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Dear other submissive types.... - 12/8/2008 10:20:06 PM   
playfulotter


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Status: offline 		Has this happened to you...So you are dodging the flotsam and jetsam of collarme and some profile seems a bit above it all...then....you send a few emails back and forth with him and you think he is smart or quasi that way..and then he says after the fourth one....soemthing like "do you want something hard"...sorry i can't be specific but i can't find the email right now to copy it here.....He was from Minnesota and i felt bad because of his cold climate....

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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 12:29:37 AM   
shivermetimbers


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Status: offline 		He must have thought after 4 emails, you had a relationship.  Oh well, at least you know he didn't have any patience, better to know that now than later.

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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 12:35:27 AM   
E2Sweet


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ORIGINAL: playfulotter

...and then he says after the fourth one....soemthing like "do you want something hard"...


Hmm... A fun response would have been to just play dumb. " Ooo I love peanut brittle!"

...I mean, if he's going to go there make him go all the way there...


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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 12:43:39 AM   
Lordandmaster


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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 5:31:55 AM   
mc1234


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Status: offline 		Well, I wouldn't give him points for being smooth, if that's how he introduced sexuality into your conversations.  But by the fourth email, I don't mind a little flirting going on. It's when it's on the first email that it kinda bugs me.  

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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 5:33:54 AM   
IrishMist


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Hmm... A fun response would have been to just play dumb. " Ooo I love peanut brittle!"

...I mean, if he's going to go there make him go all the way there...

Yep lol, my response would have been along these lines also.

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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 6:15:33 AM   
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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 7:19:22 AM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		Hahaha... smooth....

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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 7:20:11 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		I would have said that he needed to learn subtlety because that's crass. However if you otherwise feel he has potential, tell him. He's wondering if you're the type that gets hot with raunchy talk. If you aren't and you didn't tell him, then how was he to know?

Because let's be honest, most of us here who are unattached are looking for lovers, not canasta partners.

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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 7:21:52 AM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		But... that's not even sexy dirty talk... that's something you'd get from a highschool kid trying to cyber.

Then again, if he's asking if you like it hard, perhaps he was just trying to see if you'd mind his ED problem.


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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 7:31:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		Plus, while I may get turned on from sexy talk from the right person (*may*), having some stranger do it is just...icky.

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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 7:32:25 AM   
tsatske


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Status: offline 		actually, I don't mind flirting in the first email. What I mind is...
wait, I just had an ephany here. Everyone has a line drawn in chalk, and everyone's line is differant. I don't mind 'nice tatas' in a first email. (except that, in reality, that is usually the WHOLE first email and it never progresses FROM there...
'nice tatas. sighned, 21 y.o. Domlymanman
'thank you. Is it cold up there in minosota?'
'cold enough to get nipples hard. nice tatas'
'you mentioned that, but, thank you. Who is your favorite artist'
'one that does tatas')

I don't like invitations to fuck in the first email, and I don't like to see your Mr. Happy being Happy in the first (dozen) emails.

But, - and, sorry, i know I'm dense, but I think I JUST GOT THIS! Everyones line of chalk is differant. There are people out there who would be offended by what I think is mild flirting! and others who are actually collecting Mr. Happiness pics!

So, what to do with these things? Uhm - I think - redirect, and see if it is salvagable.

