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How did you get into the scene - 12/8/2008 9:40:18 AM   
pnut8377


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Status: offline 		How did you come apon this lifestyle and scene?  For me it was a book, until then I had no idea this lifestyle actually existed.  And how did you know that you were a sub/slave?  For me I knew immediately that I wanted to be the one to serve even though I am extremely dominant in my vanilla life.  I was just curious if it is the same for everyone.  If it is something you just know. 

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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/8/2008 10:13:07 AM   
mc1234


Posts: 683
Joined: 10/4/2008
Status: offline 		I became more aware of BDSM and D/s relationships from erotica.  I just knew I was submissive - never questioned it.  I wanted to be the one kneeling, crawling, serving ...  

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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/8/2008 10:56:27 AM   
IvyMorgan


Posts: 729
Joined: 7/5/2007
From: Midlands, UK
Status: offline 		I got onto the scene through an ex of mine.  He took me to a munch, and that's how me and the scene started.

How I got to know about kink is a whole different story.


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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/8/2008 11:04:22 AM   
ElectraGlide


Posts: 1246
Joined: 11/25/2005
From: Maryland
Status: offline 		I dated a bottom 20 something years ago for a year. We were not scene people, we just did S & M play. We had no education on the terms of the lifestyle. After a few long term vanilla relationships, I decided I wanted to be involved in the lifestyle. I went to my first munch 3 years ago by myself. I was nervous, but it was the start of a nice thing.

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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/8/2008 11:44:26 AM   
littleone35


Posts: 2828
Joined: 2/17/2005
Status: offline 		I was introduced to it by a friend who became my mentor.  I was always submissive i just did not have a name for it.  That was 10 years ago he sadly has passed away but i carry his lessons with me to this day.  They helped me find a wonderful Master who i am crazy about.

Matt's littleone

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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/8/2008 1:31:52 PM   
WestBaySlave


Posts: 501
Joined: 9/24/2008
Status: offline 		I hit puberty at thirteen and my mind began filling with strange thoughts... 

Thankfully, this being the internet age, I found out about "the lifestyle" only a year later, and knew from then on that it was pretty much what I wanted. However, I had a lot personal issues to work through, first about being gay, and then about being a submissive drawn to the more extreme end of things, so I only began to be involved in the real-time scene this year.

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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/8/2008 1:39:36 PM   
Phoenixpower


Posts: 8098
Status: offline 		I used to be very assertive all my life, but people I was close to I enjoyed to please and to spoil. At home it was abused that I enjoyed to please and so I locked this attitude away for a while...and now since I am living in england I met sometimes partner from this lifestyle and ended up deeper and deeper into it. Also from my almost 5 year which I am now living abroad I am pretty much worn out and my fibromyalgia got about 300% worse...therefore my prospective TPE future with my prospective Master which I am going to meet is likely to benefit me as I dont have to worry about certain things anymore as he will deal with it (e.g. sorting out the bills with our finances which simply is a huge strain for me as a student in expensive UK) and so my stresslevel should decrease over time again...so from the medical aspect I think this lifestyle is better for me, particular knowing that I am unable to return to my country with my course I am studying (as this is ridicioulusly low paid in germany) and continue my assertive life in another new country again would continue to wear me down more and more. I really somehow reached the limit with what I am able to cope with and therefore am happy to accept that this lifestyle does fit my needs well. I do have my rebellous moments against it at times, but to 80% I am happy with my decision about this lifestyle and thats why I am moving forward into this direction :o)

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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/8/2008 1:50:10 PM   
LumusandtheLady


Posts: 1926
Joined: 11/1/2008
Status: offline 		I was always kinky and on the edge but discovered the Lifestyle through a club many years ago in the South Bay area of California. Asked a friend to go with me to check it out who it turned out was wanting to discover it as well. He became my first dominant. 

