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Evility -> Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 2:25:19 PM)

A questions for the dominant types among us but all opinions are welcome.

Just glanced at a new (to me) profile that popped up when I logged in for a submissive female. Her profile states that her account is monitored by a male dominant friend who will field all emails to her and evaluate them. A few requirements and questions to be answered were included in the instructions. I didn't bother reading the full profile - just what popped up in the scroll window.

Would you woo another dominant and jump through whatever hoops he has set up to talk to or meet a submissive here?

I'm going to gather from the way I worded that question that the brighter souls among you can surmise my answer, but I am interested in yours.






YourhandMyAss -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 2:36:20 PM)

This question has been asked or came up many many times, and most said no.



persephonee -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 2:45:53 PM)

i would answer this question, but im not allowed to type without first texting M in DC and then i have to submit my entry in triplicate to the D/s Consortium of CT...and await a response via email. i then have to go thru extensive physical testing and monitoring to ascertain if im up to your standards and even held in enough regard to be read by a Dom, such as yourself.

Actually i think she does that to field the massive amounts of bullshit emails that she probably gets on a daily basis.

i wonder where i can get one of those friends...i just got asked if i would put bugs on someones chest and then squish them with my heels...that was an email i could have had screened. But i am a big girl and i can handle my own bullshit email. i suppose ill have to resign myself to that.

i find protocol to be bullshit until its applied to an existing relationship that i can get behind in the first place.

eyes lowered, kneeling before You, waiting to be dismissed
girl.



MsFlutter -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 2:56:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Evility

A questions for the dominant types among us but all opinions are welcome.

Just glanced at a new (to me) profile that popped up when I logged in for a submissive female. Her profile states that her account is monitored by a male dominant friend who will field all emails to her and evaluate them. A few requirements and questions to be answered were included in the instructions. I didn't bother reading the full profile - just what popped up in the scroll window.

Would you woo another dominant and jump through whatever hoops he has set up to talk to or meet a submissive here?.....


Someone in that scenario is either rather smart or fairly dense - I'm just trying to figure out which is which. Either way - no, the hoop-jumping wouldn't interest me. 



KatyLied -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 2:58:21 PM)

I wouldn't want to be with a dominant who wanted to be domianted by another dominant in order to get a chance at me.



pompeii -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 3:05:20 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Evility
Would you woo another dominant and jump through whatever hoops he has set up to talk to or meet a submissive here?


Nope.

And, most of those, I don't believe are "real" anyway.

So, double nope.



yourMissTress -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 3:10:02 PM)

Nope, no way, no how, no, not gonna happen, not today, or tomorrow, or ever.  No.
 
1. I would not bother with someone who didn't have the mental capacity to read and answer their own email.
 
2. I would not waste time on a submissive who was so codependently attached to another person that they had to have that person read their emails.
 
3. I would not bother with someone who made such terrible decisions that they had to have someone else do it for them.
 
4. I would not want to play telephone to ascertain if I want to get to know someone.
 
5.  It just sounds dumb.
 
so, no.  My answer would be no.



SimplyMichael -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 3:15:12 PM)

Not a fucking chance.

Not because I am intimidated by others but because it all smacks of drama.

She allows someone who she doesn't like enough to be with but will allow him control over who she talks to?

She doesn't have the skills to screen her own partners?  Then she is lacking too many other skills for me to have any interest.

She needs lots of attention from multiple partners, again, not for me.

I just can't envision a scenario that doesn't scream "D R A M A" and so I avoid those like the plague.



beargonewild -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 3:23:41 PM)

From the other side of the whip, this is my opinion.....If I was to be actively seeking a sub type for myself, there is no way in hell I would consider another who needed that third party intervention. If a person is unable to use their own common sense to determine if I was serious or not then it's a waste of my time and theirs. That indicates to me they are unable to think for themself thus indicating a strong lack of self assurance I'd be looking for in another. 



adrian28 -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 3:25:29 PM)

For once, I have to agree with Michael. The thought of catering to another dominant is irratating to me.