I have to be honest here, though. I ALWAYS write back EVERYONE who writes me. If the first letter is too insulting for words, I still write back and try to redirect. If it stays to insulting, eventually I block. (yea, that's a lie. If they keep writing back, but stay very, VERY insulting - I just have fun playing with them and slapping them around and insulting them, till finally it goes over the magic invisable line and Master writes them and offers to kick their ass if they wanna write HIM and talk about getting their asses kicked, (which they never do), and then HE blocks them, and then I walk around whining that Master took my new toy away!) (NO, this doesn't happen a lot. once or twice. But, they are so much fun to bat around. Why Master takes my toys away?)
But, I always TRY to redirect. And, overall, it basicly NEVER works. In over a Dozen years being active in Online BDSM community (and RL and F2F ones, but this is an online phenomonom we are talking about here), I have had ONE DommlyMasterMan Dom write me and say, essentially, 'ON YOUR KNEES NOW, BITCH', who responded to my blowing him out of the water by going ' oh, excuse me, i thought subbiesubgirlygirls liked that sort of thing. I'm sorry, my mistake. wanna talk?' who became a good friend. ONE. so, for that ONE, I keep doing it (I feel like God talking to Lot about Sodom and Gommorrah, here. 'for the sake of ONE, i will keep pretending they are not all idoits', said God, and tsatskeLot went off to find the one....)
But the inbetween kind - the 'barely over the line, I didn't care for it but many people would have been fine with it' - for them, redirecting might actually work. GL.

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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 7:38:26 AM   
LaTigresse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: playfulotter

Has this happened to you...So you are dodging the flotsam and jetsam of collarme and some profile seems a bit above it all...then....you send a few emails back and forth with him and you think he is smart or quasi that way..and then he says after the fourth one....soemthing like "do you want something hard"...sorry i can't be specific but i can't find the email right now to copy it here.....He was from Minnesota and i felt bad because of his cold climate....


Pfffft............ he was just talking about icecicles!


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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 7:42:25 AM   
marie2


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ORIGINAL: playfulotter
...then he says after the fourth one....soemthing like "do you want something hard"...



Flirting with someone that you know in a funny kind of dirty way can be fun, but when talking with someone that I'm considering for a potential serious relationship, this type of behavior strikes me as very adolescent.  I can't see a guy as a potential dominant when he's trying to run the show with his dick. It just sends me the message that I have all the control because I have the hole he wants.  Immediate turn-off.

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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 8:52:24 AM   
CalifChick


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quote:

ORIGINAL: playfulotter

Has this happened to you...So you are dodging the flotsam and jetsam of collarme and some profile seems a bit above it all...then....you send a few emails back and forth with him and you think he is smart or quasi that way..and then he says after the fourth one....soemthing like "do you want something hard"...sorry i can't be specific but i can't find the email right now to copy it here.....He was from Minnesota and i felt bad because of his cold climate....



Ahhh fiddlefuck.  I think he's been corresponding with me too. 

Cali


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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 8:56:56 AM   
lusciouslips19


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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

How dare he be sexually attracted to you after four online conversations!


yea, how dare she not be sexually attracted after 4 one line e-mails.

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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 9:46:15 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		That's the old suck you in with... I can be nice... and when they think they have your attention they can do what they really wanted to do all along.  Tactic's... Those piss me off more than the right off the bat sort because of the manipulation. 

AND... it is not a sexual attraction!  It's still some horney ass hole playing games and has nothing to do with the one emailed.  He most likely can't say it to his wife and is looking for online prey.  I consider it passive aggressive and respond as needed.  Bring in on hard boy... let me show you what I can do with that!

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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 11:29:53 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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ORIGINAL: playfulotter

"do you want something hard"

neither the best or worst pick up line from a HNG however i have had some horrid ones in which i snarked back and then blocked.

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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 11:50:18 AM   
knotslandingdom


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Status: offline 		If you want men to steer clear of any sex talk with you, you might consider removing the nude and semi-nude pics of yourself from your profile.  The pics might have given him the idea that you weren't opposed to discussing sex.  If bringing up sex after 4 emails is too soon you might want to mention that in your profile.  If you're opposed to any mention of sex in emails to you you might want to say that in your profile. 

After all, your profile states:

I  am seeking a man who is interested in taking control of me both inside the bedroom and outside the bedroom to a certain degree. 

A relationship where i know my place and that place is to keep the man I am with happy and defer to his will.
 
I do get pleasure from pleasing and I am eager to do whatever he likes once I respect and trust him.


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RE: Dear other submissive types.... - 12/9/2008 11:52:48 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		LOL... respect and trust are built in four emails???  Damn... I am old!

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