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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 11:35:49 AM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		no my point is its like She wants to hold me in a vice grip. Shes not treating me democratically i say something like I ll have to break it off and She treats me like a school boy in the return email. She said No there is a way You will tribute me. i dont like that, i wish She was not so authoritarian and She only started becoming this now
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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 11:36:47 AM   
E2Sweet


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Most times in e-mails and conversations we speak often on many things outside of the bdsm world. Is the pro thinking that if they lead somebody on that way the sub is more likely to pay for a session. I mean if I wanted to meet a pro there are many sites to find a pro-domme. 


I suppose that's a possible scenario, but I've yet to run into this even once in the 6-7 months I've been active on this site.

The best remedy is to add something along the lines of "no pro-dommes" at the top of your profile, and also to mention it in passing very early in private correspondence.


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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 11:48:34 AM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		the worst thing Lynnxz is that She boasts on Her website that even without the tributes from her slaves , She would never not be living in absolute luxury as She is already very wealthy.  Her income is like in the thousands of dollars per month even. and yet She still insists i pay Her even though my income is very much lower, only welfare, thats cruel
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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 11:51:06 AM   
E2Sweet


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I can see from a lot of the discussion here that there may be several lifestyle dommes that are not pros, but many want to be paid for thier time. I don't know if this stems from bad encounters with insincere subs who were simply looking for kniky sex or what, but unfortunately the sincere subs will suffer for the insincere ones. Anyone can become a little jaded over time.


I'm sorry, but in my view, feeling jaded is not a valid reason for wanting to charge people to spend time with you... It's an excuse.


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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 11:52:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

the worst thing Lynnxz is that She boasts on Her website that even without the tributes from her slaves , She would never not be living in absolute luxury as She is already very wealthy.  Her income is like in the thousands of dollars per month even. and yet She still insists i pay Her even though my income is very much lower, only welfare, thats cruel

Again, that's just tragic.  You poor thing. 

If you find the thought of paying her so distasteful, then don't pay.  How hard is that to understand?

~stef


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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 11:55:49 AM   
E2Sweet


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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

the worst thing Lynnxz is that She boasts on Her website that even without the tributes from her slaves , She would never not be living in absolute luxury as She is already very wealthy.  Her income is like in the thousands of dollars per month even. and yet She still insists i pay Her even though my income is very much lower, only welfare, thats cruel
kevin


Dominants don't have to be fair. If you feel she's taking advantage of you inappropriately, then perhaps its time for you to move on... The decision is entirely yours to make.

She would only be cruel if you had no choice other than to pay for her time. You have a choice and therefore are not a victim here as I see it.



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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 11:56:27 AM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		that s what ive done for the past week. She is still pursuing me tho as if She is entitled to my money or has ownership over it
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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 11:59:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

that s what ive done for the past week. She is still pursuing me tho as if She is entitled to my money or has ownership over it
kevin


Kevin...E2Swet said it well....this is your choice.

You are choosing to be on-line. You are choosing to be on-line with her. You are choosing to pay her.

If you don't want to pay her...stop it.




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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 11:59:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

that s what ive done for the past week. She is still pursuing me tho as if She is entitled to my money or has ownership over it
kevin



Find your backbone and tell her to piss off.  It's not that complicated.  Really.

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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 12:00:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

that s what ive done for the past week. She is still pursuing me tho as if She is entitled to my money or has ownership over it

Tell her to fuck off and delete any subsequent email from her without reading it.  Then stop whining about it and move on.

~stef

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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 12:01:44 PM   
E2Sweet


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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

that s what ive done for the past week. She is still pursuing me tho as if She is entitled to my money or has ownership over it
kevin



If she felt she had ownership of your money or was entitled to it, she wouldn't need to pursue you, she'd just take it. She's pursuing you most likely because she assumes you'll cave in and pay her again.

Don't kid yourself, you have all the power here and she has none other than what you allow her.

Edited for spelling.


< Message edited by E2Sweet -- 1/13/2009 12:02:20 PM >

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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 12:03:02 PM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		Are you an adult?  That question comes to me often when I read your posts.

Use the off button, if you're so weak you can't say no on your own -- otherwise, put her email into your spam filters...

this is all really simple, just say no

oh and if you believe everything you read on the internet... e.g., her boasting website... then I have piles of money to err... give you, yes, give , at a very low cost .. I just need your routing numbers first...

