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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 7:51:25 AM   
thetammyjo


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its difficult She lives in Atlanta i in Dublin. She recently turned pro. i tribute her weekly what i can
kevin



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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 7:59:43 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		at the end of the day my feeling is this, if you dont want to eb in the relationship any more then dont be in it, at the same time dont expect her to wait for you. Im leaving the pro thing alone too. I just see this turning into yet another woe is me thread.

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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 8:48:47 AM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		well She is not a take all heartless person or anything like that, most of the pros arent, but i just have a dilemma thats all. i mean put it this way i dont think She would miss my tributes, i cant tribute her much because i dont have much, the most im tributing is like $40 a week, its all i can afford for now
kevin

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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 8:51:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

its difficult She lives in Atlanta i in Dublin. She recently turned pro. i tribute her weekly what i can
kevin



then of course she'll take you back.

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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 8:52:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

Would you be ok for a servant to leave you for personal reasons like real life career reasons or would you feel betrayed
kevin


That depends on what the reason is and why she cant be part of the change. With you being very long distance it is quite understandable that her requirements and the distance make it impossible for you to continue serving. I had one leave me recently because he decided to pursue dominance rather htan submission, and I was not upset in th eslightest. Now, if Fox decided to leave becasue of a career choice, Id be very bertayed and hurt. It all has to do with what you were and why you cant be anymore.


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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 8:59:47 AM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		it comes down to this , im more likely to see the President of Ireland than my Mistress, and thats saying a  lot because very few Irish people see the President, she lives quite a very private life, secondly my tributes will be small if anything and with the job situation thrown in something has to give. my ideal would be to leave Her service for two years and then recommence but i dont know distance and all if that is possible or not
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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 9:54:20 AM   
hereyesruponyou


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Status: offline 		Ok, how about you let me be your domme, send me $20 a week while you disappear from my life for the next 2 years...Sound good? No? It would save you some cash!

Seriously, i know you may feel somewhat attached to this woman and like this is the only way for you to be "owned", but trust me you can do better than having to pay for it. Geesh, this is a no brainer to me. Go vanilla for as long as you want and start your search again when you are stable and ready. And maybe find someone who actually cares about you and not your wallet!

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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 10:19:01 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		if shes a pro she wont give a toss if you bog off and then come back

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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 10:20:30 AM   
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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 10:24:52 AM   
colouredin


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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 10:29:52 AM   
GreedyTop


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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 10:31:51 AM   
E2Sweet


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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery
its difficult She lives in Atlanta i in Dublin. She recently turned pro. i tribute her weekly what i can
kevin


I'm generally a pretty open minded person, but come on... If you're out of work at the moment, why on earth are you sending the money you do have coming in to a woman here in the states?


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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 10:36:56 AM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		i felt i owed it to Her when She decided to become a financial domme pretty stupid i guess but thats the way it is, you see ive been Her servant online since 05 , She only decided to turn to a financial Domme recently. She says She is superior to me
kevin

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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 10:38:08 AM   
GreedyTop


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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 10:47:38 AM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		i know She is but i just know i cant continue to fund Her, i need a full break from BDSM once i get a job as i cant do both, actually i think i need a full break from BDSM until i get sorted in life and at the moment i just amnt, longer term i wont be able to support myself never mind Her in my situation as it is at the minute, i tried to convey that to Her. i think She will listen , i hope so, i want an amicable break from Her
kevin

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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 11:02:51 AM   
E2Sweet


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Status: offline 		Well this is my last bit of unsolicited advise with regard to all of these online slave/servant/submissive & money domme threads  : Stop sending money to people you only know online.

...It's just a suggestion...


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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 11:07:29 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		LOb seriously if shes pro you just say, sorry i dont want to be your CLIENT any more. then leave. Dont be bitter that she is what she is because well thats what she is. FFS

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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 1:02:25 PM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		im going to do that. im going to stop sending money to her, its not worth my health
thank you
kevin

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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 1:40:24 PM   
WiseCracknSadist


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Status: offline 		In your question and situation lies the catch 22 of the modern Dom/sub/slave relation. Theoretically a sub commits his or herself to a Dom presumably for life and a slave gives up all rights to serve one or a house hold in a capacity not unlike any other utensil made to make our lives better. But in todays society a person does not have to be accountable for their actions or verbal/written commitments. In an era where divore has rendered marriage little more than expensive dating subs and slaves do not have to hold up their end of the bargain because there is no law to make them do so.

So that being said if you made a verbal or contractual agreement with the one you serve then yes breaking it would be a slap in the face. It would make you a liar, oppurtunist, and a hypocrit.

Do you have the right to do that? Yes.
In my opnion, yes opinion, it is the ultimate form of topping and should only be used if your life is endangered.

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RE: Is it ok for a servant to leave his Mistress for pe... - 1/2/2009 2:16:03 PM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		i dont see myself as a liar opportunist or a hypocrite. ive been upfront about this. i told Her why i may have to leave Her at least temporarily to get myself sorted. i hope She is accepting of my situation and we can split amicably and hopefully not permanently
kevin

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