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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/10/2006 8:48:02 PM   
seaturtle50


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i wanted to update those who may be interested, that the Domme of my desire has replied to me. We have not "spoken" yet, but She gave me another email addy to write to Her at. I am now awaiting word from Her.

i wanted to thank all of the kind Domme's, (and others) that offered suggestions to me, they were and are appreciated.

i must admit that i feel slightly foolish, as i have not ever spoken with Her, and yet feel entirely smitten, by just her photograph and brief profile. i sort of feel like a little kid on Christmas Eve, waiting for Her next reply.

That said, i am a very well developed and mature man, and understand that my "feelings" are not indicative of Her and i being a match, or of this going anywhere at all. i will however continue enjoying these feelings, in spite of that reality ;-)

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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 11:33:57 AM   
seaturtle50


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Just want to let those who may have any interest know that i have completed my first experiences with sub frenzy and i now understand better what You were all telling and advising me regarding taking it slow.

As it turn out, although the Domme of my desire is a proDomme who stated she was looking for a boyfriend and not a client, (i am not looking for a proDomme) that boyfriend's first act as "proof of sincerity" was apparently the sending of a cash tribute.

i will read the kind advice i find here with much more sincerity from now on. (i sometimes suffer from thinking that i "already" know and understand things. )

i did have a good experience, in writing many "begging" letters to Her, as instructed, because they served to hone my own ideals about my motivations and desires.

i remain impressed at the extent that i was able to "Domme" myself in my own head. She really did not have to do much. Must also be careful to not read between the lines anymore. Also renewed-amazement at the power a great pair of legs has over me

So this is a thank You again for all the kind advise. i can now give some to the even newer sub who finds him/her self wondering the same thing. "Take your time ... go slow" and "if something seems too good to be true ..."

On the upside: Thankfully, my faith in mathematical odds has in fact been restored!

michael

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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 11:52:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		A Mistress chooses her own time in answering a subs request for conversation. As for myself I answer quicker when I have a more details on the sub and how much they are into the lifestyle. There are many out there that will call themselves submissives, but not all are what they claim to be. In all fairness the same goes for a Dom. If a Dom does not answer within a couple of days....given that they are not out of town and etc....then the Dom is not really that interested or has found another interest. Don't get down when you don't get answered because if there is no answer...then that was not the Dom for you. Move on to the next one and find the one right for you and your needs.
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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 1:11:41 PM   
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ust want to let those who may have any interest know that i have completed my first experiences with sub frenzy and i now understand better what You were all telling and advising me regarding taking it slow.

As it turn out, although the Domme of my desire is a proDomme who stated she was looking for a boyfriend and not a client, (i am not looking for a proDomme) that boyfriend's first act as "proof of sincerity" was apparently the sending of a cash tribute.
Sorry to hear Michael. It's so insecure and non-pro (in my opinion) to not say upfront I am a pro, but also seek a personal lover/servant. M

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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 1:29:04 PM   
seaturtle50


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Status: offline 		Thank You BlkTallFullfig,

i may not have been very clear in my last post. She did advise me in her first communication that She was a proDomme, even in Her profile i think. She also stated that She was not seeking a client, but rather a submissive/boyfriend/slave. i was aware of the fact that she was a Pro from the very start. No issue with that per se.

i was somewhat saddened by the concept that somehow my money tribute would make a better statement as to my sincerity than the daily communications in which i poured out my heart to Her, and made myself ready and available for personal inspection and demonstration of my sincerity.

Saddened, only for the perceived loss, as i was feeling so entirely compelled by Her. i do understand though, that much like the feelings of love, they are mine. Regardless of the proximitity of my beloved, the feelings are within me, and belong entirely to me.

Also uplifted though, as i now understand myself so much better, and i did get a solid glimpse at the reality of my own feelings in this regard.

Thank You again for the kind words.

michael


< Message edited by seaturtle50 -- 1/25/2006 1:31:03 PM >

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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 1:40:19 PM   
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i was somewhat saddened by the concept that somehow my money tribute would make a better statement as to my sincerity than the daily communications in which i poured out my heart to Her, and made myself ready and available for personal inspection and demonstration of my sincerity.
Did you offer to go see her, meet and have dinner? If you did, that should have been all she needed to understand you were sincere, definitely not money sent; flowers maybe, money to a stranger you've never met But wish to meet (unless that is your kink, I should say) "hell no!"

