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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:32:19 PM   
sirsholly


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Status: offline 		Lockit...YOU? Single minded? That is laughable!!!!!!!!

And you lost me on the "other personality"


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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:33:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

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what s the point in having a slave, if you are not going to ask them for advice now and again.



i can come up with a few other reasons



To keep Sir/Master/Mistress amused with humorous pratfalls and other...mishaps? 

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:34:01 PM   
Mercnbeth


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Would you ever take advice from your slave or do you make all the decisions

Yes - All the time.

I'm 'Master' within the dynamic of our relationship - not 'Pope' assigned infallibility by a 'higher power'.


You sure, I swear I saw a Mitre hanging in your bedroom!


No, no, no - That was the 'Medieval' nipple puller that you made for us!

I don't know what beth loves (or should that be hates?) the most; the nipple puller, with Mickael's unique independently turning screw suspension may I add, or the curved paddle contoured to the curves of her butt to insure equal cheek impact. I'll have to ask her.

Hey! There's an example of asking for her opinion right there! 

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:36:03 PM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		I'm very old fashioned, almost ancient you might say, in my approach to owning someone.

If I own someone I am an idiot to not utilize that property in the best way possible. If my slave has knowledge, skills, information, etc, that would be useful and helpful to me, I'd be a fool to not demand that he share that with me and I'd be incredibly unwise to then ignore his wisdom when I make decisions.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:38:59 PM   
Lockit


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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

Lockit...YOU? Single minded? That is laughable!!!!!!!!

And you lost me on the "other personality"



That lucy ricardo bitch that keeps trying to take up space in my life!  She really is a persistant bitch!

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 12:43:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

what s the point in having a slave, if you are not going to ask them for advice now and again.



i can come up with a few other reasons



To keep Sir/Master/Mistress amused with humorous pratfalls and other...mishaps? 

you are picking upon me (again!!!!)


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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 1:08:59 PM   
greeneyedreamer


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Status: offline 		In my opinion, we all have strengths and weakness. If it is an area that I am good at and he isn't, then we listen to me... and visa versa. It's the way we function,


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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 1:11:15 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		This one's easy.

I take advice from my slave.

AND

I make all the decisions.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 1:12:04 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		If you delegate, then by definition you aren't making all the decisions and you are deferring to your sub's superior knowledge in the field.

He asks upon occasion for an apple pie, but he leaves it to me to decide what kind of apples make the best pie, should I add caramel or sour cream, etc. He doesn't bake, he just eats. Now he could find a recipe but since he doesn't know how to bake, he can't tell just from reading one if it's likely to be good or not. Plus the amount of sugar you add depends on the innate sweetness of the apple, so one time a 1/4 cup would be insufficient and the next it could be too much.

But he's smart enough not to try to micromanage to the nth degree. All he cares about is that his tastes are considered, which is why there are peanut butter cookies as well as chocolate chip just out of the oven in this house.

Now as to somebody who says he or she makes all the decisions and doesn't solicit advice? I'm betting they aren't spending that much time together and the decision making is solely service and play. Not about what kind of laundry detergent to buy or how to fix the dryer. In that kind of very limited relationship where they see each other a few hours weekly max, certainly it's doable. Which brings the op to the question if that's the kind of relationship he's looking for. As well as suggests he ought to ask more about a relationship instead of assuming.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 1:26:30 PM   
LadyPact


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Please remember My preface in stating that this was a D/s situation.  The request was heard.  I listened to the reasons for the request.  It was discussed that I was forming a decision.  More input was heard.  I made My decision and said it was final.  When I did so, I also included a gentle reminder that, as the Dominant in the dynamic, I had the authority to decide the matter.  As the submissive, he would have to abide by the decision, even if he did not like it.


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
 I tend to be the type who wants to hear input when I am regarding one matter or the other.  I find the more information that I have on a particular subject, the better decision I tend to make.



As to the follow up questions from others, it would be My inclination that these questions aren't based on any kind of knowledge at all, and rather on things created in the mind.


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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 1:48:39 PM   
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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 2:01:56 PM   
MisterMonster


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I like strong independent women, both because of what they bring to me to enhance my life but seeing them submit to me despite their immense personal strength and will is just so goddamn hot!


No. Shit. That's the greatest part, is knowing that, if push came to shove, she could destroy me in all aspects of life, but she instead drops to her knees, and accepts my various cruelties, eagerly, I might add!

