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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 8:38:26 AM   
CatdeMedici


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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 9:32:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		There is often a certain bizarre sense of entitlement with one's own parents, but she said this event was hosted by her AUNT???  So she feels entitled to dictate who the extended family invites into their homes as well????


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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 9:52:07 AM   
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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 9:53:42 AM   
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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 10:09:25 AM   
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No greater curse than to be unable to perceive happiness in what is going around you.


so very very wise.

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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 11:36:39 AM   
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It infuriates me that my cousin gets the $200+ coach purse I had on my "list"

i just picked up on this. Your cousin got a 200.00 purse at the home of your aunt.
Can you actually be whining that your aunt gave her daughter an expensive purse, and not you?


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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 11:50:34 AM   
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Just a point of interest   -   one Christmas Day, many years ago, in a country far far away, my parents decided they wanted a family portrait, since we were all home for the first time in forever.  The photographer was invited to dinner. One brother thought this was terribly inappropriate, make his feelings known in no uncertain terms, and was shouted down in typical family fashion.

She came and ate, took photos (beautiful ones too), and left. Brother had a bad day, the rest of us had a wonderful day and a great meal, and if you look at the photos brother is looking a tad pissed off.

Let me recap here   -  brother was pissed off, the rest of us had a wonderful day.

Read and learn, grasshopper.


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Absolutely perfectly said kiwisub12.  Unfortunately I don't believe the OP is going to get it this year. Great story.

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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 12:01:17 PM   
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LittleMissModern,

Your post actually made me cry.  I'm sitting here missing my parents and aunts so damn much, that I WISH I could have attended a Christmas party with them and all their quirkiness.

At 22, I was married and pregnant with  my second child.  Possibly not good planning and stupid on my part, but my boys were here with me, and even though I didn't have a dime to buy a single present -they were happy to be home and with their mom and not one of them threw a tantrum or complained because they didn't get what they wanted for Christmas.  Guess it was because the ham was delicious and they don't like salad? 

My points here are numerous.  You dictate your own mindset.  My children could have been wallowing in self pity because their mom is too poor to buy presents (I was laid off from work the week of Thanksgiving), but instead we spent a lovely day playing games and I scraped up enough money to take them to see a movie.  It was a great day.  I'm glad my children aren't as selfish as you.  My son's girlfriend broke up with him on Christmas day,and he had enough respect for me not to let his own heartbreak ruin everyone elses Christmas. 

I know its hard to feel slighted.  I do understand that you want equitable affection from your parents, but I don't understand your expectation of entitlement.  Perhaps it comes with being wealthy?  I don't know. 



WinsomeDefiance I'm so sorry you have been laid off.  "Your" story made me cry. I am grateful that I have my husband and son and that my son too is a gentle, kind and generous young man who appreciates everything he has.  He lost his father 10yrs ago at 16. It was a very difficult time for us both. We survived beautifully. He is 25  now and never lets a week go by that he doesn't tell me how much he loves and appreciates me.
My husband was laid off 2 months ago and so I understand how challenging things are for you. You are setting a wonderful example for your children.   I agree we do make our own choices and create all our own suffering and happiness.
You are the best example of that.  Merry Christmas.  I will keep you in my prayers for a new job. Good luck to  you.

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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 12:03:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		I had a perfectly lovely Christmas Day.  Why?  Because I chose to make it so.  I deliberately spent the day alone, played with the cat, made a pair of dangly beaded earrings, finished the sweater I've been working on, baked a loaf of bread, watched a couple of Harry Potter DVDs, exercised, played Christmas carols, returned some email, ate modestly, and had a couple glasses of wine (notice that there is no "h" in the latter).  Christmas and other holidays don't have to follow a set formula.  As long as you let others dictate what makes you happy, you will be unhappy.  Take some personal responsibility for making yourself happy; you'll be amazed at the change.

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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 12:04:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

quote:

It infuriates me that my cousin gets the $200+ coach purse I had on my "list"

i just picked up on this. Your cousin got a 200.00 purse at the home of your aunt.
Can you actually be whining that your aunt gave her daughter an expensive purse, and not you?


