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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I feel sorry for those domly doms who would lose their subs if they ever even BOTTOMED.  

Same here. But I've seen these words on this forum (can't remember by whom or which thread though...) "I would lose all respect for my master if I saw him submitting to someone else.) (note "submitting" may have been meant as bottoming or maybe not, I cannot say for sure.)

1. You may be in a select group and that suitable Dom will be just a little harder to locate than a male sub/slave finds a Dom to collar him.
2. This could be a matter of demographics too. Similarly there are locations and even states where an old fart like me will find it darned near impossible to find a slave of the service orientation. In other areas you may find Doms willing to at least talk to you and see if something out.
   

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ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

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I'm a switch male who's been on this site a while now. I've exchanged e-mails with several sub females and have even met a few of them, however I've yet to get any interest from a dom aside from the professionals looking for a donation. Why do you think this is? Why is it harder for a switch to find a dom play partner?

I haven't read through the replies yet, but I did look at your profile and I think that may have something to do with it.

"On the submissive side, I'm interested in strap-on play, foot fetish, body worship, watersports, face sitting, forced cross-dressing, and general services like brushing your hair or making you tea, etc. I'm NOT into the pain, leather, whips aspect of this lifestyle, so if that's important to you then I'm probably not your guy."

The above reads to me, not like someone who is interested in being submissive (i.e. giving up control to me) but rather someone who is interested in several types of play or fetishes and wants to try just experimenting or have them done to him. For myself, and possibly for other dominant women, this is not appealing. We want someone who doesn't come with a list of things they want done to them but instead a list of things they can do for us. I don't mean that it's all about menial labor disguised as service but I'd pick someone as a submissive any day who simply says "I want to serve and devote myself to a woman and find out what makes her happy and allow her to use me as she sees fit" over someone with a paragraph like you have. If what you're really looking for is some experience on the submissive side, that's my take on it.

Best of luck!

Funny, just recently I saw complaints about subs making the kind of statement suggested above. Dominas wrote that a sub saying he would do whatever a woman wanted was unrealistic, so the profile wasn't credible. The sub had to be either lying or incredibly naive. Others say that pleasing the domme is the only thing a sub should care about. Damned if you do and damned if you don't.

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I see this all the time. Out of all the possible interpretations, the most negative one possible is usually chosen. The profile of the OP could easily be read as one which honestly lists likes and dislikes in the interest of making it easier for dominant women to ascertain compatibility; one that is straightforward instead of nothing but cliches that dommes want to hear.

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A list of interests is what it is. Likes and dislikes. Information for the domme's benefit. Information that a dominant woman can use to determine compatibility, and/or to use to gain influence the sub in ways that she desires. It's prejudicial reading that turns it into a do-me list.

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Well, I didn't actually use the words "I'll do whatever you want"

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Well, I didn't actually use the words "I'll do whatever you want"

I didn't say you used those words. But if you can convince anyone that there's much difference between those and "allow her to use me as she sees fit", I know of a bridge in Brooklyn that I want to sell to them.