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ORIGINAL: oSinfullySweeto

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

As a dominant, I would want to know if my sub was having emotional or stress-related issues.  I wouldn't get angry if she called, even if the timing was inconvenient.  I might say I needed to return the call at another time, but I would make sure she understood I wasn't blowing her off.  Quite the opposite; she deserves my undivided attention.  I'd also tell her if I was going to be unavailable for some reason, what that reason is (work, family, etc.), and for how long.  Even then, she'd still have contact info in case of an urgent situation.

I don't know all the details of your relationship, but something doesn't add up here.  Cursing at you was inappropriate no matter what the situation.  Assuming you haven't left out a sizable chunk of vital info, in your place, I would walk.

The words expressed above are perfect.  Communication is key and essential for any relationship to remain healthy and to grow.  My Master is a high-profile businessman, he is married, has a family and with the extremely heavy and hectic schedule, I am always important and never shut out of his life at any time.  (this includes when he travels out of town and country)  He always wants to know my thoughts, my wishes and we are fortunate we can converse with each other anytime the desire is there.  If for any reason he is unavailable to answer my phone call, my email or my text immediately – within moments he makes the time.  Again, all that he does for me is greatly reciprocated!  There is much love and respect shared between us.  From day one, honesty is paramount, we do not have tolerance for mind games, lying or disrespect. 
 
The situation you have encountered has set off alarm bells, any Dominant or submissive will share with you that communication is key.  I would seriously re-evaluate the relationship. I don’t feel you were asking for much, a simple text during the holidays would have gone a long way.  A short phone call to let you know you were in his thoughts would have brightened your day!!  Ask the questions you need to feel resolve and if it the answers are not what you need, you will have your answer.
 
Follow your heart and trust your instincts.... only you know what is best for you!  Best of Luck! 

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ORIGINAL: wideeyedgirl

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

if you did not hear from him during the holidays (when most have time off) that might send up a red flag that he is married.

He was out of town..on business. Supposed to be staying in a hotel. But also said he didnt have work to do that say, so I did think I would hear from Him. and when I didnt at all..it hurt. So yes...sirsholly. Now im wondering if Im just...not believing what I want to believe and ignoring the flags.

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ORIGINAL: wideeyedgirl

Thank you E/everyone for the info, insite and...reading my mind. and reading my heart - alot of things I didnt want to admit to. But when reading it from someone else...sometimes its hard to ignore.

Im going to take a few days and just...think on this and if its worth trying to work on, or if I need to go with my gut and find some another Fish.........


Thanks again, I appreciate all the help.

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

As a dominant, I would want to know if my sub was having emotional or stress-related issues.  I wouldn't get angry if she called, even if the timing was inconvenient.  I might say I needed to return the call at another time, but I would make sure she understood I wasn't blowing her off.  Quite the opposite; she deserves my undivided attention.  I'd also tell her if I was going to be unavailable for some reason, what that reason is (work, family, etc.), and for how long.  Even then, she'd still have contact info in case of an urgent situation.
 
I don't know all the details of your relationship, but something doesn't add up here.  Cursing at you was inappropriate no matter what the situation.  Assuming you haven't left out a sizable chunk of vital info, in your place, I would walk.

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ORIGINAL: wideeyedgirl

I attempted to reach out again - asking for a date we could see each other when he got back and...He got mad. I apologized but was trying to upfront that - Im not seeking online./phone, and that meetings and seeing each other was important. He got even madder, cursing at me. Then told me not to call or write til tomorrow - and that he would get in touch. and that i earned a severe punishment for being so negative (and I guess..mentally doubting His intensions...?)