I was thinking the exact same thing. 
Hmm.. Wonder what sort of gifts the OP gave to her family?

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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 12:08:41 PM   
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u r so right that spending quality time just by urself is good and being able to do the things that one wants to do

u definetly r a classy lady

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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 2:51:11 PM   
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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 4:28:37 PM   
Viridana


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Status: offline 		All it takes is a big car accident or tragedy of some other type to take it all away from you. One never knows if next christmas you don't even have a family at all. So I strongly encourage putting petty spats aside and enjoy the time that you have with your loved ones while you have them. 

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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 4:45:22 PM   
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What did you really expect ? You went to this function with a big ol chip on your self absorbed shoulders and expected magic to happen and enjopy yourself ? It's called a self fulfilling prophecy.
It's not my style to name call here on these boards, but your really are an ungrateful little girl.

I wanted a Wes Welker jersey this year for Christmas. It's the only thing I really wanted. The sibling who claimed that gift to give me, gave me something else instead. A hideously ugly ceramic gnome. Things got tight finacially for them and my siblings wife went to some ceramic store, bought this ugly little Gnome and painted it in Patriots colors, put the Patriots logo on the Gnomes cap and made a garden decoration out of it. I happen to hate gnomes, puppets, hobbits and all those little mythical creatues, they give me the creeps. You know what ? I am more grateful for that gnome than I would have been with the jersey I wanted. The thought that went into coming up with something affordable that had the theme of what I wanted means more to me than anything else. And to see my SIL face, anxious and nervous, then turning into a huge smile, as I opened this gift was a gift in itself. I cooed and fawned over this ugly thing and told her it was perfect and couldn't believe she made it herself. And you want to know another thing ? That creepy little guy will be in my garden come spring. It touched my heart.

I have had to take over making Christmas dinner for the last 8 years or so due to my parents age and health. This year my brother in law offered to do it and let me relax and enjoy the day. He made a Ham dinner. I hate ham, don't eat it. We have had a turkey dinner for the 51 years I have been alive and this year we got freaking ham. I made my * famous* broccoli casserole by request of my neice and nephew. I made three lbs of broccoli. It went fast and there was none left for seconds. My little neice < who is 12 btw > was disappointed and did she stomp her feet and whine about it? No, she teased me and told me my age was catching up to me and she would have to help me next year so there would be enough for leftovers. then she took a picture of the empty casserole dish and told me she was showing it to all her friends to show them how I starved the family on Christmas day. THAT 12 year old has more maturity and grace then you will ever have. I ate a tiny piece of ham and pigged out on the veggies and potatoes and Guess what again ? It was the best Christmas meal in years, because I got to enjoy it and not have to be running around the kitchen worrying about getting things out on time. I probably thanked my brother in law 4 times for doing it this year.

I'm with erin on this one, you don't deserve to be invited to next years festivities.
You want a Coach bag ? Go buy one yourself. Yes, I know you are on unemployment. Go cut some grass, babysit, do some chores for the elderly. Make a few bucks under the table and do it yourself.

And btw: What did you get your dear Auntie for Christmas ?  What was your contribution to the family dinner ?
Did you do one single thing to participate in this ? From your sniveling posts, it seems you did nothing.

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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 5:25:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

LittleMissModern,
I do understand that you want equitable affection from your parents.

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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 6:45:24 PM   
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I wanted a Wes Welker jersey this year for Christmas. It's the only thing I really wanted.





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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 6:51:41 PM   
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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 6:54:03 PM   
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To the Op.

All I can say is, you have painted a picture of yourself here that no one else really could. You should read yours own words and see how many times you said "ME" and "I".

A Self Centers sub is worthless to me in this world.

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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 7:20:45 PM   
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< Message edited by KatyLied -- 12/26/2008 7:21:51 PM >

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RE: Family - 12/26/2008 7:35:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		All of the responses to the OP almost restore my faith in humanity.

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