted

. it is why this slave included the phrase "in a good way" and also why this slave focused specific questions about being someone's slut...as opposed to just being called a slut by folks!

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 12:10:10 PM

Mercnbeth

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quote:

ORIGINAL: pompeii

Virgin at the supermarket ... maid at home ... administrator at work ... and slut in the bedroom ... the perfect woman ... :)

thanks, pompeii.

to put a finer point on it, though...what sort of activites or mindset best describes the "slut in the bedroom" in your "perfect woman" scenario?

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 12:13:59 PM

Mercnbeth

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aravain,

thanks for the reply.

quote:

...It just means that you're hyper-sexualized... I was willing (and wanted) to have sex with him wherever, whenever, however he wanted...

so, sort of a wanton, feline "in-heat", sex-slave mindset and accompanying behaviors, then? was it better to be agressive and pawing as opposed to passively panting & fidgety?

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 12:16:22 PM

Mercnbeth

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Cuffkinks,

thank you for your response.

horny and willing sensation junkie sounds like a good descriptor for "slutty...within a monogaous relationship"!!!

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 12:21:06 PM

Mercnbeth

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ExSteelAgain,

thank you!!! for reiterating that the "slut", at least for this thread, is all good with the labelling, and even more to the point, another is also enthusiastically referring to them as such!

this part of your response:

quote:

...I want her so slutty with me…at times….that she has to beg to be fucked and whipped...

sounds very much like the kind of "slutty" Master appreciates, at times, as well!!!

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 12:21:35 PM

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i am Master's slut...i always turn into a animalistic fuck toy when i'm with Him. i want it rough, i want Him to call me cunt, fucktoy, cock whore...it just makes me wetter and makes me want to please Him even more. But i am always looking for ways to push my sluttiness. :-)

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 12:26:00 PM

Mercnbeth

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mc1234,

this part of your response:

quote:

...being ready, willing and able with a smile on my face at every opportunity with my partner ... always hot and eager...

is something that resonates with this slave as being a good submissive partner in an intimate relationship and she has never assiocated it with "slutty".

interesting to think over and thank you for sharing your perspective!!!

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RE: Slutty Enough - 12/8/2008 12:32:13 PM

Mercnbeth

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perse,

thank you for your response.

quote:

...the reality is, you can define it for yourself and thats just the way it is...

indeed, "slut" or "slutty" is one of those words that has no one-true-definition, so that's not what this slave was after with the question posted...it was more along the lines of getting examples of how it plays out with behaviors and mindsets, within the monogamous relationship.

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