I ask if you offered to meet because I don't like men who consitnuously make online amorous statements but don't make the reservations with airline/car/hotel to make selves seen and heard in person to in fact prove you will put your money where your mouth is. M

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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 1:58:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: seaturtle50

Thank You BlkTallFullfig,

i may not have been very clear in my last post. She did advise me in her first communication that She was a proDomme, even in Her profile i think. She also stated that She was not seeking a client, but rather a submissive/boyfriend/slave. i was aware of the fact that she was a Pro from the very start. No issue with that per se.

i was somewhat saddened by the concept that somehow my money tribute would make a better statement as to my sincerity than the daily communications in which i poured out my heart to Her, and made myself ready and available for personal inspection and demonstration of my sincerity.

Saddened, only for the perceived loss, as i was feeling so entirely compelled by Her. i do understand though, that much like the feelings of love, they are mine. Regardless of the proximitity of my beloved, the feelings are within me, and belong entirely to me.

Also uplifted though, as i now understand myself so much better, and i did get a solid glimpse at the reality of my own feelings in this regard.

Thank You again for the kind words.

michael





Ohh michael, that game crap gives us all a bad name--- I am indeed sorry yet it seems that even briefly, you were able to feel some of the submission that looms large inside you---that is indeed a start--however, don't wear your heart on your sleeve---wear it on your arm, then you can roll up your sleeve when the time is right---

one other thing--men can have good legs too--be careful K? hugs--

don't give up, but don't give up you in the process--

< Message edited by MHOO314 -- 1/25/2006 2:01:18 PM >

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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 2:20:00 PM   
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Did you offer to go see her, meet and have dinner? If you did, that should have been all she needed to understand you were sincere,


Yes, of course. She had made it clear from the very start that She would decide such matters, and i was clear to Her that i stood ready and able to follow Her directives. Further complicated by Her currently (temporarily) being out of country.

i was ready to meet, and thought we were at a place where that was about to happen, (upon Her expected return home) when the "sincerity" demand came.

quote:

don't wear your heart on your sleeve


Thank You for noticing that about me MHOO314! Your intuitiveness is strong!

michael

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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 3:28:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: EarthGoddess52

I would say that a prospective partner, Domme or sub, should at least acknowledge a letter within a day or two. That would be the decent, respectful thing to do. Collarme makes that pretty easy with their auomated replies. They could then write a more extensive reply "shortly" thereafter.
I understand your anxiety in waiting for an answer one way or the other. At least that way you know where you stand, especially after you know that they read your letter. Believe Me, I know how frustrating it can be: I've written to submissives who sounded promising and not received a reply.
Try to be patient (a very noble virtue to hone)

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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 4:07:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

quote:

ust want to let those who may have any interest know that i have completed my first experiences with sub frenzy and i now understand better what You were all telling and advising me regarding taking it slow.

As it turn out, although the Domme of my desire is a proDomme who stated she was looking for a boyfriend and not a client, (i am not looking for a proDomme) that boyfriend's first act as "proof of sincerity" was apparently the sending of a cash tribute.
Sorry to hear Michael. It's so insecure and non-pro (in my opinion) to not say upfront I am a pro, but also seek a personal lover/servant. M


that translates into she was not interested in you as the boyfriend but will happily have you as a client, odds are that her intentions arent to have a boyfriend in the first place but its a great attention getter and bait and switch operation going down! i agree pro dommes are here for conducting business, i dated 2 of them with promises that i would not be treated like a client. Its like an alchoholic, both treated me as clients within 6 months. So dont feel to bad if pro is not your thing and she turned you down as there is a good possibility it would not have worked for you anyway.

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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 6:28:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: seaturtle50

As it turn out, although the Domme of my desire is a proDomme who stated she was looking for a boyfriend and not a client, (i am not looking for a proDomme) that boyfriend's first act as "proof of sincerity" was apparently the sending of a cash tribute.



Uh...now wait a minute. She doesn't want a client, she wants a boyfriend. That's understandable. Pro Dommes have personal lives, too.

But if you are paying her money, you are a client. Regardless of whether it's a cash tribute to prove sincerity, or a fee for service. It's still money paid to her, so that she will be with you.

Run...Run away...

You deserve better, seaturtle. Here's hoping you find it.

Phoenix

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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 7:25:23 PM   
seaturtle50


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Status: offline 		Thank You MysticalPhoenix,

Yes, i am running now

michael

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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 10:31:50 PM   
AAkasha


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ORIGINAL: seaturtle50

Thank You BlkTallFullfig,

i may not have been very clear in my last post. She did advise me in her first communication that She was a proDomme, even in Her profile i think. She also stated that She was not seeking a client, but rather a submissive/boyfriend/slave. i was aware of the fact that she was a Pro from the very start. No issue with that per se.

i was somewhat saddened by the concept that somehow my money tribute would make a better statement as to my sincerity than the daily communications in which i poured out my heart to Her, and made myself ready and available for personal inspection and demonstration of my sincerity.