MisterMonster -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 3:34:54 PM)

Dig the backhanded compliment. Skillfull!



DarkSteven -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 3:37:02 PM)

I'm going to swim against the tide here.

I have been in this situation twice, from both sides.

Once, I contacted a couple that were overseeing a slave.  she had a history of bad judgment and they offered to screen for her.  I passed the screening but decided that her kids were too out of control for me.

Another time, I helped a sub screen answers from prospective Doms after she met one who raped her.  It was an eye opener to see some of the idiots who called themselves Doms - my favorite was the guy who wanted a no limits lave, and when I asked how much experience he had, he told me that he had been in the Army and had seen everything.  she ended up bypassing me to meet up with some guy who stated that he was above being judged by others.  That ended up badly.

To answer your question - no, I would have no problem jumping through hoops if they were reasonable.



girlygurl -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 3:38:54 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I wouldn't want to be with a dominant who wanted to be domianted by another dominant in order to get a chance at me.



I had to read that three times... maybe cause I'm hitting the spiked nog [8D]



Kalista07 -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 4:03:53 PM)

hmmmm.......Well, in an attempt not to take the character assisinations going on of a person who would 'put a dominant through this' {oh the trauma of it all} personally......................... i put Him through a lot of hoops before we first met. i'll admit it freely and honestly. i say this next part not to justify my experience or point of view but to simply present another point of view. A month before  we began talking i was raped, beaten, and otherwise assaulted, by someone i met on here.  i was still a little bit 'shocked' and leary of my own judgement. Some would say that if that were the case i should not have been here. The truth, for me, is that if i hadn't i don't know that i ever would have been able to come back.  i remember, vividly apologizing to Him at one point for some of the hoops i made Him jump through. i will never forget His response, "if someone wants to be with you and really wants to be with you, they will do anything to make that happen, because  you are worth this much and more".
Could just be us though,
Kali



SimplyMichael -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 4:23:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I'm going to swim against the tide here.

I have been in this situation twice, from both sides.

Once, I contacted a couple that were overseeing a slave.  she had a history of bad judgment and they offered to screen for her.  I passed the screening but decided that her kids were too out of control for me.

Another time, I helped a sub screen answers from prospective Doms after she met one who raped her.  It was an eye opener to see some of the idiots who called themselves Doms - my favorite was the guy who wanted a no limits lave, and when I asked how much experience he had, he told me that he had been in the Army and had seen everything.  she ended up bypassing me to meet up with some guy who stated that he was above being judged by others.  That ended up badly.

To answer your question - no, I would have no problem jumping through hoops if they were reasonable.



Steven,

Your response proved my point though, both women were filled with drama. 



Usako -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 4:23:21 PM)

Nope, end of story. I don't want to go through a third party if I'm trying to make a two person relationship with someone.



SimplyMichael -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 4:24:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kalista07

hmmmm.......Well, in an attempt not to take the character assisinations going on of a person who would 'put a dominant through this' {oh the trauma of it all} personally......................... i put Him through a lot of hoops before we first met.


Putting someone through hoops of your own making  is NOT what this thread is about.



persephonee -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 4:26:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: girlygurl


quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I wouldn't want to be with a dominant who wanted to be domianted by another dominant in order to get a chance at me.



I had to read that three times... maybe cause I'm hitting the spiked nog [8D]


could you pass it this way? im slogging thru the porn thread.



Kalista07 -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 4:29:28 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
Putting someone through hoops of your own making  is NOT what this thread is about.


*sigh* See, Michael it would have been great if i had designed some hoops for Him to jump through. And in hindsight, perhaps that is exactly how He viewed it.  But, the reality is that i had other dominant friends in my life who cared about me, and He had to pass their 'inspection' so to speak before we could meet in person. While i know other people were completly turned off or annoyed because of it, it worked for us. i'd ask Him how He felt about it then, but He's shopping.....
Kali



NefertariReborn -> RE: Would you woo another dominant? (12/24/2008 4:31:50 PM)

Nope.  Not going to do it. (Don't think I need to explain why.)



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