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RE: This is a vent, What do you think ? *UPDATED* - 12/13/2008 1:36:51 PM

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FR,

To the OP a good point can be taken from FL which is that people make incorrect assumptions and judgements about people. Though you have deleted your original posting from your responses I would say that maybe there is something that you need to work on, probably your own self confidence. What happens with me is a nasty spiral in fact this is true of most people, you have to break the pattern. My pattern is I start a relationship, am very intense for the first few weeks, its love and all that, then I become closed off and I argue and pick faults and my partner becomes distant and cruel. It is always the same, every time. Now this will carry on as long as i think it will carry on. I have to change it myself and to change it I have to notice it, the same is true for you. You need to work out your own pattern because at the moment you will be projecting it to everyone you talk to. Once you have it worked out work on changing it. Good luck.

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RE: This is a vent, What do you think ? *UPDATED* - 12/13/2008 5:05:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: FLMaster45

What are you looking for?

If you are looking for an "online Dom" - then I guess you got what you wanted. Forgive me for not being warm and fuzzy, but "online BDSM" is like "Jumbo shrimp" or "Compassionate conservative" or "Military intelligence." It's an oxymoron.

If you are looking for a real-life Dom, what the hell are you doing having cybersex?

And I'm sorry to say this, but most men aren't intersted in women who weigh 275 pounds. I'm not saying you lose any worth or dignity as a person because of your appearance, nor that there aren't some men who prefer larger women. But you cut your odds way down. And whether it's your "fault" or not, it is what it is.

You are an idiot.

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RE: This is a vent, What do you think ? *UPDATED* - 12/13/2008 5:51:41 PM

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Well, i am not worthy because i am 304.5 lbs. i am losing but i sure won't lose cos of a Master that says i am not worthy due to my size.

Time ages all of us and i hope that when YOU get older your sub/slave/Dom/me etc. will continue to love you and not be shallow as you are. I hate men that write me off because i am big. I AM WORTHY dang it! Love yourself for you. WE are all not meant to be the same size. Life would be boring if we all looked the same, acted the same, dressed the same, and talked the same. Take your time and realize in the end the right one will come along.

For me i don't have to have anybody. If it doesn't happen then fine. I will kick up my heels and enjoy life.

To the OP take your time. Go to munches if you haven't already. I agree to wait 2 months before getting to the next level of a relationship. If He/he, She/she doesn't want to wait oh, well. Not worth having in my book.

Good luck to you..

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RE: This is a vent, What do you think ? *UPDATED* - 12/13/2008 6:08:19 PM

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I am not interested in money, power nor class. Very rare do u find somebody that has that whom is down to earth. From the ones that i have met i just walk in the other direction. I don't need to be around a pompous, egotistical idiot that cannot be human. Thinks they are above eveyrbody else. Class to me is a person that is kind, thoughtful, treats everybody with respect. I don't find it respectful to put down somebody. Have i done it in defense of another yes. i will say my piece.

One day i was in a parking lot crossing it to get to my car with my parent. This guy with this woman in an expensive sports car didn't like the fact i walked in front of his car. I was 1/2 across before he showed up. He hit his gas with vroom vroom as to let me know he was willing to run me over. I had turned around and waited for my mom. She decided to wait and she didn't like his attitude. I finished crossing. As i got to my car i had turned around and saw a man with 8 little children crossing. Know what the creep behind the wheel did? Honked his horn loudly and proceeded to drive. The man and the 8 kids had to run to avoid being hit. Believe me they were terrified. I certainly hate people like that. I have no use for a pompous creep like that.
Any women or man that likes you for money, power, status i would be wondering why i like that kind of company. More importantly i would be creeped out why they like me for that alone.

I am not replying to anybody in general here just having my say...

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RE: This is a vent, What do you think ? *UPDATED* - 12/13/2008 6:41:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: winterlight

I am not interested in money, power nor class.

Just to clarify, when I say "class" I am not referring to "upper class", "middle class", etc. - I mean that quality that surrounds a person who has an innate elegance, who is well-mannered, empathetic, self-assured and self-contained.

You can be dirt-poor and still have class.

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RE: This is a vent, What do you think ? *UPDATED* - 12/14/2008 1:08:00 AM

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To the OP, you're cute, just talk to local people, if they can't meet within about 2 weeks of starting to talk, they're probably not worth pursuing (not always obviously, I know there are pople who can make that kind of thing work, I'm just speaking from experience. You can't really get to know someone without being able to look them in the eye, and I don't mean via webcam).

To FLMaster45- When I think education, I think of proofreading before posting a profile. Spell check is free honey, no amount of class or money will make you immune to typos and general acts of assbaggery. Also, while on the topic, I can't think of anyone I know in the social standing that you claim to be a part of, who would voluntarily post what looks to be a corporate photograph on a kinky sex website. They're generally in positions that would make that a really, really stupid idea. And they're generally educated enough to know that :) Delusions of grandeur; ur doin it wrong.

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RE: This is a vent, What do you think ? - 12/15/2008 11:07:29 AM

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ORIGINAL: submissvelyhis

I dont just put out. I dont do anything sexual till a ouple of weeks after talking,

A couple of weeks. A couple of weeks?!?!? Oy vey.

Try not doing anything sexual until you've been talking for a couple of months. Not on cam or IM either. In person. That might work out better for you.

Yes! In person and wait a few months is a great way to weed undesirables out of your picture.

To the OP: How about going to a few local munches? Asking around and getting a personal referral from someone in that group might help so you know the group is a good bunch of people.
Just having some plain old fun with good friends will help. You seem very pretty and since the original post was edited out, I am jumping in at the middle and may have a bunch of missing data...

ps: bigger women usually have the best round butts for spanking/paddling. imo, of course.

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RE: This is a vent, What do you think ? - 12/15/2008 4:50:15 PM

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eet. Talk together, laugh together, philosophize together, daydream together....find out different things you may have in common outside the lifestyle....become friends before you decide to submit....just take your time....usually if it happens quickly, it does not last long. Hope i have not frustrated you any further but i just wanted to express my feelings to you in hopes of making you feel a little bit better.
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ORIGINAL: submissvelyhis

just so you all know, I dont have a poor me thing going on. I reall am just venting and do realize my mistakes.

Everyone makes mistakes. All you can do is try to learn from them and not make the same mistake again.

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RE: This is a vent, What do you think ? - 12/15/2008 8:53:07 PM

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to the OP ...relax .. take a big breath... the right person will come along when the time is right... and sometimes you will have to kiss a lot of frogs before finding the prince..some people's searches will take them 10 years but in the end it is worth it and it sure beats settling and spending 10 years with the wrong person

To FLMaster if your second post was meant to be an apology then your education is a waste.. and I can tell you I would rather choose an obese compassionate master than one who is a rude arrogant fool.

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