Saddened, only for the perceived loss, as i was feeling so entirely compelled by Her. i do understand though, that much like the feelings of love, they are mine. Regardless of the proximitity of my beloved, the feelings are within me, and belong entirely to me.

Also uplifted though, as i now understand myself so much better, and i did get a solid glimpse at the reality of my own feelings in this regard.

Thank You again for the kind words.

michael



Is this the woman you contacted and described here the way you approached her? And then the suggestions here were "whoa...slow down, don't start with the worshipful attitude...don't go way overboard...just approach her like a normal woman"?

The reason I point this out is that if a woman is here and open to finding both clients and a possible boyfriend, the nature/tone of your introductary email will set the pace. I know that I respond very differently to a submissive that writes to me "in sub mode", pouring it on thick -- it's obvious he has already engaged me in HIS fantasy. He's looking for that fantasy to be met. If I were a pro, I'd put his email into the "possible client" pile, which she might have done.

If a man were to approach me casually, friendly, "hey, it would be great to chat, I think we have a lot of common interests" -- then he'd go into the "possible non client" pile.

If this is the same woman, you were way into fantasy mode when you wrote to her, and your position might have been unrealistic and made her immediately write you off as a fantasy-seeker. She just wasn't interested in you as a potential mate. That's one possible version.

Akasha

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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 11:07:01 PM   
seaturtle50


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Status: offline 		Thank You AAkasha for Your time and appreciated response.

Yes, the very same Woman. She is the only Domme i have contacted thus far with regard to my consideration. i was most definately in fantasy mode, and i now understand it was a real live sub frenzy. Lesson learned

However, the kind Domme of my interest indicated the opposite of Your possible motive in her response to me.

She said the following to me in response to my initial contacts:

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There are many other references, but i think it is clear by these few.

i do very much value Your insight and thank You again for Your post.

michael

< Message edited by seaturtle50 -- 1/25/2006 11:49:32 PM >

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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 11:12:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: seaturtle50

Thank You AAkasha for Your time and appreciated response.

Yes, the very same Woman. She is the only Domme i have contacted thus far with regard to my consideration. i was most definately in fantasy mode, and i now understand it was a real live sub frenzy. Lesson learned

However, the kind Domme of my interest did not indicate Your possible motive in her response to me. So at best, i was "led on" in the event that You are correct.

She said the following to me in response to my initial contacts:
<SNIP OF PRIVATE EMAIL>

There are many other references, but i think it is clear by these few.

i do very much value Your insight and thank You again for Your post.

michael


Posting parts of a private email lacks class.
I'm not sure if you are hoping I will agree with you based on what you pick and choose to share in what were private emails from her not intended to be placed on a public board.

She changed her mind on you apparently, and I haven't read all the correspondence that led up to it, and do not expect you to post it here or email it. I was just making an observation.

Akasha

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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 11:15:42 PM   
seaturtle50


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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 11:17:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: seaturtle50

OK, just a few more ... <sorry, i cannot resist)


m


Are you going to feel the slightest bit rude for posting her private emails to you for all to see?

I just don't get it.

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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 11:27:32 PM   
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Posting parts of a private email lacks class.
I'm not sure if you are hoping I will agree with you based on what you pick and choose to share in what were private emails from her not intended to be placed on a public board.


i am very sorry to hear that You feel that way. i do not however agree. As i took care to make certain that there were and are no identifying references in the email, i did not think or feel that i was violating any such implied privacy.

i have not at any time revealed the source of the email, and i do in fact have far more character and integrity than to identify the party on a public board or to pick and choose to "build my own case." In fact there is no case to be made.

The email is not "private" it is mine. It is from my inbox, in an attempt to be a gentleman, i would always of course only share segments that would otherwise be considered "generic."

Thank You again for Your kind response.
<i knew i should have gone straight to bed >


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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 11:42:10 PM   
seaturtle50


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Status: offline 		Thank You again AAkasha,

In deference to Your opinion i have removed those comments.

michael

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RE: Mistress ... Please Tell - 1/25/2006 11:58:25 PM   
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i am very sorry to hear that You feel that way. i do not however agree. As i took care to make certain that there were and are no identifying references in the email, i did not think or feel that i was violating any such implied privacy.

i have not at any time revealed the source of the email, and i do in fact have far more character and integrity than to identify the party on a public board or to pick and choose to "build my own case." In fact there is no case to be made.
I think you're simply taking honesty and desire to please too far in feeling like you need to defend why you thought you two were on the same wavelength.

You said yours, she said hers, it seemed as if you two were seeking the same, but you were not, so you now move on, and you don't have to answer to or explain why you believed to any of us.

P.S. I don't think giving generic pieces of info from email is necessarily bad/lacks class, but it simply is not necessary; sort of the same thinking that goes with a gentleman does not kiss and tell.. M

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