samboct
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I'm sorry, I agree with Miss Manners and Butch on this one- rudeness begets rudeness, and politeness breeds more of the same. And Miss Manners comment is that one should always be polite, although I expect that if I had 50 plus emails in my inbox on a daily basis, I'd probably be trying to figure out some type of filter. There are mail controls for a reason.
This is a site where people share like interests and as such the rules are different for responding to "unsolicited mail" as on a site with a broader spectrum of people. An online community is nevertheless a community, and the same rules should apply. In any community such as this, I do respond to all emails. A short no thank you is sufficient for real solicitations (something from Nigeria which is obviously a scam I think doesn't rate a response other than delete) but even a pro domme looking for clients still should receive a polite response. Its the functional equivalent of a hello in the world. If somebody says hello to you, are you obligated to say hello back- even if they are a stranger whom you may never see again?
For the women bellyaching that you have too many emails to respond politely to each and everyone- "Methinks the lady doth protest too much." Why not try using the filter function and block function more? Or are you happy being so deluged and using at as an excuse for rudeness?
Reasons why politeness needs to be improved here-
1) Improved signal to noise ratio. Men sending out pictures of their privates are probably not looking to meet anyone, they're getting off on the power trip of virtual exhibition. People who take the time to write a personalized email should be encouraged, otherwise, they'll get frustrated and give up. The rude people enjoy being rude- the polite folks need some positive reinforcement or they're going to go elsewhere. Thus, over time the ratio of signal to noise continues to deteriorate. Has the ratio of useful email to junk been getting better or worse? If worse, maybe it's time to change something.
2) The world is a lousy place. The mantra of "Think globally, act locally applies here." I'm hard pressed to think of a negative consequence of a deluge of a polite responses- even a brief no thank you. Isn't there also a "not interested button" for a reply? I must admit, only one person has ever used that as a response- but I thought it was better than silence.
Maybe we should make a suggestion to the moderators for the following-
1) Sending pictures that are considered objectionable is an action that can get you banned.
2) Don't let people sign on using a new profile from the same IP address. One human, one profile. While this may step on a few toes, if it eliminates the bulk spammers ability to come up with a new profile and send the same old objectionable pictures, doesn't the benefit outweigh the harm?
Sam
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RE: Did I miss a class somewhere? - 
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...I was just saying that no one would have a true bitch with that little note in a profile. 
well.........when you weigh it all up..i think fundamentally , (and its an attitude i strongly encourage),that it is an important attribute to carry yourself well and have respect for yourself and others.and i know this is *online*..and people sometimes forget there are people behind the text..but would they really be so awful and rude with people face to face (rt). 
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