And, since I would want a slave who is smarter then me, of course I would take her advice on shit.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 2:03:56 PM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

Talked to a Lady on these boards and she said that in her household, she never defers to her slave's concerns, how realistic can this be really people, can Mistress/Master always know best, are there times when you take on board your slave's view, after all should Mistress/Master be expected to be on top of everything really?
kevin



My former owner asked my thoughts and feelings all the time, and took them into consideration when making decisions...usually.  This doesnt mean he always deferred to my concerns, nor does it mean he never deferred to my concerns.  He did what he felt was best at the time...and at times he just did what he wanted.

The man I am seeing now is much different in the way he goes about things.  Sometimes when we're together he just wants to veg and not do the thinking, and he'll have me decide if we'll go out, where we'll eat, etc.  Since he's more about enjoying the moment and being peaceful, he wants us both to be content.  If something is disturbing me, he decides that we don't do it.  This is a new kind of D/s dynamic for me, and I'm adapting quite well!!  :)

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 2:09:09 PM   
Gwynvyd


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Status: offline 		I am with Steel on this one.. seriously who comes up with this shit...

We are humans first.. and as humans in a relationship you need communication. Lack of communication causes so much bad crap why in the hell would you insist on not communicating?

Seems like a dumb assed idea to me.

I get input from my slave all of the time. I ask her for her input. I want to know what she is feeling, what she is thinking, what she feels about certain things. We share our life together, and are raising our children together. I value her as a partner in every possible way.

I have final say... but I always take her feelings and ideas into concideration.

It is why I would never collar a dingbat, or someone I did not respect. Why on Earth saddle yourself with someone if you do not respect how they think and feel?

I think saying " Well I am a Dom/me and only what I think and say matters" is just a pea brained notion. It is the mark of someone so insecure about themselves and their leadership they can not handle any outside input.

It is akin to that awful teacher we have all had before that thinks that everyone else is a moron, and only their input matters. It is a damn hard person to deal with.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 2:12:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		If a dominant never deferred to a submissive or slave, then what is it that makes that particular submissive or slave attractive to the dominant?

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 2:15:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

Talked to a Lady on these boards and she said that in her household, she never defers to her slave's concerns, how realistic can this be really people, can Mistress/Master always know best, are there times when you take on board your slave's view, after all should Mistress/Master be expected to be on top of everything really?
kevin



can Mistress/Master always know best Yes, in My home, in My world, I know what's best.

are there times when you take on board your slave's view I will seek information and opinions when warranted, then I am the one to  make and live with the final decision

after all should Mistress/Master be expected to be on top of everything really?In My home, I damn well better be.
 




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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 2:20:13 PM   
StrictnSaucy


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Status: offline 		I listen to my boy because he in very creative, bright and intelligent. If he wasnt, I wouldnt (listen to him). If he wasnt all those things he wouldnt be my boy! Just maybe, the person you spoke with had a partner (for what ever reason) that is not worth listening to.....

There is always a thousand + takes to one situation.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 3:27:17 PM   
CallaFirestormBW


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Status: offline 		I listen to my servants, and consider their input or concerns. That being said, when push comes to shove, _I_ make the decisions. Sometimes, the decision follows the servant's preferences, sometimes it doesn't... but the point is that, in the authority exchange within our household, the final decision is mine. I obtain whatever information I feel I need to make a good decision, and sometimes I even delegate a decision to someone else, but in the end, the final resting place of the authority is with me. It works out very well for us, both long and short-term.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 3:49:37 PM   
greeneyedreamer


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If a dominant never deferred to a submissive or slave, then what is it that makes that particular submissive or slave attractive to the dominant?


Very good question Stella! In my case, I have asked my dom and it was my sanity (lol well sort of sane), my intelligence, my submission, my sense of humor, and my overall happiness.

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RE: Would you ever take advice from your slave or do yo... - 12/19/2008 3:49:59 PM   
iou


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Status: offline 		In daily life, i would think that the Domme should take the lead, but be open to input from the sub.
In the BDSM regimen, however, it makes sense for the sub to set the agenda. That which the sub wants done to him will have the most effect and bring him under control more quickly and more fully. So it is in the Domme's best interest to give her sub what he desires the most.
This is from a sub's point of view.

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