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please and thank you - 12/20/2008 7:48:46 AM   
lynn1947


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Status: offline 		When your Owner uses please and thank you with requests for you? How does it make you feel? Do you not take it as an order if it has please after it?   Are you more eager to comply if you hear please?

this is the question my Master ask me. i answered it as honest as i could . how do some of you feel about please and thank you

thank you for your time from Master and i 
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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 8:00:43 AM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		i take it as a man with good manners, and i guess way deep down inside, it's the please and thank you's that make me wish to do more for him because i'm a stickler for good manners.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 8:09:24 AM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		He always says please and thank you.  I feel it shows his appreciation for the little things I do as well as good manners.  Those words do not make me more eager to comply, however, they make me realize that he does notice the things I do.  

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 8:28:27 AM   
starshineowned


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Status: offline 		Greetings..

I have to admit at first it through me off a bit having a Master that said please and thankyou. I think it was just more of a shock in general as not many guys I'd been with before Master..to include ex-husbands seemed to have much use for them. I'll just chalk it up to a Man that was raised with good manners, and it's a welcomed change indeed.

I understand the question though as the use of words and the manner in which they are used can produce alot of mental/emotional feelings/responses.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 8:43:55 AM   
hejira92


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Status: offline 		Master always says please and thank you- He is a gentleman.
 
And it doesn't really matter if it is a request or an order- either way it is an opportunity for me to serve Him.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 9:09:46 AM   
kyraofMists


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Status: offline 		In my relationship, all of the following things are pretty much instructions of what he wants me to do:

Hints
Suggestions
Politely phrased requests or questions
Direct/blunt commands

The only time I am free to do as I want, is when I am given the directive, "You are free to make your own decision/do what you want right now". 

The politeness is appreciated and enjoyed, but I love the warm fuzzy feelings that I get with the bluntly worded command.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 9:09:47 AM   
Roselaure


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quote:

ORIGINAL: hejira92

Master always says please and thank you- He is a gentleman.
 
And it doesn't really matter if it is a request or an order- either way it is an opportunity for me to serve Him.


Nicely put, Hejira.  I will take any opportunity to please that presents itself, whether it's accompanied by "please" or "thank you", or not.  When he expresses or indicates his preference to me in any way, it is my pleasure to accomodate it.  However he usually says "please" and "thank you" because he is a polite person, not because he feels he has to in order to get compliance.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 9:38:55 AM   
CFslaves2


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Status: offline 		i really don't think oddly of those words, it is just being polite. However, i don't think i'll ever get used to Master calling older persons, "Sir" or "Ma'am", but that is apparently some southern thing that is as much a part of Him as frittered deer meat and gravy. Its easier with military matters, because those are titles, but when He uses them with civilians, it is rather odd to me. Funny how that can work...

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 9:42:05 AM   
utopicus


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Status: offline 		It's a matter of good manners and politeness, and it does not have anything to do with the "condition" of the partner (i.e. sub/slave). Personally, I would be terribly turned off by a rude Mistress, who has not yet learned how to behave properly in a civilised world.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 9:45:04 AM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		My former owner sometimes said please and thank you, and sometimes didn't.  Whether he did or not did not affect my eagerness to obey his command or to please. Sometimes he was in a please/thank you kind of mood, sometimes he wasn't.  I was always in an obedient and pleasing kind of mood.

The man I'm currently seeing has a much different way of conducting and expressing himself.  Requests are often stated as preferences - "I prefer that you go to bed early tonight."  He is not my owner or my Master and does not have complete authority over me.  But I find myself wanting to do his will more and more, and I believe no matter how he presented a request/instruction/command, I would be jumping to get it done.  Other ways of stating his desires are along the lines of, "I want you to go to bed early tonight", or, "Get to bed early tonight, my dear."  There is always a gentle tone about him, and this makes me feel cared about in a way that is new to me.  Then again if he were to bark out, "Get your ass to bed" well bang-zoom I'd be in bed. 


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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 9:45:56 AM   
Vinmier


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Status: offline 		When my Lady says please and thank you to me, it let's me know she notices the small things. When she says 'please [insert task here]', she is being polite and knows I'll complete the assignment. Personally, I like the fact that she is courteous enough to use those phrases with me.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 10:52:03 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		It's the tone that matters, not the words.  It's pretty obvious when someone is being polite but actually giving an order, and if it's not obvious, it's easily trained.

Sadly however, lots of subs want doms to be cruel and tough and "manly" and rude and order them around to push their little squishy fuzzy sub buttons in the ways that they most want (except when they don't)

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 2:41:01 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lynn1947

When your Owner uses please and thank you with requests for you? How does it make you feel? Do you not take it as an order if it has please after it?   Are you more eager to comply if you hear please?


He uses them pretty frequently and it doesn't make things not a command - though it usually means I don't have to dash off to do it. I like hearing please and thank you, I'm not into the whole "do it now bitch!" thing when I'm just making dinner. Usually if something isn't an order, he just tells me it isn't.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 3:09:58 PM   
mc1234


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Status: offline 		When within a scene, hearing please and thank you doesn't do much for me - blunt commands are very much a turn-on for me when aroused.  Otherwise, the words mean to me that he's a gentleman.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 3:30:58 PM   
Vanessacherry


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Status: offline 		My Owner does not really say Please or Thank you but i hadn't even thought of this until now.  I also dislike rudeness but for me, he isn't being rude.  We are really in synch with eachother so i guess i kind of just know what he wants or doesn't.
When i am not sure, i just ask.
He also uses lots of hints and inuendo which is hard for me at times.  We are still getting used to eachther.
Sometimes he will say "It would please me if you..." and so, this is my cue to do it.
Again, it takes some getting used to.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 3:34:13 PM   
VampiresLair


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Status: offline 		I always say please and thank you. It doesnt mean they arent orders, it just means I am polite about it. There still isnt actually an option to say no. Saying thank you is a good way of acknowledging work done, letting him know I did notice, and was pleased with it wihtout having to sound so formal.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 3:45:00 PM   
Aszhrae


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Status: offline 		Since my current mistress has always used please and thank you, it makes girl feel good inside. Mistress is actually asking girl as if she is asking another human being. Girl knows that mistress could make it an order, command, but to attach please, mistress makes girl feel as though girl is the only one that can do what mistress has requested. Mistress says thank you, it is like confirmation for having done something correctly.
It really does feel good inside.
On the opposite side of things, master never says please or thank you. Everything is expected and very little acknowledgment is given for having done something to his expectations.
Mistress and master are such opposites, girl can only say that the saying is true: Opposites attract.

Receiving the please and thank you makes girl to do better the next time girl is asked to do something. To not receive, girl feels like a crap and really insignificant some times.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 5:47:34 PM   
came4U


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Status: offline 		I find it hot.  Stimulating, that he can have the cultured ability to say please and thank you....while telling me to lick his fucking boots.

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 5:56:44 PM   
oceanwynds


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Status: offline 		Please and thank you are very common words for Sir to say to me.  Manners are a nice trait to see in a person, and Sir sure does have great manners.

oceanwynds

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RE: please and thank you - 12/20/2008 6:40:43 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		I don't "always" do anything.  Sometimes the little hole gets a "thank you" and other times my fabulous partner gets a "I said now".  I almost always open the car door and hold it however, because in that case, there is nothing "hot" in having her open her own door and by opening it for her, I show her that she is precious to me.

As LA said, tone conveys a great deal, as do actions.  I do my best to be both gentlemanly and barbaric and do my best to ensure my timing for either is perfect.  Bottom line however, I would always default to being a gentleman.

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