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Would you ever take advice from your slave or do you ma... - 12/19/2008 12:04:17 PM

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Talked to a Lady on these boards and she said that in her household, she never defers to her slave's concerns, how realistic can this be really people, can Mistress/Master always know best, are there times when you take on board your slave's view, after all should Mistress/Master be expected to be on top of everything really?
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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:07:16 PM

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I make the final decision on what is going to be done but I look for input from andi all the time. See I'm Human and although I am willing to take responsibility for all of my mistakes I don't always know what all parties concerned would prefer.

To say that NEVER take the Conserns of their subs into account shows admittance of ignorance and to be aware that you are being ignorant concretes the idea.

Seriously who comes up with this shit?

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:11:13 PM

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Whereas the final decision is theirs, the Dom/Domme that does not listen to the advice/input of his/her slave is a fool. Life experiences give all of us knowledge, and discounting that knowledge just because it is owned by the slave/sub is foolish.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:11:40 PM

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Would you ever take advice from your slave or do you make all the decisions

Yes - All the time.

I'm 'Master' within the dynamic of our relationship - not 'Pope' assigned infallibility by a 'higher power'.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:12:18 PM

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Well from my experience, some people are weird, people say and do strange things, the Internet is like the world, there are some people here who you would happily sit down and have coffee with, there are some people here who you would be afraid they might throw the coffee over you. there are all types
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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:13:34 PM

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Although I reserve the privage of making the final decision. I would never not listen to the opinons of a slave or make them feel as though their opinion somehow makes them inferior.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:13:44 PM

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Kevin, where do you find this stuff? Why do you even entertain the idea of this being sound or balanced? It seems you very easily take on the negative view and hold it as truth or a possible truth when all over these boards you can find post and people talking a far different way of things. Finding a more positive view of things would be a really good idea. Why not go through the boards and posts and find as many positive posts/relationship type things and think on those a while?

We cannot talk you out of the negative view... but this site is full of the positive views. Look for them. They are there.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:15:16 PM

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My god how boring my life would be if I was the only one who had input and besides, if that is what I wanted, what the hell would I need anyone in my life for?

I want a partner who makes good decisions, who can bring richness and variety to me, who's perspective challenges mine, who has opinions and ideas, who has dreams and goals of their own.

I like strong independent women, both because of what they bring to me to enhance my life but seeing them submit to me despite their immense personal strength and will is just so goddamn hot!

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:16:19 PM

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I’m checking BDSM manual and it says that being on top of things is the Dominant's job. So to answer your question literally, yes, she can be on top on things in her house.

However, in my house, I understand that a relationship is a two way street. That does not mean the same applies to other people in successful relationships.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:16:28 PM

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i dont agree with it , Lockit im just throwing it out, i have a funny thread on all i want for christmas if you want to work with that one instead, how have you been keeping Lockit, i hope you are doing well

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:18:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

quote:

Would you ever take advice from your slave or do you make all the decisions

Yes - All the time.

I'm 'Master' within the dynamic of our relationship - not 'Pope' assigned infallibility by a 'higher power'.

You sure, I swear I saw a Mitre hanging in your bedroom!

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:18:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

i dont agree with it , Lockit im just throwing it out, i have a funny thread on all i want for christmas if you want to work with that one instead, how have you been keeping Lockit, i hope you are doing well

I'm glad to hear it Kevin... if I have time I will check it out. I am keeping... lol That's about as far negative as I wish to go at the moment! lol

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:19:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

Whereas the final decision is theirs, the Dom/Domme that does not listen to the advice/input of his/her slave is a fool. Life experiences give all of us knowledge, and discounting that knowledge just because it is owned by the slave/sub is foolish.

This pretty much expresses my feelings on the subject.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:19:57 PM

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personally, i think it would be very unwise for any person, whether they are Dominant or not, that they will not take any sub or slaves opinions/gifts/talents into consideration. i'm not sure if your question was geared in this direction or not, but i think every person has strengths and skills, things they excell at, just as every person has weakness's, no matter how you identify yourself. to me a Dom, is the person who should be able to recognize those in thier submissive so they can help the person flourish in that area, and even help the Dominant in that area. to me, the fool is the one who notices the strengths and ignores them out of pride and ignorance...

for example, if there was a D/s couple, and the sub/slave happened to be an accountant, to me why not allow that person to use that talent and skill to manage the books... doesn't mean they are topping from the bottom or being any else submissive, nor does it mean the Dominant is giving up His control, more that He or She is wise for utilizing the submissives gifts and talents...but that is my opinion

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:20:02 PM

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I agree with the person who asked "where do you come up with these people"?

While I am fully capable of, and expect, the right to make the final decision in matters in my dynamic, the idea that I would not listen to what my submissive had to say is laughable. I always state that I am looking for an intelligent submissive...if I am lucky enough to find one, why on earth would I not listen to her? If she is the intelligent one I seek, she understands that the final decision is still mine but she would also be wise enough that no one goes it alone in this world when they are also trying to live as two.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:22:49 PM

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yeah thats what i would think Miss, i mean what s the point in having a slave, if you are not going to ask them for advice now and again. and the thing is she is not interested in humiliating slaves or anything like that. a lot of Mistresses who want to be in control all the time are into that. like i say some people are weird with a capital W
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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:24:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

what s the point in having a slave, if you are not going to ask them for advice now and again.

i can come up with a few other reasons

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:25:31 PM

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Master always asks my preference/opinion/advice. He takes in all the pertinent information and then makes an informed decision. He feels what's the use of having a girl with a good mind, if He doesn't use it? And I always trust that He takes my needs into account (needs, not wants); therefore it is very easy for me to give Him my complete trust and confidence and graceful aquiescence to every decision He makes.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:25:39 PM

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before any final decisions are made by Him, all opinions are carefully weighed between Daddy and myself.

in this relationship, my opinion definitely does matter.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:28:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sirsholly

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

what s the point in having a slave, if you are not going to ask them for advice now and again.

i can come up with a few other reasons

LOL Holly... so can I, but I have been told I am rather single minded. They should have known better.. just check with the other personality...

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