Rain


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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/8/2008 1:58:33 PM   
oceanwynds


Posts: 1044
Joined: 8/24/2006
Status: offline 		Sir introduced me to it two and a half years ago.

oceanwynds

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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/8/2008 3:08:45 PM   
Mercnbeth


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quote:

How did you come apon this lifestyle and scene?
 
an MD this slave sought out to quit smoking encouraged this slave to adopt a new "lifestyle".  she googled "lifestyle" when she got home and lo and behold...
 
quote:

And how did you know that you were a sub/slave?

 
after reading a bit up on it, pretending to be dominant in the "alternative lifestyle" world made as much sense(none) as pretending to be dominant in the world of conventional/vanilla relationships.
 
at least in the "alternative lifestyle" world, there was a place for those who are submissive, as opposed to struggling for acceptance in the world of conventional/vanilla relationships where dominance is shared and expressing a wholly submissive nature is reviled.
 
this slave was/is stoked!

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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/8/2008 7:09:38 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


Posts: 19224
Joined: 10/25/2005
Status: offline 		Fell into an online kink chatroom on AOL while looking for cybersex.

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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/8/2008 11:35:21 PM   
mummyman321


Posts: 2102
Joined: 10/31/2005
From: Dusseldorf
Status: offline 		Came across an ad for latex clothing in the back of a magazie. Sent away for the catalog. Then found out they made kink bondage latex clothing.

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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/8/2008 11:58:02 PM   
E2Sweet


Posts: 649
Joined: 7/8/2008
From: TopLeftCornerOf, OH, USA
Status: offline 		I became aware of my kinky leanings mostly though the combination of naughty tid-bits within mainstream films and a somewhat adventurous high school sweetheart (she and I were both avid movie fanatics). Soon after came the internet explosion so to speak, and I began to do some 'research'...

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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/10/2008 9:01:09 PM   
maatsubJ


Posts: 35
Joined: 6/30/2008
Status: offline 		I read too much lol. Seriously I'm extremely dominant in my day to day life, but had read books that had instances of BDsM in them. Once I became sexual active I kept having these urges to have the guy totally control me, so I started reading, and I found out about it.  I did not become active until about 6 months ago when I met Daddy.  He's be showing me the ropes.

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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/11/2008 1:38:42 AM   
rubberpet


Posts: 1743
Joined: 4/6/2006
From: The Land of Voodoo
Status: offline 		I took a wrong turn on the net and was helplessly led astray.
 
God bless the internet!

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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/11/2008 6:08:33 AM   
NextDoorMan


Posts: 15
Joined: 8/3/2008
Status: offline 		I realized I was a bottom before I realized there was a "scene".  I grew up in the day of corporal punishment in the schools, that is where I developed my penchant for being a smartass.  Any spanking or whipping scene on television sent my mind racing and my face blushing, often fantasizing that it was me in that situation.  I found out there was a "scene" when I saw a femdom magazine in a bookstore about 20 yrs ago.  The realization hit me ... "I'm not the only one!"

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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/11/2008 6:53:08 AM   
bdaile


Posts: 69
Joined: 12/8/2008
Status: offline 		i first started thinking about it because of the romance novels i read. i realized that i was much more drawn to ones involving a D/s type relationship. my first boyfriend was also into it to a certain extent and we played a little. However, he became insanely abusive and i ended the relationship and wound up very scared of dominant type men. i only recently decided to give it another try as i have never been happy in a vanilla relationship.

As to knowing that i was a sub, i'm not sure. That's just always been the way my mind has worked.

brittany

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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/11/2008 7:34:00 AM   
kristileigh


Posts: 1078
Joined: 3/23/2008
Status: offline 		i first got introduced by an ex-boyfriend. A couple of years ago now.

I have since met the most wonderful and caring Master! W/we have known each other now since February, living 24/7 since August.



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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/11/2008 3:29:40 PM   
SingleRarity


Posts: 320
Joined: 9/13/2006
Status: offline 		When I was fifteen,  in 1996'ish, I saw an episode of "Real Sex" about BDsM dungeons.  Up until that point in my life, I'd never understood the lure of sex or sexuality.  I became wet for the first time.  Of course, due to being quite involved in church, I repressed my desires for years, but they never went away.  Finally I broke down one day, typed a random search string into google, and found the kink community...which led me to Daddy....and pain....and mmmm goodness.

Daddy's Ballerina, e

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RE: How did you get into the scene - 12/11/2008 4:08:27 PM   
leadership527


Posts: 5026
Joined: 6/2/2008
Status: offline 		Well, my wife and I aren't really into "the lifestyle" or "the scene".  But we became aware of the potential for authority dynamics in relationships via the internet... Secondlife specifically.

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