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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 12:08:14 PM   
OttersSwim


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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

the worst thing Lynnxz is that She boasts on Her website that even without the tributes from her slaves , She would never not be living in absolute luxury as She is already very wealthy.  Her income is like in the thousands of dollars per month even. and yet She still insists i pay Her even though my income is very much lower, only welfare, thats cruel
kevin



If she is a pro, with a dungeon, then she has overhead that probably measures in the thousands, not to mention investments in tools, toys, clothing, etc.  and she hasn't even made her car payment or put a morsel of food in her mouth yet. 

Just because you are financially challenged, does not mean that anyone owes you anything.  The fact that things have changed from what they were before could mean that she is sending you a message to go away, or that her circumstances have changed so that she can no longer afford free or lower pay for her work.


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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 12:09:14 PM   
BondageBarbieX


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Status: offline 		Tell her to fu*k off...you are not collared by her ,she has no say in anything you do...she is hired help...fire her ass.
And if you are on welfare why on earth are you seeing a Pro anyway...get your priorities in order.

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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 1:30:54 PM   
thishereboi


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ORIGINAL: footslaveinct

I can see from a lot of the discussion here that there may be several lifestyle dommes that are not pros, but many want to be paid for thier time. I don't know if this stems from bad encounters with insincere subs who were simply looking for kniky sex or what, but unfortunately the sincere subs will suffer for the insincere ones. Anyone can become a little jaded over time.


Every Pro I have ever known in real life is also a lifestlye Domme. I know one who did it because she was unemployed and needed an income. I have never discussed it with the others, but from what I know of them, it had nothing to do with bad encounters.

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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 1:34:15 PM   
thishereboi


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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

for me servants are taken for granted misunderstood and exploited by manipulative dommes. dont get me wrong , some servants are silly and allow themselves to be exploited , they consent to it , they want it, but sometimes Mistress goes too far
like a woman ive been talking to recently, she keeps on asking me for money and wont let up, i keep telling her i dont have it, she keeps on saying , there are ways , there are ways, its as if she is trying to devise every conceivable way of getting money out of me, now i know she s kinda pro, but to me thats a bit tough
kevin



Funny, almost all of the submissives I know are very happy with their Mistresses and Masters. Maybe you should find a different group of people to hang out with.

As to the women asking for money....Have you ever met her in real life? If not, block her and move on. Better yet, find some groups in your area and meet some people off the computer.

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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 1:40:15 PM   
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lobodomslavery wrote:
no my point is its like She wants to hold me in a vice grip. Shes not treating me democratically i say something like I ll have to break it off and She treats me like a school boy in the return email. She said No there is a way You will tribute me. i dont like that, i wish She was not so authoritarian and She only started becoming this now

Dude, put the Domme down.  Step away from the Domme.

Why are you paying, against your wishes, for something that you do not want?  She's a Domme, not the taxman.  Whatever the two of you had together seems to be over.

beeble.


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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 1:43:42 PM   
thishereboi


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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

that s what ive done for the past week. She is still pursuing me tho as if She is entitled to my money or has ownership over it
kevin



Tell ya what kevin, you tell her you are now under consideration to someone else and she doesn't allow you to send money to other Dommes. If she has a problem with this, she can write me and I will tell her where to bite it. The you can save your money and hopefully learn a lesson about just saying no to internet scams.

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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 2:06:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

no my point is its like She wants to hold me in a vice grip. Shes not treating me democratically i say something like I ll have to break it off and She treats me like a school boy in the return email. She said No there is a way You will tribute me. i dont like that, i wish She was not so authoritarian and She only started becoming this now
kevin



Want some cheese to go with that whine?  Block her email and IMs.  Or, pay her and shut up. 


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RE: Pro-dommes - 1/13/2009 3:15:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: GrizzlyBear

quote:

ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

no my point is its like She wants to hold me in a vice grip. Shes not treating me democratically i say something like I ll have to break it off and She treats me like a school boy in the return email. She said No there is a way You will tribute me. i dont like that, i wish She was not so authoritarian and She only started becoming this now
kevin



Want some cheese to go with that whine?  Block her email and IMs.  Or, pay her and shut up. 



seriously is he just playing the martyr? or maybe just trying to give pros a bad name? we thing a and b together.

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