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RE: Advice - 2/20/2009 9:55:52 PM

FullfigRIMAAM1

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KatyLied

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Our marriage is a very good relationship.
Of course, this is why she seeks on-line domination.

lateralus45, Maybe your behaving slightly dense is the reason she's having difficulty communicating with you, and maybe submitting. If as you say, you're having difficulty in your relationship, she's seeking online behind your back, and you still think everything is beautiful and perfect, by all means, stay with that thought. I say, whatever gets you through the night, phuck reality. M

< Message edited by FullfigRIMAAM1 -- 2/20/2009 9:58:06 PM >

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RE: Advice - 2/23/2009 2:21:29 AM

SirDarkside357

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Kick her azz to the curb.

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RE: Advice - 2/24/2009 8:28:34 AM

urlittleprincess

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hello lateralus45...

im sorry to hear about your situation. my Dom decided to cease the D/s part of our relationship last august. it was always a huge struggle for me and caused issues in our relationship. i was devastated...didn't want it to end, but He refused to budge on the issue. i moved in with Him and slowly but surely the D/s dynamic has returned. we had also agreed that we would speak about returning to the dynamic should He feel that way, but there was never a conversation. He has been behaving like His good ole dominant self again which makes me happy, but He doesn't want to talk it to death or define it as this or that. im fine with that as long as He doesn't do a quick 180 and go back to vanilla without communicating with me!!!

i am wondering who decided to cease the dynamic in your relationship. perhaps she went online to experiment because she wasn't sure how you would react to wanting to bring the dynamic into the relationship again? perhaps she doesn't want to live it full time, just escape to the fantasy D/s from time to time and knows you wouldn't accept that? or, perhaps she is seeking another...which would be a horrible way to go about things...

i dont know what to say other than let her know in no uncertain terms that you definitely want the D/s dynamic with her. if it were me, i would also let her know that her online activities are what i would consider as 'cheating'...and depending on your relationship and views on that well.... for me her choices would be clear...resume the dynamic with me or leave...that simple.

best wishes...

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RE: Advice - 2/24/2009 4:35:02 PM

WiseCracknSadist

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Everyone else can see it but you. Every valid point that has been brought you argue against it. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt my friend. Time to take the bull by the horns and ask honest questions and get honest answers.

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